From my own experience, social skills, social awareness is what pulls girls.
-Big difference between an 18 year old guy, who lives in a screen based life (whether video games, tv, internet), with little to no outside social world or social awareness..
-And a 22 or 23 year old guy, who is much more socially aware, with more social cognition. Even if he only has 1 or 2 friends. As long as he's outside more...women pick up on that.
There's a "freshness" that women pick up on. It's more attractive. They intuitively know your social skills/confidence. That's worth more than a line or games if you dont have social skills/confidence.
When I was 18 or 20, I was definitely in the first camp. Say, you meet a girl from instant messenger for a coffee date. You dont really know the outside world very much, you dont have much confidence in the world...let alone a girl.
Like if she suddenly asked you to go to a concert afterwards, you wouldnt know what to do. You wouldn't know how to park, how to go there, you wouldnt have much confidence even buying the tickets. You wouldnt understand the crowd, you just dont have an ease. The fear of the girl is secondary to the fear of the "world".
Before I got into this stuff, I had no idea what I was doing. Would have stuttered, blushed, mind going blank, confusion.
My social skills have gotten vastly improved, and even if you dont have many friends, it doesnt really matter...you're on her level. Shes not attracted to you because of your friends...shes attracted because she finds you attractive.
Middle school, highschool really screws you up. I went to some junk schools. How you recover from bullying, school stress, teachers not caring about you...thats really the difference.
For me, I had to stop thinking there was something "wrong" all the time. Thats a horrible way to interact or meet with women. When I was around more outgoing/socially aware people...nothing was "wrong". Or when you go out to the beach or the mall, everyone is "normal" and theres nothing wrong.
-I think the issue for many guys is they just arent comfortable with the world/with going out by themselves.
I remember in the early 00's (maybe 01 or 02) before I got into this, Madonna was in concert, and I was thinking...man, wouldnt it be cool to take a girl there. But I wouldnt have known what to do. Or what was "Cool". Or, what if I liked a song that my date didnt? Or, what if she danced, and I didnt dance? Or, what if something happens, and we have to leave early. Or, what if there's no parking, and we have to walk 4 blocks. And a million questions. Of, course I never went.
But now, I'd be a million times more comfortable. None of that stuff matters. Shes not there because of your parking. There's not all these obstacles in your way.
