How do I win her back? Long distance relationship

[FuturePlayer101]

There's nothing wrong with wanting a relationship.

It's just that you want a relationship with a girl who lives on the other side of the planet.

I mean, if she were a girl who you had ALREADY dated for years, and she moved away for work or school...okay, sure. Wait and see what happens.

But for a girl you met briefly....nah. Just seems desperate and foolish.

Well... it's true, I do see a potential relationship between me and her, but I need to get to know her more better face-to-face.

I get what you mean, but I think it's more of a case of trying to get what I can't have..

 

[VladPatton]

No girl that is that heavy into computers, let alone online gaming, let alone on the other side of the planet is worth it. I've been there, done that, with various girls in various continents. This is a loose/loose scenarios. Stop thinking about any possibility of a future here. You're basically in love with your imagination of a false relationship painted in your brain. Delete all emails, bookmarks, Skype accounts, whatever you have, and go into the real world and meet a girl you can have a future with.

Good luck.

 

[FuturePlayer101]

This is yet even MORE reason for you to stop contacting her. When you told her you were in the hospital it made her realize that she still cares for you. When you go ghost it'll eventually make her realize she still cares for you and she'll probably reach out to you. This is a likely side effect of you following our advice but in actuality you should do this not to get her back but for your own sanity and self respect. Your efforts are useless at best and counterproductive at worse.

As far as effort is concerned I'm not going to judge another man's relationship that I don't even know but my experience, several members of this board and pretty much anyone who's good with women, and basic human psychology says otherwise. The man who makes less effort than the female will ALWAYS be more attractive than the dude who breaks his neck to win a chick over.

Hmmm, the only problem with going ghost is:
1. She'll think I don't give a sh*t about what I did
2. She has way too many new people to chat to (gaming buddies) so I don't know whether me going ghost would make a huge difference to her.

But regardless, from tonight, I'm going ghost, I wanna see how much it affects her & what she does (if anything)..

I agree with the human psychology thing that to have success with women, the guy should make less effort but it's not ALWAYS true.

Lol and once again you prove our point. You're attracted to her because she's a challenge. She's not talking to you, she's ignoring you, the exact same damn things we're telling you to do to her. Men always come here asking for advice only to go and do their own thing. Oh well..some can only learn the hard way. Keep us updated and good luck..you'll need it.

I am taking on the advice on here as I am gonna go ghost starting tonight but I made a little effort first - know why, so she knows I care. Now I'm gonna back off & go cold.. Is that not a good idea? Or you think I've shot myself in the foot by making a bit of effort before I go cold?

Yep, I need all the luck, prayers and best wishes lol. Cheers man.

 

[FuturePlayer101]

No girl that is that heavy into computers, let alone online gaming, let alone on the other side of the planet is worth it. I've been there, done that, with various girls in various continents. This is a loose/loose scenarios. Stop thinking about any possibility of a future here. You're basically in love with your imagination of a false relationship painted in your brain. Delete all emails, bookmarks, Skype accounts, whatever you have, and go into the real world and meet a girl you can have a future with.

Good luck.

She's into gaming and computers etc because she doesn't have many friends in her city.. I can't blame her for her hobbies..

I ain't in love with my "imagination of a false relationship" but I'm starting to finally see reality that it probably won't work out.

I have met girls here, dated and banged but I can't shake what I feel for her, it's different.

I'm going cold to heal up from now... and to see if she cares enough to contact me.. Whether I reply to her or not, I'll see if the situation comes up.

 

[Jaylan]

Thanks for NOT reading my post then lol.

I KNOW I am the prize. She knows it too otherwise she would've told me to f*ck off as soon as she found out I was on her forum. But she knows my worth so she's still into me but pissed off.

Tbh, I prefer a relationship to gaming loads of girls, done both & I'm more of a relationship kinda person. You know, being with a girl you care for, who cares for you, rather than treating each other like a piece of meat.. That's just me mate..

You arent listening OP.

LDR in a different country? This is a failure. Move on.

 

[Driggs]

The earlier you go NC, the earlier you remove the factors that are giving her cold feet. You can contact her in a couple of months if you still feel like it at that point, but by then you will realize the futility of it all.