How Do I turn my ex into a FB

[FreD_BeaR]

Basically, we took a break. I initiated no contact with her for almost 2 weeks. After not talking for 5 days she texts me. I eventually get around to responding, then a few min later she dosnt respond for like 5 hours, so im like **** it. When she responds back I tell her im busy partyin out of town. (not in those words of course)

I end up seeing her at the bar the next night. I was walkin past and she ran over and hugged me, we chatted for a bit, she kept telling me how glad she was to see me etc. she seemed happy and things were goin pretty good. This bull****, leadin me on even though she said she did not want to lead me on.

To keep this short, she texts me next day n i respond later. eventuallyshe asks me "do you know who we are". it makes no sense, she asks me again. So I just say yeah i do, lets get back together. N i call her out on why she wanted to slow down. She says she dosnt know if shes ready to commit to a relatiionship or me.

Thats all i wanted to hear. So i can stop being emotionally invested. I dont want to be with someone who dosnt want me. We had time to think. and she made her choice. It dosnt mean she dosnt like me, just not enough like she used to.

i called her out on her making things more serious and then getting scared of what she wanted. I said the break was for the better, but things got overly complicated,and im busy and dont have time to play her games. It was fun while it lasted, no hard feelings im over it. but itd be a shame to throw the friendship away. She agreed. ( i know your sayin AFC)

I dont ever like ending things on a bad note with anyone im close with. That dosnt mean i want to be her 'friend'. Shes cool and fun to be around and we have a lot in common, but Im not looking for a friend.

So my question, how I do i go about turning this ex of mine into a Fvck Buddy? We had some great sex, and she said shes never been more turned on by someone. Gonna be honest, shes hot, im hot, and i want to keep doing her like before when we both werent really emotionally invested.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Turning her into a FB after a relationship will only work if you are the one in charge of the interactions. If you dictate, on your terms. The one who breaks it off, or who is least interested in the relationship, is usually the one who is in control and in charge of dictating. The one who tries to cling on and hold onto the relationship the most, will be the one who is at the mercy of the other.

Seems like she's in charge and she broke it off and you were/are more into her than vice versa. The fact that she wants to be broken off means that she's looking to upgrade or is already interested in someone else. You are not in the ideal situation to dictate terms at this moment.

Your only hope is that you are indeed the best laid she's ever had. But this won't happen if you are meeting her at non-sexual places, and are bringing up you two getting back together, etc. You need to make sure the only places you two see eachother is at your place or her place, alone, in an intimate setting. That way in her head she can rationalize/justify being sexual with you by telling herself, "At least he's the best sex I can find."

If you are providing and fulfilling her "emotional" needs, without the sex, you are just becoming a "Friend", and with "No benefits". She gets what she wants from you, without having to have sex with you. You are making it very easy for you two to not be in a relationship, not be sexual with eachother, and still putting you on the backburner and using you as backup, as you two are still "friends".

I suggest you tell her you are moving on, and if she wants to see you or if there is to be a moment of weakness from either of you, it needs to be in a place condusive for sex to happen.

If she doesn't agree to that or refuses to see you alone at a place where you can sex her, you must cut your ties. You have to pick, either you are "friends" or you are sex partners. Can't have it both ways. She's already told you, through her actions, what she has picked, therefor right now you find yourself in the "friends with NO benefits" category, and that will be until she tells you she can no longer see you due to somebody she's already seeing.

 

[FreD_BeaR]

I wont be fulfilling ANY emotional needs. Ive been thinking of just cutting off contact, and seeing what happens, not to mention just to move on. I dont have time for her bull**** right now and am not a 'backup'. I dont work like that and although it is unfortunate and it sucks she has chosen what she has, I am moving on. This dosnt mean I dont want to bang casually though, back like we were at the start when life was great. Getting the best of both worlds. I didnt want to leave things on a bad note and probably shouldnt have said what i did, but oh well. So would you say ignoring her is my best bet or what? thanks

 

[Gangster Of Love]

I wont be fulfilling ANY emotional needs. Ive been thinking of just cutting off contact, and seeing what happens, not to mention just to move on. I dont have time for her bull**** right now and am not a 'backup'. I dont work like that and although it is unfortunate and it sucks she has chosen what she has, I am moving on. This dosnt mean I dont want to bang casually though, back like we were at the start when life was great. Getting the best of both worlds. I didnt want to leave things on a bad note and probably shouldnt have said what i did, but oh well. So would you say ignoring her is my best bet or what? thanks

Your best and only bet is to to have minimal contact and any meeting, talking or seeing of eachother needs to be a the location of sex, and escalate there. No phone support, no doing what platonic friends do. She tells you she wants to see you, you tell her to go to your place. Period, end of story.