How do I set up the first date

[spesmilitis]

Should I mention the word date? How about the term 'go out'? What about the term 'hang out'? 'get together'?

Some terms are more indicative of a date than others. However, I feel words that are very indicative, like 'date', would put a lot of pressure on the girl. Other terms like 'hang out' would make a girl at ease, but then she might assume we were just hanging out, as friends, especially if you guys are already friends, sorta.

How do ask girls out who:

-you met only once, got the number, then the next time you talk is when you call her back. I think weaker phrases like, 'hang out' would be ok, cuz if you guys dont know each other at all, she should know that you're definatly don't want to be only 'friends' with a stanger.

-met a few times, are aquinted, and maybe even have some friends in common. But you guys don't know each other so well that you guys are in the friendzone. I think in this situation, weak phrases like 'hang out' should be avoided, so the girl knows what you're thinking.

Discuss. Give me some examples.

 

[Bunk 040]

Just ask her if she wants to go hang out somewhere sometime.

 

[92 GSR-4]

:kick:

 

[x0054]

Don’t forget a whip and a gag, unless you have a sound proof trunk.

 

[spesmilitis]

ok i get the hint, lol. im overanalyzing this way too much.

 

[x0054]

No dude, you aint. To be honest, I am just looking around on this board, a buddy of mine introduced this thing to me.

Any way, dude. Invite the female to a movie, take her to dinner after, and see what happens. ****, it aint that hard. Black Dahlia just came out, go see that. It was a really ****ty book, but the movie trailer looks ok.

Any way, I am bit amazed by the existence of this site. First and foremost, remember, most girls love and need ****, even lesbians, they just prefer the rubber kind. And presumably you got one, so use it.

 

[LegendBoy]

I tried the " Lets meet up tomorow" and it got me " I can't"

 

[spesmilitis]

yeah dude. Im the happiest i've ever been in my life, and I owe to sosuave.

I tried the " Lets meet up tomorow" and it got me " I can't"

Tommarow is kinda sudden, for me atleast. Giver a few days. I was about to advise you to give the option of more than one day, but it occured to me, if she's busy that day but she's into you, she'll give a counter offer.

My favorite tip I learned here is to always assume that they're 'into' you. Not just girls, but people in general. You don't need to do anything to win them over or prove yourself to them.

 

[blinkwatt]

I just did this. "Choose Friday or Saturday." They should follow up with "Wait what?",then you respond with "Yeah I'm being nice and letting you choose which day you are going to let me sweep you off your feet."

 

[trance_addict]

No dude, you aint. To be honest, I am just looking around on this board, a buddy of mine introduced this thing to me.

Any way, dude. Invite the female to a movie, take her to dinner after, and see what happens. ****, it aint that hard. Black Dahlia just came out, go see that. It was a really ****ty book, but the movie trailer looks ok.

Any way, I am bit amazed by the existence of this site. First and foremost, remember, most girls love and need ****, even lesbians, they just prefer the rubber kind. And presumably you got one, so use it.

First date, DONT TAKE HER TO THE EFFING MOVIES! This is covered over and over again all over sosuave.com, and it's pretty obvious why.

A.) Predictable. Everyone goes on their first date to the movies.

B.) Boring, and unstimulating. Your not going to make this girl think about you on a sexual level, if she knows nothing about you. We all know that you can't talk in movies, so how the hell do you get to know someone if you can't talk to them?

Dinner dates can be OKAY, but they are also very predictable and generic, not to mention (often) ackward. Eating with someone you dont know can be uncomfortable for some people. Also, dinner dates don't open up very many opportunities for any sort of "kino" and touching, which is obviously a very important thing.

However, dinner-dates in combination with other activities are an exception. But don't make this the first thing you do on the date, for the above reasons. Make food an option when you feel like looking spontaneous, or you feel like the date should go on longer.

Go bowling, play mini golf, take her to a concert, wander around downtown (if you have one), do something stimulating, yet social.