How do i regain the power?

[PhaorahofBadass]

I'll start from the beginning, I met this woman(we'll call her Cassie) at work I saw her, we became friends and nothing else for awhile because. ... she had a boyfriend. Who was a complete **** times 1000 I mean the dude would send horrible texts, cheated on her, disrespected, played mind games I mean all of it. So I'm the guy friend who's there for her just as a friend, but I could always feel an underlying liking that was mutual between the two of us.

Now fast forward to when they broke up for good or so I thought, I was there with her that night while she cried I had her told her I'd be there. She ends up going to hook up with this guy after the break up, and comes to my apartment the next day knowing how I feel about her. We hook up for the first time but I didn't find out about it until a month later. It wad heartbreaking to say the least. Now during this couple months right after the break up I try and make her mine without giving her time to heal which was my fault I admit. I came on strong it pushed her away so be it.

We ultimately cut off contact for a good 2 months. During which Cassie goes and gets back together with her ex again. I heard the news again I'm heart broken I tried my best to be so good to her and show her what love is but she just used me to get sex and I guess have some one there to cover up the feelings from her recent break up. Now during that span before she got back with her ex she was really rude, and hurtful. Wouldn't hold anything back and didn't treat me well at all. It really broke me a bit. Anyways back to the plot Cassie's back with her ex now and eventually they stop talking again he treats her bad like always guess who she comes back to? Me. I fell for it to say the least and at first it was good but then it went sour again once she started acting rude and cold hearted again.

So again we stopped talking. This time it was about a month which leads me to know we're back at square one and its starting to go sour again after we've been talking for about 2 months she rude, says I'm smothering her, acts cold, flirts with guys and just does what she wants without any regard to how I feel. I've really tried to be good to her but i'm about done now, when we fight she says things like "why should I let anybody love me" or "you've always cared about me more then I've cared about you". I've told her if I wasn't what she wanted then we can just cut it off. She doesn't want to kiss, have sec or much less touch me and I'm starting to think the only reason I'm still around is because she'd be alone if I wasn't there. What should I do? Oh and I forgot to mention during all of this we've never dated only "seeing each other" so no real commitment.

I know i need to leave but all i really want to do is regain the power, get my nuts back and leave for good i want her to feel like i felt, that hopeless pain i just don't know how to do it.

 

[n52]

Sorry bro, you are literally the definition of an emotional tampon for this girl. You will never get the power back in this 'relationship' it was doomed from the beginning by being too available and being at her beck and call.

My personal advice would be to forget about her, seriously. You need to start fresh with someone else and learn what you did wrong here.

 

[iamnobody]

I came on strong it pushed her away so be it. It pushed her away

No, man, you being eager and clingy did that for you. Assume responsability, don’t brush mistakes off.

I tried my best to be so good to her and show her what love is

DOn't be good to her. To have any success with that type of chick you should’ve been 10 times the arsehole her ex was. Seems too late now, move on to the next. She seems to be low quality chick anyway. Choose better next time.

 

[TheException]

I know i need to leave but all i really want to do is regain the power, get my nuts back and leave for good i want her to feel like i felt, that hopeless pain i just don't know how to do it.

This is what we call "butthurt". Its pathetic and will only hinder your growth. Get over this girl and these types of thoughts or forever be stuck "in this type of feeling". Now onto your post.

Your story is an absolute brutal one to even read.....yet one of the most common. The majority of guys think like you. If you treat her good, be there for her, listen to her problems, comfort her....then she will eventually love you back the same way and date you. Now...reality has just taught you different and you should actually be thankful, because wherever there is a "nice guy" being a best friend to a girl.....shes sleeping with someone else that isnt him. So below Ill list out 3 main problems you have and what I would work on. If you dont know where to find the information just ask:

1.)You need a new mindset - Prize Mentality Mindset
2.)Lack of options - Spinning Plates
3.)Avoiding the emotional tampon/best friend/ friends first role.

 

[Johnny Alias]

This is what we call "butthurt". Its pathetic and will only hinder your growth. Get over this girl and these types of thoughts or forever be stuck "in this type of feeling". Now onto your post.

Your story is an absolute brutal one to even read.....yet one of the most common. The majority of guys think like you. If you treat her good, be there for her, listen to her problems, comfort her....then she will eventually love you back the same way and date you. Now...reality has just taught you different and you should actually be thankful, because wherever there is a "nice guy" being a best friend to a girl.....shes sleeping with someone else that isnt him. So below Ill list out 3 main problems you have and what I would work on. If you dont know where to find the information just ask:

1.)You need a new mindset - Prize Mentality Mindset
2.)Lack of options - Spinning Plates
3.)Avoiding the emotional tampon/best friend/ friends first role.

This just got repped. Very diplomatic instructions.

 

[Dgwizdal]

You are a HUGE AFC and my eyes are bleeding from reading this. You are clueless - don't worry, most men are - however this is a great catalyst for you to open your eyes.

Read the DJ Bible - Book of Pook - and Brad80's DJ Guide. Bounce around this site and you will see the major flaw in your ways.

 

[El Payaso]

How old are you?

 

[PhaorahofBadass]

You are a HUGE AFC and my eyes are bleeding from reading this. You are clueless - don't worry, most men are - however this is a great catalyst for you to open your eyes.

Read the DJ Bible - Book of Pook - and Brad80's DJ Guide. Bounce around this site and you will see the major flaw in your ways.

could you link these?

 

[Dgwizdal]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=197705

http://www.mts.net/~bpony/djbible/

http://www.djbible.classicalgasemissions.com/book_of_pook.pdf

Antidump machine is good too - go to the don juan tips section - youll find everything you need. Good luck

 

[NewToTheGame]

Most of us have been in similar situations before. Its why we are here. And this kind of thing sucks. It will rip you apart inside.

The positive thing is, this is the first step towards getting what you want from women for the rest of your life. Seriously. If you aren't a 100% natural, I think everyone has to go through something like this.

Cut the cord. Go NC. (Hopefully you don't work together still) You have to do this for your own sanity. Do not fantasize about getting even with her. Do not wonder about a potential relationship or reconciliation in the future. She has treated you like crap. She does not deserve you. She has used you as a tool to validate her attractiveness and ego. SHE IS NOT YOUR FRIEND! For now focus on getting her completely out of your life. Don't bother trying to explain it to her. You will only make yourself feel worse.

Don't think about the mistakes you made. Not yet. Just focus on getting away from her. Go to the gym, hang out with positive people, spiff up your wardrobe, get a tan, get a haircut, etc. After a little time, read the DJ Bible to understand where you went wrong. Everything you need to know about this particular situation is in there. Good luck.