I'm in a pickle. I found out a few days ago a co-worker(and the daughter of my boss) has a serious thing for me. At the time I was flattered and a little uncomfortable. I suppose it's my own fault. I flirted with all of the women I work with(innocently). It was basically an exercise of wit. Since then, the situation has been weighing on me. Apparently most of the other employees know about the crush. It's been brewing for over a month. I've already told a female and some of the men that I absolutely won't date a co-worker. Women don't care what you say; they feed on drama.
Today I dodged a bullet. A few of my co-workers are going out tomorrow night(including my admirer) and I was invited. It would have been two couples already dating and *her* and I. I smelled the setup before they finished asking me. It allowed me the time to concoct a good excuse. They weren't happy, but I'm not fvcking stupid! I'm still irritated over that.
Tonight I got a friend request on my jackass myspace(should have deleted my profile long ago). Her. Sh*t. Her profile pic isn't even a good one. Actually, it's flippin' terrible. I won't even get any social proof from having her on there. I didn't except yet, but I have to.
And hell, I wouldn't mind hanging out with her as friends. She has a cool personality; but no more than friends!
Now I feel things might escalate. I don't know if she will ask me out directly or not. The whole thing pisses me off. It's a small company(less than 15 employees). I just want to go to work, get paid and go home. I'm seeing a horrible whirlpool of drama forming in front of me and I intend to get away from it as quickly as possible. I need to nip this in the butt.
I need the wisdom of the members here. I thought of telling her the problems of dating co-workers, but that's a logical argument. It won't satisfy a woman and might just make her bitter. I might tell her I'm not over my ex, blah, blah. It's a lie, but she might accept it better as it is more of an emotional argument. I don't want to LJBF her outrightly, because that too could make work awkward.
If she approaches me, in person or email, how in the hell do I let her down without hard feelings?
Today I dodged a bullet. A few of my co-workers are going out tomorrow night(including my admirer) and I was invited. It would have been two couples already dating and *her* and I. I smelled the setup before they finished asking me. It allowed me the time to concoct a good excuse. They weren't happy, but I'm not fvcking stupid! I'm still irritated over that.
Tonight I got a friend request on my jackass myspace(should have deleted my profile long ago). Her. Sh*t. Her profile pic isn't even a good one. Actually, it's flippin' terrible. I won't even get any social proof from having her on there. I didn't except yet, but I have to.
And hell, I wouldn't mind hanging out with her as friends. She has a cool personality; but no more than friends!
Now I feel things might escalate. I don't know if she will ask me out directly or not. The whole thing pisses me off. It's a small company(less than 15 employees). I just want to go to work, get paid and go home. I'm seeing a horrible whirlpool of drama forming in front of me and I intend to get away from it as quickly as possible. I need to nip this in the butt.
I need the wisdom of the members here. I thought of telling her the problems of dating co-workers, but that's a logical argument. It won't satisfy a woman and might just make her bitter. I might tell her I'm not over my ex, blah, blah. It's a lie, but she might accept it better as it is more of an emotional argument. I don't want to LJBF her outrightly, because that too could make work awkward.
If she approaches me, in person or email, how in the hell do I let her down without hard feelings?
