How do I play these cards?

[GrowingPains]

Aight I've been in my head about this one, so if you fellas can bring me back down to earth that'd be sick.

Met two girls at a party Saturday. Had very overt convo with one of them (HB A). Had a good conversation with the other (Thick Chick), saw her this morning as I was walking with another girl I was meeting.

There's another girl (HB B) I went on a date with like 2 weeks ago, went back to my place and hooked up. She wasn't available the next weekend, saw her in the dining hall a couple times and invited her to sit with me but she was busy both times. Saw her yesterday and just said hi. Want to keep the attraction between us but I don't want to keep being available to her over and over.

I don't want to be too available to any of these girls and I'm not trying to come off desperate. I do have options, I've mentioned 3 of them here, but I am excited about exploring these options. I've been thinking about when to text though.

My boy AMS says wait a week, let her wonder where you're at and think you're on other dates and couldn't get to her yet. I've also read to just text when I want to.. I also know it doesn't really matter when you text; if she's into you, she's into you. But I feel like I'm acting desperate and need to cool it.

I think I'll text the two I met Saturday something relevant to our convo's "Hey, send me that pic we took at the party Saturday" (HB A, I'll send it in a couple days) and "When's the next live performance you're organizing? Gotta start getting my vocals right" (Thick Chick, today). I think sending the latter message is a good idea, especially since she saw me with another girl today. And as for HB B, I'll text her tomorrow inviting her out.

Thoughts? I'm excited about having these options but I'm trying to walk the fine line between excited and desperate. Lmk if I'm being silly.

The pic with HB A is her laying across my lap and 2 other girls sitting at my side with my arms around them. Fun tidbit.

 

[backseatjuan]

He has some good advice, but you have to keep in mind you are not AMS, neither with game nor with looks, me neither. I always take other's advice with grain of salt and adjust it for myself. Personally I'd text HB B today, and HB A today. Check out this line, I use it after a good conversation and when I'm feeling the connection.

Let’s skip the week of chatting before a date and go straight to the part where we do shots, become best friends and make everyone jealous of us..? Let me know which days you are free?

HB A might want to bring her CB with her though, tell her you'd take her on a different date, all by herself some other time.

 

[Chi Town]

To show interest without seeming desperate means you just reach out every once in a while......

 

[BJP1991]

Reaching out once per week is usually just fine. I agree with backseat, in that none of us are really AMS, but his advice is useful and to be taken into context/with a grain of salt, just like all the other coaches out there.

Also, keep in mind, AMS is not who you'd want to follow for a relationship. He even says this in a few videos: "You want to take relationship advice from that dude? The dude sayin 'we **** these h**s to sleep?'" - makes me crack up everytime

 

[GrowingPains]

Reaching out once per week is usually just fine. I agree with backseat, in that none of us are really AMS, but his advice is useful and to be taken into context/with a grain of salt, just like all the other coaches out there.

Also, keep in mind, AMS is not who you'd want to follow for a relationship. He even says this in a few videos: "You want to take relationship advice from that dude? The dude sayin 'we **** these h**s to sleep?'" - makes me crack up everytime

I hear ya.

We're certainly not looking for relationships (LTR's). Just plates.

@backseatjuan what's a CB?

 

[Ranger]

AMS???

 

[GrowingPains]

AMS???

Alpha Male Strategies on YouTube.

 

[marmel75]

Honestly at the end of the day worrying about when to text, how often to text, etc is not where you want to be.

The bottom line is of you are desperate it doesnt matter how often you text, you will come off as desperate. If you are not desperate then it doesn't matter how often you text you won't sound desperate.

So the key is not to try and worry about how often or when to text, the real key is to figure out why you are coming off as desperate in your interactions if you claim you are not.
Because other than that it is irrelevant how often or when you text.

 

[Trump]

My boy AMS says wait a week, let her wonder where you're at and think you're on other dates and couldn't get to her yet.

Your boy is an idiot. Just get other dates or do something else. But don’t not call her because it may raise interest level.

I've also read to just text when I want to.. I also know it doesn't really matter when you text; if she's into you, she's into you.

No; you have to have a reason to text. Keep it short and to the point.

I think I'll text the two I met Saturday something relevant to our convo's "Hey, send me that pic we took at the party Saturday" (HB A, I'll send it in a couple days)

The point of text is to get her in person so you can put your tongue down her throat. Set up a meeting with HB A. ‘I like to see you. Can you join me for lunch on Saturday? I wouldn’t text for feeling, emotion or sympathy.

and "When's the next live performance you're organizing? Gotta start getting my vocals right" (Thick Chick, today).

The point of text is to get her in person so you can put your tongue down her throat. Set up a meeting with HB B “I like to see you. Can you join me for lunch on Saturday? I wouldn’t text for feeling, emotion or sympathy.

I think sending the latter message is a good idea, especially since she saw me with another girl today. And as for HB B, I'll text her tomorrow inviting her out.

Thoughts?

I don’t know bro, it seems like you are trying to use pick up tactics to bring up interest level. Have a the goal in mind to sleep with these girls and go from there.

 

[GrowingPains]

Your boy is an idiot. Just get other dates or do something else. But don’t not call her because it may raise interest level.



No; you have to have a reason to text. Keep it short and to the point.



The point of text is to get her in person so you can put your tongue down her throat. Set up a meeting with HB A. ‘I like to see you. Can you join me for lunch on Saturday? I wouldn’t text for feeling, emotion or sympathy.



The point of text is to get her in person so you can put your tongue down her throat. Set up a meeting with HB B “I like to see you. Can you join me for lunch on Saturday? I wouldn’t text for feeling, emotion or sympathy.



I don’t know bro, it seems like you are trying to use pick up tactics to bring up interest level. Have a the goal in mind to sleep with these girls and go from there.

After today, I realize that I lost when I started putting too much thought into it.

My text game isn't good at all so I'll have to stick to texting purely for setting up the date. If they wanna meet, they wanna meet. No more trying to raise their interest through text.

 

[backseatjuan]

Cb is your hb's fat friend, she's a **** block. You don't have dates with **** blocks present. In all honesty you don't need no freaking text game, you type up hi and how are you's, maybe ask her some questions and answer yours, no smiles, keep response intervals proper depending on your perceived interest level in you, AMS has excellent advice on text and phone game, Andrew Ryan is another dude on youtube to check out. Then you find out how she really feels about going out with you, I gave you a suggestion of how it might look like. It should be a solid yes, if anything else, you will see on your lock screen the message, you just set your phone aside and pick it up in couple of hours, read the message and don't answer it, I mean we are talking about whatsapp where they can see when you was last on and if message is read, go ahead and set your privacy settings to the most public. Looking at her privacy settings, you will also know how often she dates and gives her phone number, if her last online time don't show, her pic don't show, her status don't show, that means often, she could have plenty of plates. So if it is a yes, she told you she is free so and so, you pick a date and tell her you'll message her time and place on that date. Don't wait till it's noon tho, 10 am sounds good. After she agrees to the date buzz off, I usually message you have a nice evening, and the next day you have a nice launch or something to that sort. Now just because you got a date don't mean she will show up, if she sh1t tests you like that, play it properly. A lot of dudes say wait a week no more after a flake before you hit her up, otherwise it could be too late, I took that advice, yes it works, but still I think one week is too early, I'd go with AMS and make it two weeks. Anyway, do text them up, today is Wednesday, you don't want to be texting them on Friday they're not that interested in you to change their plans like that.