How do I outgame an experienced player? HELP!

[s m0ney]

Let me start with some background here...

So basically I have this thing for this girl(we'll call her K), I can tell she's feeling me... she just broke up with her BF and is now newly single. We hung out last weekend, and she said we should hang out more often.. she shows me a lot of attention and we talk quite a bit. So basically things were going great until a guy moved in on her also... The gay thing is.. she was gonna go with her BF to prom, however not anymore.. and the guy (we'll call him M) moved it. He asked her to prom, and she is going with him so the BF isnt in the picture any longer.

So M and K are now going to prom, it's pretty obvious he's attracted to her, I also know that he's a player. So with them going to prom means Dinner.. hanging out at prom.. then afterwards at her house.. he'll probably spend the night.. she's having a few people over and invited me to go along also. Should I go, or not?

So what i'm afriad of.. is that she'll be swallowed into his game and they will end up hooking up and possibly more, with prom being a gate way for that occurance.

I would have asked her to prom, but I already have a date, and prom is next fri.. so I would be a huge ass if I called it off with my date.

So K and I are going to the movies tom night.. a double date with another couple, and possibly doing something this weekend.. I dunno.

My Q is, what can to outgame M, and make sure she doesnt fall for him without being a complete AFC?

This guy is pretty tough competition, he's good.

1 small prob I have, that I need to change.. is I feel intimidated by her friends, so I wount talk to her as much when she's around them..at school.

That's gonna change tomorrow though.

This means a lot to me guys, and if you have any advice can it be more than be more mysterious or stuff like that.

Thanks a lot.

 

[xblitz44x]

1) If she likes him, she's going to hook up with him. You can't "outgame" him from that. The more you try, the more you're going to become transparent and she's going to see right through you. You'll come across as desperate and the entire thing will backfire. Allow her to do what she wants with him.

2) Stop concentrating on the guy. She said she wants to hang out with you, and you have a double date with her. Work on connecting with her. Establish some rapport, talk about the things you have in common, relax and have a good time.

Don't call it off with your date. Go to prom and have a GREAT time. You have one or two proms in your entire LIFE. There will be a hundred girls. After prom, you can hang out with her. Both you and M will be there but just play it cool. She won't be "swallowed in" by his "game". If she ends up with him it's because SHE chose to and she gets some sort of gratification with him that she doesn't get with you.

-Blitz

 

[s m0ney]

thanks man.. that helps.. i guess if it's meant to be it'll happen.

 

[The Bartender]

Originally posted by s m0ney
i guess if it's meant to be it'll happen.

Stop. Slap yourself right now! That is the most AFC thing you could have responded with. Fate is for the ***** a$$ guys that never get laid because they rely on a false sense of getting some from it. Fate is a four letter word, so it nuts. Use the latter.

 

[s m0ney]

i slapped.

 

[CLOONEY]

Originally posted by xblitz44x
1) If she likes him, she's going to hook up with him. You can't "outgame" him from that. The more you try, the more you're going to become transparent and she's going to see right through you. You'll come across as desperate and the entire thing will backfire. Allow her to do what she wants with him.

2) Stop concentrating on the guy. She said she wants to hang out with you, and you have a double date with her. Work on connecting with her. Establish some rapport, talk about the things you have in common, relax and have a good time.

Don't call it off with your date. Go to prom and have a GREAT time. You have one or two proms in your entire LIFE. There will be a hundred girls. After prom, you can hang out with her. Both you and M will be there but just play it cool. She won't be "swallowed in" by his "game". If she ends up with him it's because SHE chose to and she gets some sort of gratification with him that she doesn't get with you.

-Blitz

Once again, some solid, solid advice from Blitz!