how do i keep a girl interested after first date?

[eastside562]

Went on a date and had an amazing time. Date lasted 4 hours with me calling it a night. I managed to kiss her on the cheeck and she text me back 2 hours after to say she had a great time. Im afraid of having her loose interest so i am careful on how much i text her and i am always the one to end conversations and look busy. We schedualed a second date this upcooming week. We got as far as talking about meeting each other parents. Been 4 days since i had any communicatiom with her and when i do she replies really quick or appologize when she replies late.

Now im not trying to mess this up but i am also trying to maintain her interest and im also dating other girls along with a friend with benefit. But at some point i want her to be my gf.

 

[El Payaso]

You don't.

You've asked her out on the second date and she's accepted. That's all the interest you need. Now drop that phone and go watch paint dry out something.

P.S. If you're already insecure at this level, it will drive you to engage in some really massive AFC behavior down the line.

 

[RagingBalls]

You don't.

Now drop that phone and go watch paint dry out something.

EPIC.

 

[Tictac]

Read up on push-pull.

Keep it light.

 

[Maximus Rex]

You Better Hope You Didn't Screw This Up

Went on a date and had an amazing time.

Date lasted 4 hours with me calling it a night.

:nono: Three hours too long dude. You have to understand that when you're on a date with a chick, she's making judgments and evaluations about you. She's considering things such as are you polite, do you enjoy her company, what kind of man you are, (or will be,) and of course can she picture herself having sex with or being in a relationship with you.

Now Rex has said this to say this, (and I'm telling you this from experience,) the more time you spend with a chick, (without flipping the right attraction switches,) the more likely you are to say or do something to turn her off. Yes, you went on a four hour date., Yes, you kissed her on the on the cheek, and yes she texted her back saying she had a good time, but you have to put it in perspective. She was coming off of the high of the good emotions that you gave her, the question is, is she still feeling those initially good feelings that you left her with after the date.

Im afraid of having her loose interest

http://www.stoplosingwomen.com/page/6/

Episode 96: Stop Being Afraid She’ll Forget You

Rephrase that, you lack confidence in you game. If you applied your game correctly you won't have these worries.

so i am careful on how much i text

Dude, stop with the texting and call her when you want to arrange a date.

We schedualed a second date this upcooming week.

When is this date?

We got as far as talking about meeting each other parents.

Don't introduce her to your parents until you've been in a relationship with her for six months.

Been 4 days since i had any communicatiom with her and when i do she replies really quick or appologize when she replies late.

Now im not trying to mess this up but i am also trying to maintain her interest

Why are you giving this chick priority? The more you stress over it, the more likely you are to make a mistake.

im also dating other girls along with a friend with benefit.

:rockon:

But at some point i want her to be my gf.

How does making this chick your girlfriend improve your quality of life?

How does making this chick your girlfriend benefit you?

And how making this chick your girlfriend factor into your long term goals.

 

[eastside562]

i hope i dont too

The date is this weds, im dodging with the meetin my parent part. Im only giving her the upper hand becuase she is crazy hot and indepedent and loves nearby. She been simgle for 5 years by choice she is ready to settle down and i came in at the right time. She has a bright future ahead of her and would benefit me becuase im poor compared to her.ima take your advice of no contact till date. Im trying not to mess this up.

 

[GotED?]

She should have already established High Level of Interest in you prior to you asking for ANY date (thus why she accepted the date).

You will find out if this is IN FACT TRUE (instead of just her being bored and needing AWing) - if she does not flake and you succeed in completing the date in the end.

This is why it is crucial to have your game at 100% from the start and build the foundation correctly from the beginning.

As ElPayaso said, and others have quoted - give her the gift of missing you. This is also called getting her hamster brain spinning by your temporary NC (she'll be more insecure than you are, wondering if you are still interested in her and dying to see you more in the end - IF SHE HAS HIGH INTEREST LEVEL).

Exodus

 

[Purefilth]

:nono: Three hours too long dude. You have to understand that when you're on a date with a chick, she's making judgments and evaluations about you. She's considering things such as are you polite, do you enjoy her company, what kind of man you are, (or will be,) and of course can she picture herself having sex with or being in a relationship with you.

Now Rex has said this to say this, (and I'm telling you this from experience,) the more time you spend with a chick, (without flipping the right attraction switches,) the more likely you are to say or do something to turn her off. Yes, you went on a four hour date., Yes, you kissed her on the on the cheek, and yes she texted her back saying she had a good time, but you have to put it in perspective. She was coming off of the high of the good emotions that you gave her, the question is, is she still feeling that initially good feelings that after the date.



http://www.stoplosingwomen.com/page/6/

Episode 96: Stop Being Afraid She’ll Forget You

Rephrase that, you lack confidence in you game. if you applied your game correctly you won't have these worries.



Dude, stop with the texting and call her when you want to arrange a date.



When is this date?



Don't introduce her to your parents until you've been in a relationship with her for six months.







Why are you giving this chick priority? The more you stress over it, the more likely you are to make a mistake.



:rockon:



How does making this chick improve your quality of life?

How does making this chick your girlfriend benefit you?

And how making this chick your girlfriend factor into your term goals.

+1.

edit - wont let me rep you.

 

[Don-Kong]

:nono: Three hours too long dude. You have to understand that when you're on a date with a chick, she's making judgments and evaluations about you. She's considering things such as are you polite, do you enjoy her company, what kind of man you are, (or will be,) and of course can she picture herself having sex with or being in a relationship with you.

Now Rex has said this to say this, (and I'm telling you this from experience,) the more time you spend with a chick, (without flipping the right attraction switches,) the more likely you are to say or do something to turn her off. Yes, you went on a four hour date., Yes, you kissed her on the on the cheek, and yes she texted her back saying she had a good time, but you have to put it in perspective. She was coming off of the high of the good emotions that you gave her, the question is, is she still feeling that initially good feelings that after the date.

I know what you are getting at. But if it's going well you can ASSUME afterward that it went well. So, no need to over-think things at all.

If you spend time with these chicks and you don't think you flipped her switch it could be for many reasons. It could be her game of defenses and tests but it takes a while for the fog of the dance to clear. Unless you just blatantly know she wasnt into you.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Yeah.... what Rex said about meeting the parents. You've had one date man... this is far too early to be considering such things. Think about it this way.... would you introduce a new male friend to your parents, having met them once, let alone a new chick, who you're obviously still unsure of yourself. You're still nervous with her; now imagine meeting her Silverback father/older brother.

Take it this way, out of three womens' families I have been involved with, I have actually liked one of them, but probably only because I went to uni with her sis anyway. One of these women, I sincerely REGRET letting anywhere near my friends and family.

Leave the emotive stuff to the women. As the man in the sitch, your main responsibility is the application of logic. To every situation you find yourself in with this and every other chick.

 

[IBreatheSpears]

Im only giving her the upper hand becuase she is crazy hot

That's all the more reason to not let her get the upper hand. Trust me, it's a bad move.

 

[The Duke]

send her some pics of your big hairy cahk!

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Hi! Read your post and decided to do a podcast about the 5 things you can do to keep a girl interested after the first date, plus went over some of the things you did right and wrong on your first date. Check it out: http://www.stoplosingwomen.com/slw0150/

 

[The_411]

Went on a date and had an amazing time. Date lasted 4 hours with me calling it a night. I managed to kiss her on the cheeck and she text me back 2 hours after to say she had a great time. Im afraid of having her loose interest so i am careful on how much i text her and i am always the one to end conversations and look busy. We schedualed a second date this upcooming week. We got as far as talking about meeting each other parents. Been 4 days since i had any communicatiom with her and when i do she replies really quick or appologize when she replies late.

Now im not trying to mess this up but i am also trying to maintain her interest and im also dating other girls along with a friend with benefit. But at some point i want her to be my gf.

You don't date her for 4 hours. /thread

 

[Maximus Rex]

Bruh

Im only giving her the upper hand becuase she is crazy hot and indepedent and loves nearby.

:nono: Unless you want her to completely to lose interest in you, THAT'S WHAT YOU DON'T WANNA DO! Explain something to me, what does her looks have to do with you giving her the upper hand?

She been simgle for 5 years by choice

You can believe that if you want to potna.:crackup:

would benefit me becuase im poor compared to her.

hypergamy-marriage into an equal or higher caste or social group

Dude, PLEASE tell dear ole Rex that during that long a$$ four hour date, you didn't tell her that. Contrary to that nonsense that women say about being "independent," they need to know that women they've choose have the ability to provide for them. Despite what the feminists claim society at large, (especially women,) haven't reached this level of egalitarianism yet. Women are still aliening themselves with the dude who put food on their tables, clothes, on the backs, and red bottoms on her feet. You want her to provide you with financial support, but how long to you reasonably expect that to go on before she gets resentful or starts listening to her family, friends, and what the next dude has to say?

However, it's a learning process and hopefully you haven't done any irreparable damage to yourself concerning this situation.

 

[eastside562]

explanation

Well that was just an exaggeration, we probably make the same pay but she accomokish alot more in life than i did. 8 years in the military and teacher im just a security manager which is nothing to be proud of. The date dragg that long becuase she mention a place she goes to alot and feel like going after dinner so i tagged along. It would of dragged on alot longer if i didnt have plans to go out with my friends. My problem is she probably think im always busy since i always end things to make her think im busy. I admire her for being so indepedent but did not tell her that. Before our first date i told her if i had you as a gf i would necer wanna lose you and probably would wanna be yours forever. She replies if things goes well as we both hope too im all yours. She even started text muahs and kissy faces. Im trying my best not to give in which is why im here taking as much advice as i can to not mess it up.

 

[eastside562]

Me giving her the upper hand is ment as i like her compared to the others im dating also. In the begining when i got her number i was sweet talking by telling her things she wants to hear even if i didnt mean it. Which scored me the first date, i got her interest through the roof. Now im focusing on pulling back until the second date so i dont mess things up. Im