Been reading stuff on this site on and off for a couple years now. Finally, I actually need some advice with a situation.
I have worked with a girl for a year now who is 3 years older then I am (Don’t know if that’s relevant). Now at first I had no attraction to this girl – her face is about a 7 but her body is really nice as she stays in good shape and takes care of herself. However, over time I have gotten to know her more and I definitely think she is someone who has it together and we have fun chatting and laughing. So this is basically someone who I wouldn’t mind going out with to see if there is actually anything between us. By the way I am leaving this job to go back to school in a couple weeks so there is no concern about workplace relationship stuff here.
I am 2 months out of a long-term relationship and have been talking to a few other girls. The girl in question broke up with a boyfriend of only about 1.5 months a couple weeks ago.
Rewind to about 3 or 4 months ago (at the time I did not see the girl in question as an option as I was exclusive with my then gf). During this time period I spoke my mind and criticized this girl for certain characteristics about her which bothered me and I said to her on a couple occasions “I would never date a girl like you”. The criticisms were not overly harsh but were things like “your spoiled” and “you don’t live in reality” as she is overly optimistic and has grown up in a well off family. There is nothing really wrong with her but I felt like she could get knocked down a peg.
Here is where things get a little bit confusing for me. I just moved into a new apartment a couple weeks ago. Last week she randomly offers to go food shopping with me and then come over to my place to show me how to cook a few dishes. I am clueless in the kitchen (she knew that) and she is apparently a very good cook and knows all about food. This was completely her suggestion. Now this girl is extremely hard to read as she is not the kind of girl who would overtly show IOIs (especially in the workplace) and instead totally relies on the guy to make all the moves. I have also told her on a couple occasions that I don’t like females as friends as we don’t share common interests and that the only women I am interested in are ones to see romantically.
So my two questions:
-What was her intention by offering to go food shopping with me and show me how to cook a few dishes at my place? Am I just a friend and she is helping me out or is she trying to indicate something here?
-If she does come over, how do I proceed with this? If I am unsure of this girl’s interests do I proceed with caution or do I make a move and see what happens?
Help me out here guys, I am totally confused on this one.
I have worked with a girl for a year now who is 3 years older then I am (Don’t know if that’s relevant). Now at first I had no attraction to this girl – her face is about a 7 but her body is really nice as she stays in good shape and takes care of herself. However, over time I have gotten to know her more and I definitely think she is someone who has it together and we have fun chatting and laughing. So this is basically someone who I wouldn’t mind going out with to see if there is actually anything between us. By the way I am leaving this job to go back to school in a couple weeks so there is no concern about workplace relationship stuff here.
I am 2 months out of a long-term relationship and have been talking to a few other girls. The girl in question broke up with a boyfriend of only about 1.5 months a couple weeks ago.
Rewind to about 3 or 4 months ago (at the time I did not see the girl in question as an option as I was exclusive with my then gf). During this time period I spoke my mind and criticized this girl for certain characteristics about her which bothered me and I said to her on a couple occasions “I would never date a girl like you”. The criticisms were not overly harsh but were things like “your spoiled” and “you don’t live in reality” as she is overly optimistic and has grown up in a well off family. There is nothing really wrong with her but I felt like she could get knocked down a peg.
Here is where things get a little bit confusing for me. I just moved into a new apartment a couple weeks ago. Last week she randomly offers to go food shopping with me and then come over to my place to show me how to cook a few dishes. I am clueless in the kitchen (she knew that) and she is apparently a very good cook and knows all about food. This was completely her suggestion. Now this girl is extremely hard to read as she is not the kind of girl who would overtly show IOIs (especially in the workplace) and instead totally relies on the guy to make all the moves. I have also told her on a couple occasions that I don’t like females as friends as we don’t share common interests and that the only women I am interested in are ones to see romantically.
So my two questions:
-What was her intention by offering to go food shopping with me and show me how to cook a few dishes at my place? Am I just a friend and she is helping me out or is she trying to indicate something here?
-If she does come over, how do I proceed with this? If I am unsure of this girl’s interests do I proceed with caution or do I make a move and see what happens?
Help me out here guys, I am totally confused on this one.