How do I get rid of my awkwardness
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annette<3
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The easiest way to fix it is just consciously remember it when you're talking to people. 
If you can't remember ... idunno maybe you can write it on your hand? Just remember to talk more loudly and sit up straight and itll be natural eventually. Hopefully xD
Is it really that big of a deal or are you just self conscious cuz of it?
If you can't remember ... idunno maybe you can write it on your hand? Just remember to talk more loudly and sit up straight and itll be natural eventually. Hopefully xD Is it really that big of a deal or are you just self conscious cuz of it?
annette<3
Don Juan
Well, I'm sure it's not as bad as you think it is. :3 Sometimes awkwardness can be endearing too so don't assume that its a super bad thing. Maybe the real problem is that you're not confident?
But maybe I'm being presumptuous because I'm sorta awkward too sometimes and then people assume that I'm shy or something ... :> so I guess you'll have to elaborate more ?
But maybe I'm being presumptuous because I'm sorta awkward too sometimes and then people assume that I'm shy or something ... :> so I guess you'll have to elaborate more ?
Tyson420
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What the ****?annette<3 said:Well, I'm sure it's not as bad as you think it is. :3 Sometimes awkwardness can be endearing too so don't assume that its a super bad thing. Maybe the real problem is that you're not confident?
But maybe I'm being presumptuous because I'm sorta awkward too sometimes and then people assume that I'm shy or something ... :> so I guess you'll have to elaborate more ?
Go the the gym 5 times a week and get a torn physique
(a) Your posture will naturally fix itself
(b) Easiest way to gain massive social proof
(c) You will be more confident in yourself = less awkwardness
(d) More testosterone = the lifeblood of game
(e) More girls will talk to you = more practice
(a) Your posture will naturally fix itself
(b) Easiest way to gain massive social proof
(c) You will be more confident in yourself = less awkwardness
(d) More testosterone = the lifeblood of game
(e) More girls will talk to you = more practice
Good points made here...
A conscious reminder, even a little pen dot on your hand, will remind you to stand up straight and be aware of your movements.
Also, the gym will change this is a huge way! I was always quite a meek kinda guy, walked with my head down, kinda curled into my own space when sitting in a crowd. A few months after working out and bulking up, I was walking upright and I had a real presence (people told me this). I felt bolder and acted bolder.
Just make sure before you start using the gym you do your research on proper technique and nutrition.
Another thing I suggest is just pushing yourself out of your comfort zone gradually. It's like everything....you get better with practice.
A conscious reminder, even a little pen dot on your hand, will remind you to stand up straight and be aware of your movements.
Also, the gym will change this is a huge way! I was always quite a meek kinda guy, walked with my head down, kinda curled into my own space when sitting in a crowd. A few months after working out and bulking up, I was walking upright and I had a real presence (people told me this). I felt bolder and acted bolder.
Just make sure before you start using the gym you do your research on proper technique and nutrition.
Another thing I suggest is just pushing yourself out of your comfort zone gradually. It's like everything....you get better with practice.
justanothernormalguy
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Hakuna has got it spot on, go to the gym, and with each exercise you do, use correct posture and think about it constantly. Good form will correct good posture as the muscles will develop in that way and it will naturally correct.
Practice talking loudly at home, just project your voice. Don't overthink what you are going to say to the point where you mumble. If you have something to say, think, is this appropriate, and then just say it. Dont pause and stumble over your words. It will come more naturally over time just keep practicing.
Don't cross your arms, hover around people, just be confident and walk like you have a purpose and when you want to speak to someone just project strength so they can't ignore you.
Practice talking loudly at home, just project your voice. Don't overthink what you are going to say to the point where you mumble. If you have something to say, think, is this appropriate, and then just say it. Dont pause and stumble over your words. It will come more naturally over time just keep practicing.
Don't cross your arms, hover around people, just be confident and walk like you have a purpose and when you want to speak to someone just project strength so they can't ignore you.
Classic case of women saying the opposite of what they'd do in real life.Tyson420 said:
She might say it would be endearing as she sits there typing it, but if she saw the guy in real life, she'd avoid him like the plague since she wouldn't get the 'gina tingles.
Personally, now whatever a women says, I pretty much know it is all a lie. Usually the opposite is always true in real life.
Read the post linked in my sig.
I would advise you don't "consciously remember it when you're talking to people." My guess is you already do and that's your problem. The type of behavior you are talking about is self-reinforcing meaning the more you try to not be awkward the more you will be awkward and the internal conflict that runs everytime you talk to someone you are trying to impress will grow.
I've known a sh!tton of gym rats who are awkward. Personal internal development is far more important to getting past this.
I have one piece of advice but first let me tell you something that most awkward people never realize. Most people out there really don't care if you're shy and nervous. Friendships are not won or lost on whether you stand appropriately at all times or if your vocal range is correct all the time. People care far more if your awkwardness is of the loud and inappropriate variety. As long as you're a good sh!t who can give value to their lives they will like you. So DON'T try to HIDE your awkwardness. People will know anyway and hiding it causes more tension. Be a real version of yourself.
When it comes to meeting women I would concentrate on talking to those you meet in your daily life. It would be far easier for a guy who isn't smooth and suave to connect the right dots with someone they at least have SOMETHING in common with. I bet you're alot less nervous in daily situations too. Less outcome oriented.
Which brings me to my piece of advice. DON'T be outcome oriented. At least not now. Focus on the person and making them feel comfortable and give them value. Ask questions, make comments to show you're interested, and laugh when they're trying to be funny. Takes the onus off you to be a Don Juan and just be a normal dude. Don't be afraid to be awkward. We ALL are a little when we first meet someone. The only way you will get your awkwardness to go away is embrace it and plow through it. People will respect that and respect someone who wants to know about them. We ALL are less awkward around people that like and respect us.
I've known a sh!tton of gym rats who are awkward. Personal internal development is far more important to getting past this.
I have one piece of advice but first let me tell you something that most awkward people never realize. Most people out there really don't care if you're shy and nervous. Friendships are not won or lost on whether you stand appropriately at all times or if your vocal range is correct all the time. People care far more if your awkwardness is of the loud and inappropriate variety. As long as you're a good sh!t who can give value to their lives they will like you. So DON'T try to HIDE your awkwardness. People will know anyway and hiding it causes more tension. Be a real version of yourself.
When it comes to meeting women I would concentrate on talking to those you meet in your daily life. It would be far easier for a guy who isn't smooth and suave to connect the right dots with someone they at least have SOMETHING in common with. I bet you're alot less nervous in daily situations too. Less outcome oriented.
Which brings me to my piece of advice. DON'T be outcome oriented. At least not now. Focus on the person and making them feel comfortable and give them value. Ask questions, make comments to show you're interested, and laugh when they're trying to be funny. Takes the onus off you to be a Don Juan and just be a normal dude. Don't be afraid to be awkward. We ALL are a little when we first meet someone. The only way you will get your awkwardness to go away is embrace it and plow through it. People will respect that and respect someone who wants to know about them. We ALL are less awkward around people that like and respect us.
PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
Get some confidence. That'll get rid of your awkardness. One point in time I was awkward. Then I grew some confidence and as you get confidence your posture will change automatically.
Mike32ct
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I echo Fairshake's and AlleGory's responses.
1. Try not to think "awkwardness" because that is the vibe you will give off.
2. Just get experience talking to girls and this "awkwardness" will fade on its own.
1. Try not to think "awkwardness" because that is the vibe you will give off.
2. Just get experience talking to girls and this "awkwardness" will fade on its own.