How do i get my girl?

[trippychip]

Hey, ok guys this is my first post here. I found this website today and have been reading articles all day. Its GENIUS! i cant believe i never thought about this stuff before.

Anyway to my problem. Im in grade 11 and i like this girl in my class. So i met htis girl at the beginning of the year and i was in two of her classes first semster and in 2 of her classes now. In the first semster i talked to her a bit. I really like her cuz she wasnt a dumb loud mouth priss. Shes smart and has all these ideas of what she wants to do, plays sports, and shes gorgeous. Anyway so when we started talking it was weird cuz it was about things i wouldnt talk about with ppl. Mostly politics and events, i dunno ive never had a conversation with anayone bout that stuff. And we both got along in that. After I got to know her i was all amazed at all the **** she does and how she keeps it together. I thought i can barely keep a part time job boxing and school together. I kept thinking i had no chance with her, and as i hammered that into my head, i talked to her less and less. Now i dont really talk to her at all, but i still really like her. Shes come and made small talk with me a few times since but i never have gone after her.

I dunno i guess i need help in how to approach her and talk about something besides school or other dumb crap you talk to with kids at school. I need things that might get her interested in me, and maybe wana do something. Anyway i know this is mighty long but this has been bugging the **** out of me for months. SO any help is greatly appreciated.

 

[Mr. Delicious]

ooo ooo can I be the first one to say "Read the DJ Bible" I know its coming sooner or later

 

[trippychip]

sorry ive only read the rules to posting a thread. all that was in there was not to make the post 2 sentences. where is this bible, and do you think that it will work for my particular situation?

 

[white cloud 8]

Originally posted by trippychip
sorry ive only read the rules to posting a thread. all that was in there was not to make the post 2 sentences. where is this bible, and do you think that it will work for my particular situation?

Yes, and, for most of the trials of dating and the opposite sex......girls that is.

 

[Marcus]

spit game my friend!! talk to her make her laugh , dress nicely ...charm her....u know....enjoy ur life...u wont be able to do this whn ur old..you wont DIE if she rejects you so have fun man .

 

[Donald Kaufman]

At the top of every page in the forums it says:

New Here?
We suggest checking out The DJ Bible before posting.

Click on "The DJ Bible"

 

[Disturbed]

I dunno i guess i need help in how to approach her and talk about something besides school or other dumb crap you talk to with kids at school.

I thought you mentioned earlier that you regularly converse with her about topics like politics. Since it is a hot topic there is always bound to be opinions held about it, so it would be easy to maintain a conversation flow. If you agree with her or not, she will enjoy the talk. I'd advise you to keep alert with the current events so you can be effective in presenting your arguments. Who knows if you become a slick talker in that aspect, she might take it to another level with you.

 

[Freeman]

Originally posted by trippychip
Hey, ok guys this is my first post here. I found this website today and have been reading articles all day. Its GENIUS! i cant believe i never thought about this stuff before.

Anyway to my problem. Im in grade 11 and i like this girl in my class. So i met htis girl at the beginning of the year and i was in two of her classes first semster and in 2 of her classes now. In the first semster i talked to her a bit. I really like her cuz she wasnt a dumb loud mouth priss. Shes smart and has all these ideas of what she wants to do, plays sports, and shes gorgeous. Anyway so when we started talking it was weird cuz it was about things i wouldnt talk about with ppl. Mostly politics and events, i dunno ive never had a conversation with anayone bout that stuff. And we both got along in that. After I got to know her i was all amazed at all the **** she does and how she keeps it together. I thought i can barely keep a part time job boxing and school together. I kept thinking i had no chance with her, and as i hammered that into my head, i talked to her less and less. Now i dont really talk to her at all, but i still really like her. Shes come and made small talk with me a few times since but i never have gone after her.

I dunno i guess i need help in how to approach her and talk about something besides school or other dumb crap you talk to with kids at school. I need things that might get her interested in me, and maybe wana do something. Anyway i know this is mighty long but this has been bugging the **** out of me for months. SO any help is greatly appreciated.

Hey man I can totally relate to what you're going through--You're in high school and you really like this girl but you really don't know how to approach her--Man I remember that. Anyway, listen up, this may sound strange but this is what you will have to do if you want this girl: 1. First off---You're going to have to decide what it is that you want from this girl. Do you want a relatioship, sex, or just to be friends. 2. You're going to have to drop the whole "I can't do it" attitude!!!!-It spreads like cancer in your body and it will prevent you from getting with her because you always have in the back of your head that this girl is above you and thats simply not true. My father once told me this and it helped me out in overcoming my shyness with girls I liked--"They eat, piss, and sh-t just like us". 3. Start talking to her again: How will you get with her if you never talk to her? Don't worry about what to say to this girl---if you two have chemsitry conversation won't be that tough to come up with...You mention that you two used to engage in world affairs convos'-thats good at least you're were talking to her. So start that back up!

Lastly: Once you develop a good raport with her you have to start doin Kino on her-or flirt with her. You must establish early on what you're intentions are so there won't be any misunderstanding. If you wait you will be in a predicament that I'm in right now and that is waiting too long to establish youre interest in a girl.

Well I'm about all out I hope this help man!



"Don't think about the past-Don't dream about the future-Concentarte on the PRESENT moment-What will be will be."

---American Smaurai

 

[trippychip]

Wow the stuff on this website is just so smart. I havent put any of it into practice but logically it seems to work so well. Anyway thanks for the tips guys. My problem with talking to her about world affairs was that thats all it ever was. Infact it was awkward to move onto other things. I dont mind talking bout that stuff cuz it was cool to talk to someone bout it, specially a bombshell. But anyway thanks for your help guys.

I am now going to try to reform my self image in the next months. Wish me luck.

 

[Freeman]

Good

Originally posted by trippychip
Wow the stuff on this website is just so smart. I havent put any of it into practice but logically it seems to work so well. Anyway thanks for the tips guys. My problem with talking to her about world affairs was that thats all it ever was. Infact it was awkward to move onto other things. I dont mind talking bout that stuff cuz it was cool to talk to someone bout it, specially a bombshell. But anyway thanks for your help guys.

I am now going to try to reform my self image in the next months. Wish me luck.

Thats good man-Taking the initative to change your life for the better-fantastic. Just remember man-really listen to what I posted-it can really help you-it helped me with the girl I liked in high school

 

[DemonXIII]

All I can say is... Read the bible a few times and then field test it...

GOOD LUCK...

 

[Kerensky]

All I can say is, it's a shame you're a guy with potential to be greeted with confusing crap like "read the bible" and "charm her."

Seriously, that's the worst advice I've ever heard. The orginal posters don't know anything about that man. Do you think they'd be here. Here is what you do:

1. Don't show you like her. Flirt and stuff, but never say to her you like her . . . showing is ok, but never tell.

2. Start trying to be witty and maybe initiate convos with her once a week or something. I say witty and not funny because a guy getting hit by a train is funny, and I don't want to see the news tonight and say "hmm, musta been trippy."

3. No gifts, no money, no material stuff. She wants to borrow a pencil? sure, but no gifts or anything like that. There is a fine line...that ain't so fine if you cross it.

4. Smile and be your best self. Don't put on an act for her. Sure, change for the better if you can, but no shows and games ok? You can't be too attached, and you can't be like now...when she has no idea you have interest. You have to get her guessing "hmm...does he want me? maybe...eh...yesterday he was flirty...but today he didn't walk to me...wtf is going on!?!?" See, then you are on HER mind and it's all yours.

Now, don't read the Bible because that will take you a while and kill your eyes. Skim the titles, and click on the ones pertaining to you. I'll probably never ever read the whole Bible in my life and neither have the people on top. Just read what you need, take what you need, and go do it. Good luck.

 

[Freeman]

Right....

Originally posted by Kerensky
All I can say is, it's a shame you're a guy with potential to be greeted with confusing crap like "read the bible" and "charm her."

Seriously, that's the worst advice I've ever heard. The orginal posters don't know anything about that man. Do you think they'd be here. Here is what you do:

1. Don't show you like her. Flirt and stuff, but never say to her you like her . . . showing is ok, but never tell.

2. Start trying to be witty and maybe initiate convos with her once a week or something. I say witty and not funny because a guy getting hit by a train is funny, and I don't want to see the news tonight and say "hmm, musta been trippy."

3. No gifts, no money, no material stuff. She wants to borrow a pencil? sure, but no gifts or anything like that. There is a fine line...that ain't so fine if you cross it.





4. Smile and be your best self. Don't put on an act for her. Sure, change for the better if you can, but no shows and games ok? You can't be too attached, and you can't be like now...when she has no idea you have interest. You have to get her guessing "hmm...does he want me? maybe...eh...yesterday he was flirty...but today he didn't walk to me...wtf is going on!?!?" See, then you are on HER mind and it's all yours.

Now, don't read the Bible because that will take you a while and kill your eyes. Skim the titles, and click on the ones pertaining to you. I'll probably never ever read the whole Bible in my life and neither have the people on top. Just read what you need, take what you need, and go do it. Good luck.

Um....youre making sense but you are just repeating what I said basically...

 

[Royal Elite]

All you need to do is show you have interest in her bro, it's really that simple. Interest just means attention, so if you are taking the time out of your day to talk to her, then she's has a clue you are interested. By now she either likes you, or don't, so all you can do is find out. If she likes you she will reciprocate your attention, if she isn't interest she wont.

Go enjoy HS and talk to her, about every and any thing in the world. Don't just stick to what may be "interesting" subjects. Be free and talk to her about any and every thing.

Remember a lot of these complicated tips are useless for HS kids (as well as adults buy I digress) because the Hs girls haven't really been hurt and scorned over and over so they don't view dating as "the war between mars and venus" yet. Go enjoy each other!

 

[trippychip]

Thanks alot guys for the answers. It helps.

So anyway heres an update. After 2 nights of reading a WHOLE LOT of crap on this website, i feel much more enlightened. I went to school today a little more confident but still wasnt quite ready to talk to the girl. Anyway as the day progressed she skipped the class we had double together and i ended up introducing myself to a good friend of hers. I talked to her for a while, didnt come on to strong and i think it went well. Now my next question is this, is that a smart move? should i be talking to the friend? should i be using the same stuff on her that i wana use on the girl i like? do i want to give kino and nice conversation etc etc? or should i treat the one girl special? would i get brownie points if her friend thought i was a good guy?

anyway please help me.

 

[Mr. Delicious]

I said read the Bible in a sarcastic way because I always get sick of everyone's first reply as "read the bible"

 

[trippychip]

well its cool i guess if you get sick of it. Do you think you can give me some tips. Im not suave and debonair like most of the fellers on here. But after reading all that stuff, i really really want to be. It sounds so cool

 

[IM0001]

hmm

I have 2 things to add here.

First is the thought i have for you to try some stuff out.. I didnt go to HS (skipped it and went to college for the classes so i do em only once) but what i hear is mess it with one girl or whatnot and it spreads like wildfire in the middle of a windy august day. So i would recomend go try some stuff you learn from the bible and whatnot on girls away from school. See how they react and heck make some new friends in the process if you can. Then after your confident in yourself and think you have some ideas on what to say/do with this girl you like then go for it.

(Someone validate my advice here, Im still new and learning myself)

Second is I to had a girl like you described that i absolutly found amazing. Funny, smart, beautiful, together, practly close to perfect. But she later put me on her ban list and I havent been able to figure out 100% where i went wrong but it musta been because i was still a AFC. She also was really into music and whatnot and i am nowhere near as much so that probably also kinda drove her away. (she talked about some guy she liked in a band and whatnot.) so i finally just nexed her like she did me but i cant just forget her.


So to me it sounds like you havent blown it like I had but just be warned. Girls like that are amazing and extremely hard to forget.

 

[trippychip]

lol now ima gonna be kicking myself if i **** it up with her. Ive had alot of problems with understanding women.

For example my ex was what appeared to be a good girl next door mormon girl. To other people. When she was with me she was wild and crazy and thats what made me hot for her. But she always came up with such weird ****. For example she had a huge crush on me before we started going out and thats why i decided to go out with her cuz ive never been the kind of guy who cna just approach chicks. ANYWAY to get my attention she smoked pot with me a bunch of times and was flirting very obviously by sitting on my lap and kissing my cheek and all sorts of crap. But the relationship ended cuz she said she didnt want me to smoke weed, that weed was more important then her. Personally i think she was just looking for a way out cuz i told her at the start no matter what im not gonna quit. But it still confused me cuz she was such a hypacrite. Also if we were arguing and i was clearly winning thanks to logic she would bring up **** that had nothing to do with the arguement. For example we would be arguing about her always wanting me to be around and not do stuff with my other friends and i would prove her wrong and then she'd come up with something like you dont respect me or the fact that im mormon. Women eh... ill forever be preplexed.. Im sorry this just a vent.

Please help me with my current situation though.

 

[IM0001]

hmm

Not to be brutal here after my last post but now that you mention you smoke pot, i dont think its gona help your odds with this girl any. I dono much about that stuff since i have never touched anything in my life i have seen many others experiances. Most not good. Unless she plans to drop her goals and dreams in life to be with you getting high i feal this gona head to disaster.

Just my opionion but just for the heck of it.
*flame shield up*