How do I get my Ex-back?

[NaughtyNinja]

Okay, I have been with her for 4 years, we had zero problems, other than that her dad hates me. She was getting ready to leave for college so she broke-up with me and told me it was for me, because she would be 3 hours away and she didn't want me waiting for her. The night we broke up she had sex with another guy, two days later made-out with one of my friends. I am the first guy she kissed, held hands with, had sex with, so up to this point I was the only guy she had done anything with, until now, so anyway back to the story. I got a new girlfriend and then suddenly she showed up at my house demanding her things back, but I wouldn't let her inside I just put her things on my front porch, then she tells me that she loves me and wants me back. Well a week goes by and I decide to give her another chance. Only this time I went away for a weekend and had sex with another girl, as soon as it happened I told her and she said it was okay she still loves me and wants to be with me. I asked her to marry me and she agreed, after I she agreed, I continued to ignore her a little bit, the more I would ignore her the more she would love me, but as I started acting like I cared, she became less interested and then the day I got home, she told me, I love you and I want to be with you, but I think it's best for the both of us if we are just friends. This girl only responds to negative attention, or no attention at all, the more I care the less she cares and then the more I ignore the more she wants me. well it's been 2 days now since we broke up and I'll admit at first I did the "I love you so much, let's stay together, bringing up good memories etc." thing and then she really started to just ignore me. So I gave her 2 days of NC and now she's blowing up my phone. What do I do? I've sort of made up my mind at this point that she is the only one I want, I mean I love her to death and I want her back, but it needs to be soon. Any thoughts or comments would be appreciated and thank you for your help in advance. A step-by-step plan would be helpful, I will update my progress frequently, but we are around each other frequently so I need to know how to handle NC, but I have to have a little bit of contact do to my situation.

 

[Droz88]

Idk man maybe bltch slapping her and yelling at her will set her mind straight. Look bro you know what you're doing and you're correct in your interpretation of her reactions to your actions. So far, she seems like a typical girl in the 18-25 age who doesn't know what she wants. If there is any way to make her behave and stop being a dumb bltch I'm sure almost every guy out there would love to hear about it. There is nothing wrong that you're doing...it's all her.

Just remember that she jumped on and screwed another man just hours after breaking up with you after a 4 year relationship. If that's not shltting on someones head I don't know what is.

 

[NaughtyNinja]

Yeah, but oddly enough, I did the same thing to her as soon as I took her back... More out of revenge though, I figured I would always hate her unless we were equals.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Please read: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=197318

 

[NaughtyNinja]

I've heard PUA's call what I'm going through "Cherish Mode" haha I like that term, but the same is true, I left her, got a new girlfriend and slept with her, but my feelings didn't change I'm really into her and I am willing to put in the time to get with her... plus you guys out there can use me to try new techniques, I'll be your guinea pig, so let's all have fun at my expense and maybe I will get something awesome out of it! =X

 

[Slickster]

This relationship isn't going anywhere. You are banging your head against a wall and trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. Move on!

 

[NaughtyNinja]

I'm doing the best I can with a bad situation and even if it is a dead-end road, I still want to try and I have made up my mind. I am asking for advice on how to get her back. I know that it isn't the best idea, but I still want to try, so if you could just offer me some positive advice on the situation, or maybe just some good things to help rebuild this relationship, I would really appreciate it. Thank you.

 

[The Gambler]

This relationship isn't going anywhere. You are banging your head against a wall and trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. Move on!

^^^^^^ This, big time.... You might be able to drag this out for another month, another year, maybe another couple of years.... But you're probably going to have more "downs" than "ups" with her during that time, and it sounds like you both need to just go out there and see what life has to offer -- separately.

ADD ON: I know you want her back, but I don't think there's an experienced guy in this forum who would try to go there with his advice....

 

[NaughtyNinja]

I was just asking for help, if no one wants to help me than it's okay. It's there decision to help me or not and if they don't thank you anyway

 

[Naughty Ninja]

I was just asking for help, if no one wants to help me than it's okay. It's there decision to help me or not and if they don't thank you anyway

GSPSheilds that you? LMAO.

 

[bigneil]

After the relationship starts to go south, you must pull the plug within the first month TOPS.

 

[The Gambler]

Is Nawty Ninja taken yet? NaughtyNinja3?

Damn, I'm tired and not on my game tonight.... I am within the bottom 1% of all guys posting here tonight.

Outa here...

 

[GotED?]

I read in another post elsewhere that someone mentioned taking an -EX back is like having that elephant on your shoulder for the rest of the relationship. Break-ups happen for a reason, if you decide to go back together - be ready to carry that elephant that weighs a ton on the back of your (and her) mind of what damage is already done.

With respect,

Exodus

 

[SamTheHobit]

Troll troll troll troll... Born to be alpha xD

 

[NaughtyNinja]

Yeah... Sort of troll I guess... More like wishful thinking haha... Thanks Big Neil! and "Naughty Ninja" I didn't know the name was taken. I guess they say great minds think alike, but chances are we both just thought of a name that was so un-original that anyone could have thought of it lol.

 

[pdx1138]

I was thinking: WOW no bold text for a change.

 

[NaughtyNinja]

Update : ---- I ran into my first problem tonight, my ex showed up in my backyard, while I was out there. She said she just wants to be my friend, she did say she loves me still and that she's not sure about her feelings and that she's talking to another guy, I said "Is that all you want out of me, friendship for the rest of your life?" and her reply was, "I don't know." so I kino'd her a bit and then I went in for the mind-f*** I said. "I have feelings for you and I can't be your friend so this will be the last time I talk to you until you realize that I'm better than that." and then I kissed her, she dodged for a second and then gave in and when I pulled back she held onto me, then she said she doesn't want a boyfriend and I said. "Well good, because I'm not your boyfriend anymore." and then I walked away and then about an hour later, she sent me a text saying "Goodnight (Insert my name here.)" any thoughts about her emotions, maybe any suggestions on what to do from this point? I'm assuming I should re-implement NC and then work from there, but out of curiosity, if I didn't go NC, because obviously I still have heavy feelings, are there any sort of like, texting or calling DHV's? We live a block apart and we have the same peer group, so I need to know how to PUA this chick into submission again and regain control. Thanks for all of the advice so far guys! I'll keep everyone posted.

 

[Skalioppe]

Update : ---- I ran into my first problem tonight, my ex showed up in my backyard, while I was out there. She said she just wants to be my friend, she did say she loves me still and that she's not sure about her feelings and that she's talking to another guy, I said "Is that all you want out of me, friendship for the rest of your life?" and her reply was, "I don't know." so I kino'd her a bit and then I went in for the mind-f*** I said. "I have feelings for you and I can't be your friend so this will be the last time I talk to you until you realize that I'm better than that." and then I kissed her, she dodged for a second and then gave in and when I pulled back she held onto me, then she said she doesn't want a boyfriend and I said. "Well good, because I'm not your boyfriend anymore." and then I walked away and then about an hour later, she sent me a text saying "Goodnight (Insert my name here.)" any thoughts about her emotions, maybe any suggestions on what to do from this point? I'm assuming I should re-implement NC and then work from there, but out of curiosity, if I didn't go NC, because obviously I still have heavy feelings, are there any sort of like, texting or calling DHV's? We live a block apart and we have the same peer group, so I need to know how to PUA this chick into submission again and regain control. Thanks for all of the advice so far guys! I'll keep everyone posted.

The most effective technique I've known is jealousy. Get another woman on par with her, flaunt her around like you're having the best time ever so that her or her friends see you. Woman's territorial jealousy will kick in and she will try to contact you to find out who this new woman is.
1. If she calls answer, crack a few jokes like you're having a marvellous life, the say you have to go to meet (insert new woman's name) and it was nice to chat.
2. If she texts, ignore for a few days, then text back saying "Sorry I'm just off to meet someone, but call me sometime" then repeat #1.
If she still has some interest in you, then in no time she'll be trying to get you back.

 

[incognito42]

What the...? Dude you may wanna change your name a little this could get confusing lol

 

[NaughtyNinja]

Update : Ex says she wants me back, but she didn't say anything until I started reminding her about sexual things we did, should I take her back and have sex with her, or should I make her sweat it out? I went NC for a couple of days and then I dropped a bomb on her saying. "If you want me to go out and **** another girl and give her my love and affection, then I guess I'll do it." and then she changed her tone pretty quickly. any thoughts on my situation would be really helpful, thanks!