How do I get her to stop acting mad?

[JCKey618]

My girl does something that really annoys me, she acts mad at me atleast once a day just to "play with me." It's ****ing annoying because I don't know when she is really mad or not. Usually I ask what's wrong and I try to cheer her up and make her smile (I'm really good at this) and when I start getting frustrated, she says "I was just kidding with you" and starts acting normal again.

Now, I have tried just ignoring it, but she keeps it up until I give in and try to make her smile or something, so basically if I ignore it we are both looking glum, but if I give in and ask what's wrong and try to make her smile, even though I've put her back into her pleasant state, I still feel like a punk.

So, how do I go about getting her to stop. Do you think she'll grow out of it? Also, how do I know when she is REALLY mad? I think she likes it when I try to cheer her up (maybe she just wants attention), so maybe me trying to get her out of doing this will have a negative effect, but at the same time it may be fun for her, but it is NOT for me.

 

[misunderstood??]

Return the favour. Pretend to get pissed and say you're just joking afterwards.

 

[LikRetsam]

I'm sorry, I didn't finish reading after the 1st paragraph.
This girl is not worth your time.

 

[M2k961]

Haha oh man, you're a loser if you keep this up.

This is what AFCs do! You're the king; why would the king need to CONSTANTLY CHEER UP AND ASK WHAT'S WRONG to a female?

This girl is an immature fvck if this is joking around to her. Why do you waste your time cheering her up? So what if you're "good at cheering people up," thats a trait all DJs have.

Return the favour. Pretend to get pissed and say you're just joking afterwards.

What ****ty advice. Why would you waste your time.

I'll tell ya.. I cant put up with **** like that, JCKey618.

Now, I have tried just ignoring it, but she keeps it up until I give in

Would a real man GIVE IN TO CHILDISH GAMES SUCH AS THESE?

So, how do I go about getting her to stop. Do you think she'll grow out of it? Also, how do I know when she is REALLY mad?

In my experiance, if you dont confront her about this ASAP she'll never grow out of it.

You'll know when she's really mad when a situation comes up that warrants it. Other than that, fvck her childish moody ass.

PS: I didnt mean to offend you or your GF, but I like to speak my mind.

 

[Kraken]

Is your girl 10 years old or something? You shouldn't have to put up with this bullsh*t. Why the hell would you try to make her smile every day if you knew she was just f*cking with you? She knows she has absolute control over you, because you're willing to slave over her like that.

Next time she does that, just tell her you've had enough of her crap, and if she tells you she was just kidding, then say 'I don't see anyone laughing'. Maybe she'll get the point, if not, I'd start looking for a girl with maturity that made its way out of elementary school.

 

[JCKey618]

Today she did it again, giving me the evil eye when I would talk to her and after I started walking ahead of her (kind of giving her the notion that I wasn't about to deal with her moodiness) she came up and hugged me from behind and was all pleasant again. I said to her "Would you do me a favor? Stop acting mad at me all the time. If you keep it up, one day you're going to be really mad at me and I'm not going to take you seriously." She just nodded her head and kept her head down (that's another thing she does. she hardly looks at me when we talk about things like this).

Well, maybe she'll stop, but I doubt it. I asked her to stop before (like a month ago) and she just started back up again.

 

[Kraken]

Does your gf have a history of psychological problems or something? It's either that, or she's an attention wh*re. If I were you, I would next her - it might be cute if she did it once, but every day? Holy ****.

 

[Rondavu]

Don't lecture her man. Simply not getting played by her mood power game will speak volumes. She doesn't need you to tell her you won't be played, just don't be. Don't talk to her like her dad might saying you won't tolerate it and all that. Just be you. Do what you do. Ignore her game. She'll love the mystery it brings and you'll both be happy. Take control of yourself and ignore any attempt by her to control you. Give her the attention only when she's not trying to control you with her mood power game. One time if she's really mad about something guess what? Make an observation of your supposed offensive actions, assess whether they warrant her being mad about them, and if not then let her get over it. It's not your job to adjust to an unreasonable level of oversensitivity. If your a decent guy, she'll never have real a reason to be mad at you. That's in her head. Not your problem. If it continues anyway then dump her and move on. If she asks why than tell her briefly and step away. She'll beg for you back if she recognizes she made a mistake. If she doesn't then let her exist in her own personal hell and catch the first bus out of purgatory.

 

[JCKey618]

OK, we just had a convo on AIM (still having it) and she brought it up. That's another thing, for some reason she likes to talkabout important things non-facetoface. Help me weed out the mistakes I may have just made for future references.

Lauren: hey sexy
Justin: hhey...
Lauren: sorry i couldnt stay longer this afternoon
Justin: hey, no apologies necessarwy
Justin: anyway, i'd hope that you staying afterschool isn't just some favor to me
Justin: if it s, you need to start going straight home
Lauren: no
Lauren: i stay because i want to be with u
Lauren: it just that this afternoon i was very preoccupied
Justin: yeah......well, i'm pretty used to you being preoccupied
Lauren: what do u mean?
Lauren: and give me an honest answer
Justin: i mean what i mean
Justin: i'm used to walking with you and feeling like a tag along. I'm used to all these dudes interact with you like I'm not ****ing there. I'm also used to you being all pleasant to others and then when I say something you look at me like I killed your only child because for some reason you seem to get pleasure from it......but seriously, it's not that big a deal. doesn't happen that much
Justin: some things are probably overexaggerated in my mind right now
Justin: i just woke up
Lauren: no ur right
Lauren: i realized that i act bad towards u alot
Lauren: im always given u the evil eye and makin u believe that im mad at u when im not
Justin: well, maybe there's a reason or something....?
Justin: i know you say that you could never get tired of me, but maybe sometimes you are and you just do it subconsciously?
Justin: that's what I usually think, anyway
Lauren: i dont want u to think that i am makin excuses for myself
Lauren: but u aren't the only one who realizes that
Lauren: and i have got told about myself alot in the last few days
Lauren: and its made me realize that im not use to have a long term relationship
Lauren: I don't have boyfriends I have male friends with benifits
Justin: is that what you'd rather I be?
Lauren: NO!!!
Justin: oh, just making sure this wasn't going where I feard it was
Justin: told you I was sleepy
Lauren: I want u to be my man for a while
Lauren: but like i told u after the first time i told u i loved u this is all new to me
Lauren: In the last 3 years most of my friends have been boys because cuz girls drive me crazy
Justin: yeah, i've got to realize that too
Lauren: I mean Chryshanda and Shannon and Olivia are probably the only 3 girls I can stand on a regular bases
Lauren: Bianca and everyone else are either friends or associates
Justin: but, it's just kind of awkward to me walking with you while Josh, Brian, and others are around, vying for your attention (that's how it seems to me), but I tell myself that if I had you walk with me and my friends, you'd probably feel a little isolated too
Lauren: I dont want u to feel akward
Lauren: but just remember this in seveth grade i was just thought of as one of the guys
Justin: i don't want you to think you have to change yourself or feel bad. Hey, I fell in love with all of you, right? ;-) I need to improve upon myself where I'm more comfortable in certain situations and can make the best of them
Justin: ....except for the you acting mad at me. it just f'in sucks. Funny the fist time, cute the third time, a pain in the ass everytime after.....confuses the hell out of me
Justin: *cute the second time
Lauren: I know that and I plan to stop
Lauren: because it takes to much energy being mad at people.
Justin: hey why do you sometimes kind of ignore me when we walk down the hill? Do you do it on purpose or....what? It isn't that bad and I'm not saying I want all attention on me, that would just be stupid, but I'm just wondrin
Justin: sometimes it feels like it wouldn't make a bit of difference to you if I wasn't anywhere around
Lauren: I dont do it on purpose
Lauren: It like my way of escaping is with my friends and when Im around them I act like me when Im all carefree and stuff
Justin: aiight, dat's cool
Lauren: I dont mean to ignore u
Justin: i figured that. I just tell myself to remmber that they have known her much longer than you and would naturally be closer to her in some ways
Lauren: do u want to know the history of me and those crazy ass male friend of mines
Justin: and your light, bright, damn near white girlie friend there was looking at me like I was some damn weirdo
Lauren: lol
Lauren: shes not my friend
Justin: do I want to know?
Lauren: she tried to steal brian away from me
Lauren: and thats a question to u
Justin: i felt like pulling out an eyeball or something to freak the girl out
Justin: well, yeah, I'll take a chance here. tell me le histoire

Then she tells this story of why she has so many male friends (which she is still telling). blah blah blah.....

 

[MacdaddyJr]

I don't know how you remembered all that... ....but I dont' like this girl. Not one bit. I don't care how cute she is, she sounds so much like one of my ex girls it's not even funny. She's crazy, and your infatutated with her. Not that it's bad to be but this is the wrong person to be with. In a good relationship you don't have these problems. This is the kind of girl that eventually breaks your heart. She has extremely low self esteem it sounds like and is an angry person. The best thing you can do is to next her.

You can also try this, I never did, cut the time u spend with her in half. Stop walking with her all the time. If she's in a bad mood, stay away. You should always stay away from a girl who's in a bad mood unless she calls upon your help. You don't want her to be angry with you. Stop being insecure, just stop, stop wondering about the other guys and the attention she's giving others. Sounds like she sees you too much, way too much at that, and she ignores you because of it. When she sees you it should make her feel like it's special and fun. Like her birthday almost.

Seems I was right about her in my last post about her being an attentionwh*re.

This is the kind of girl who drives a man insane. She has extrememly low self-esteem and is pretty, I'm guessing. Something is wrong with her, you don't need the drama. You don't. You can't have a good realationship with her anymore now. Next this bi*ch

 

[Rondavu]

Hold on loosely, but don't let go. If you hold on too tight, your gonna your gonna lose control.....

Your being too whiny *****y man. Don't be that guy. Stop talking about needs and feelings. She's not obligated to fulfill those things for you. She's just trying to have fun. Your getting too serious. Your getting too dangerously close to brushoffville.

 

[JCKey618]

Actually, she told me today that the ONE problem she has with me is that I don't tell her my feelings. This is the first time. I might tell you all how I feel, but I've never told her. Oh, and I just copied and pasted the AIM convo (used word to chancethe screennames).

 

[Brazilian_Blues_Boy]

You should ask yourself, what would Rambo do in this situation?
He would stay quiet and look angry as hell.
And if that isn't enough to knock some sense into her, act really really mad one time for a silly reason and then start avoiding her.
She'll feel guilty.

Wow
That was mean



BBB

 

[Rondavu]

By feelings she may not have meant what you don't approve of about her. Nobody wants to hear that unless they absolutely have to. She probably meant feelings in general. She means feelings that don't cast her as a catalyst of negativity between the two of you. She wants you to be warm and open with her in a quest towards a mutual, exclusive/private communication. That's what she means. She doesn't mean express your feelings of hatred towards her ways. That'll get you dropped.

 

[blienk]

If I were you, I'd seriously re-evaluate whether or not it's worth it to spend time with this girl. She sounds immature as hell, and seems like one of those girls who thinks it's cool to be b-tchy all the time. I HATE these types of girls. Maybe your message got through to her, but if she doesn't change her behavior quick, it may be time to give her the ol' heave-ho.

 

[Cassidy]

Originally posted by Brazilian_Blues_Boy
You should ask yourself, what would Rambo do in this situation?

OMG! This is the best advice I've ever heard in my life! No word of a lie!

I'm going to start using this! Holy damn, BBB, you're a f*cking GENIUS!!!

 

[Porky]

"If you're going to act like this, don't even bother talking to me."

I've used this line with great success on the most stuck up, self-centered girls you can imagine.

this is high school drama. I just skimmed your AIM conversation, and you need to change how you act. You were far too submissive, and frankly I saw in you the 8th grade version of Porky. she isn't the only one who wants to talk about important things on the safety of IM. You brought up your insecurities with her on IM. Man up, and talk to her face to face. Fake the confidence if you don't have it.

 

[Brazilian_Blues_Boy]

Originally posted by Cassidy
OMG! This is the best advice I've ever heard in my life! No word of a lie!

I'm going to start using this! Holy damn, BBB, you're a f*cking GENIUS!!!

Heh
That's why people have so much trouble. Instead of thinking, " What would Rambo do in this situation??" they start to think:
"What would Dawson say to her to win her heart??"

Rambo is a rolemodel

BBB

 

[Canadianpimpology]

What the hell are you doing? I'm sorry to say but she is walking all over you. You are acting like an AFC. I suggest that you read over the Bible. You seem to have just skimmed it.

Now for situational advice. Break up with her. Yes. You are not in love with her, you are infatuated. And it's really sad to see some of the things you say to her. You guys have been together for how long? It sounds like about 3 months. She's immature as hell. You are whining too much and acting way too insecure. You are asking her all these questions about why she acts like this. Geez man, you should be a master at her games, and then she'll stop playing them. Her IL sounds really low. I suggest you break up with her, and go for other, more decent girls. Sorry, but your GF's a bitch.

 

[wh01987]

"Lauren: I want u to be my man for a While "

That says it there ... Next