How do I get her to F me and leave intead of sleep over

[YoungStunna]

Met this girl at a bar and took her home same night. 2 weeks later she meets me at a club im at and comes home with me. Both times we had been drinking so she slept over.

Another 2 weeks she calls me at 7pm and says she wants to come over. I say I'm about to go to the gym but if you come now I'll go when you leave.

she comes over and I'm sober and I def. dont want her sleeping over. I'm trying to get to the gym soon, so I start getting close to her and little friendly and she asks says:

hb: So, you're gonna skip the gym now that i'm here
me: No, I told you I'm going tonight.
hb: If you're going later then I might as well leave now
me: thats fine

I stand up and pack my gym bag up and she is in shock at my indifference.

I walk her to the door hug her and both my hands squeezing her ass and she's like:

hb: i wanna kiss you
me: oh yea?
hb: but you're kicking me out
me: yes i am. I'm going to the gym...

her - no kiss, turns around and walks out. PISSED
me? dont give a f***

The next day she texts me: I wanna sleep over this week.

I didn't reply.
She's boring when i'm sober. Might next her. Any advice on how to kick her out and not let her sleep over?

 

[PeasantPlayer]

Ask her if she needs a cab? Hahahaha Jersey Shore

 

[Starfvcks 64]

She's boring when i'm sober.

There is an obvious answer to this: Stop being sober.

 

[TheCWord]

I'm experiencing a similar issue right now. Problem is i think it's just part of my moral constitution: when it's like 1am and her only options for getting home are public transit or a $40 cab ride, I think it'd be ungentlemanly to suggest she can't sleepover.

Doesn't change the fact that I'll sleep terribly that night, but it's better than a hot young blonde taking public transit during the witching hours.

Edit: Post #666. Evillll.

 

[YoungStunna]

There is an obvious answer to this: Stop being sober.

I'm taking atleast a month break from drinking. I can hang out with her sober, just not overnight. If she comes over at 7, I want to get to business by 7:20 and she should be out my door by 8.

She might be against booty calls and thinks if she sleeps over she's not such a wh*re.

My only idea at this point when she says she wants to sleepover is..."no, you can not sleep over" LOL

Anybody have a better idea? please share.

I think it'd be ungentlemanly to suggest she can't sleepover.

Edit: Post #666. Evillll.

Now that I'm spinning multiple plates for the first time in my life, I finally know what its like to not give a f*ck about anything.

 

[Yewki]

Good job on your indifference sounds like you have a solid frame. I think the answer to your question is pretty obvious though. Let her come over next time (she clearly wants the D), pump her, then kindly ask her to leave before you go to sleep. As long as you don't specifically agree she can sleep over, it's all good. If she refuses to leave and throws a tantrum, calmly pick her up, put her outside, and shut the door. Then sleep.

Or you could allow her to sleep over in exchange for favors, like making breakfast... and more sex.

 

[TheCWord]

Now that I'm spinning multiple plates for the first time in my life, I finally know what its like to not give a f*ck about anything.

I'm not sure if your girl drives or whatever, but in my specific example it's less about not giving a f*ck and more about safety.

 

[bukowski_merit]

Another 2 weeks she calls me at 7pm and says she wants to come over. I say I'm about to go to the gym but if you come now I'll go when you leave.

Because you said this - I think it's her fault for thinking she could change your mind/manipulate you. If she wasn't aware of this before hand - that's a different story.

I personally prefer a girl sleep over; because i like to go multiple times throughout the night (team half asleep bang). But only your preferences are relevant here.

With that said - why not just have her come over after the gym? If it's that you dislike sleeping with women - just make sure they know that from the start. They'll test you (of course) but you don't seem like you have a problem passing those tests.

When i dislike something - i let a woman know asap in our interaction.



But as far as this...

Now that I'm spinning multiple plates for the first time in my life, I finally know what its like to not give a f*ck about anything.

What's the point of this thread if you don't give a fvck about anything?

If you truely don't give a fvck. Then after you fvck her - just kick her out.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

I feel you, man. I, too, have a hard time getting any kind of sleep when a woman's staying over - I can't quite get the position I need to feel comfortable. Even with the set up of having multiple sex sessions throughout the night, I know I'll still wake up the next morning having gotten very little sleep and feeling exhausted throughout the day.

Most girls don't seem to get this, though - they think if you're trying to kick them out that you're just using them for sex. Kudos on you for being able to kick her out and not care how she reacted - most guys don't have the guts to do it, but as you can see, she still hit you up later talking about wanting to see you.

What I have found to be helpful is two things: (1) to have a discussion with her where you can explain that you don't really get a good night's sleep when someone's in bed with you (make it not just about her, but about the fact that no matter who the girl has been, the result has always been the same: bad sleep) so it doesn't make it a personal thing about her; and (2) compromising by agreeing to schedule nights when she CAN sleep over. That way, she knows you want her to stick around some of the time, just not EVERY time she comes over, and so that you are still in control of when it happens.

The reality is, if a girl's getting boned by you regularly, she's going to want to stay over at some point. It's really all about managing expectations - right now she's expecting you to want her to stay over every time you two hook up. Once she has different expectations - that it will only be some of the time and it will be scheduled - she should come around. If not, the only other thing I could suggest would be to have nothing but afternoon sex with her so she'll be gone by dinner time :crackup:

 

[potato]

Here is an easy solution since you’re only interested in sex. Hire a professional. She’ll come to your house, have sex with you, and leave immediately afterwards.

 

[Voice]

This is an easy one, sleep at THEIR place. I did this when I was single and it works out great. You have control of the situation. If you want to pump and leave then you're free to. If you want to pump and stay, then do whatever you please. If you get a change of heart when hanging out with her then you can leave and go somewhere else. If you get a text from a hotter girl then you can excuse yourself and pursue the hotter girl. It's much easier than kicking a girl out and you avoid a lot of unnecessary awkwardness. Also you don't have to worry about cleaning up your place. You don't have to worry about the sex stains in your bed. You don't have to worry about your **** getting stolen. Sometimes it's better if a girl doesn't even know where you live in case of conflict in the future.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

What I have found to be helpful is two things: (1) to have a discussion with her where you can explain that you don't really get a good night's sleep when someone's in bed with you (make it not just about her, but about the fact that no matter who the girl has been, the result has always been the same: bad sleep) so it doesn't make it a personal thing about her; and (2) compromising by agreeing to schedule nights when she CAN sleep over. That way, she knows you want her to stick around some of the time, just not EVERY time she comes over, and so that you are still in control of when it happens.

The reality is, if a girl's getting boned by you regularly, she's going to want to stay over at some point. It's really all about managing expectations - right now she's expecting you to want her to stay over every time you two hook up. Once she has different expectations - that it will only be some of the time and it will be scheduled - she should come around. If not, the only other thing I could suggest would be to have nothing but afternoon sex with her so she'll be gone by dinner time :crackup:

This is what I do, either when I'm at their place and I don't want to stay or their at my place and I don't want them to stay. I just say I can't sleep well with someone else in my bed. However, like what was mentioned above, you can't always kick them out, if she's been drinking and her car's there then you're going to have to let them stay. But if you're really adament about it, then tell them before hand.

The other thing you can do, if you just banged her, and she's laying in bed, then just do your own thing i.e. ignore her, and don't entertain her anymore. Don't be a d1ck, but go on your computer, watch what you want to watch, read a book. Basically....you become the boring one. It's your place, you do what you want.

They may get the hint or say something like this:

Her: well....I guess I'm going to go....
You: okay, I'll walk you out.

Done.

 

[YoungStunna]

What's the point of this thread if you don't give a fvck about anything?

If you truely don't give a fvck. Then after you fvck her - just kick her out.

I want to just kick her out... the point of this threat is I want to learn a smoother way to do it then like a judge knocking his gavel and saying "You are dismissed."

(1) to have a discussion with her where you can explain that you don't really get a good night's sleep when someone's in bed with you (make it not just about her, but about the fact that no matter who the girl has been, the result has always been the same: bad sleep) so it doesn't make it a personal thing about her;

Great advice. I'll do this in the future.

Here is an easy solution since you’re only interested in sex. Hire a professional. She’ll come to your house, have sex with you, and leave immediately afterwards.

Sometimes I am only interested in just sex, but wtf would I pay for it if I don't need to?

 

[skinnyguy]

This is another one of those "you're complaining about a filet mignon when some guys are starving" posts.

I agree with potato in that you should hire an escort instead. As Charlie Sheen says, you're not paying for sex…you're paying her to leave.

 

[EJay]

There is an obvious answer to this: Stop being sober.

I ****ing love this reply lol.

 

[benogan]

Just tell her your girlfriend will be home early.

 

[escaleraroyal]

Obvirously she is a fatty or UG. Just say you are seeing another girl..

 

[YoungStunna]

This is another one of those "you're complaining about a filet mignon when some guys are starving" posts.

I agree with potato in that you should hire an escort instead. As Charlie Sheen says, you're not paying for sex…you're paying her to leave.

Thanks to Peaks&Valleys and Harry Wilmington I have learned something new that I will def. use in the future.

Skinnyguy, almost all your posts show how you are "starving".

Sometimes guys who control the frame need advice too. You'll be there one day

 

[thatfeel]

Just tell her your girlfriend will be home early.

lol

 

[Cremasta]

Another 2 weeks she calls me at 7pm and says she wants to come over. I say I'm about to go to the gym but if you come now I'll go when you leave.

First up... nicely played!

Next time, you could be more specific about how much time you're going to give her. "I'm heading off to the gym at 8pm, we can hang out till then."
Otherwise you have to negotiate her leaving when she's standing in front of you - but you didn't seem to have too much problem with that