How do i get her out of my head?
Hi guys, this is my first time here (my friend gave me the web adress), i need help with something and i heard this board is the place to come, so here goes:
i've just started my second year at university and, in my flat, there are 2 girls and another guy. we met the sunday night and talked for ages, then one of the girls and the other guy went out the monday night.
the other male flatmate is a bit of an idiot, and any girl who I tried to approach, he would do something stupid and then they would go. so, i sat down and got talking to the female flatmate i went out with. i seem to be getting mixed signals from this girl. my friend gave me some tips like eye contact and stuff, and they worked pretty well, but this is where it gets confusing.
we were both fairly plastered and we had a game of pool in the common room of the halls, everyone round there thought we were a couple and she played up to that quite a bit.
anyways, we ended up going back to the flat and she decides that she wants to watch a film in my room. fair enough, we ended up laid in my bed watching it, she put her arm over me and went to sleep. then all of a sudden she storms out and goes into her room.
yesterday, all i seemed to get was mixed signals from her, theres usually a load of flirty comments and stuff, but nothing further. the thing is, shes really good looking, and i would like to make a move, but i dunno with her being my flatmate for the next year and everything. she's really gotten into my head in a big way though, and it looks like its going to go the way of a full blown crush if i dont nip it in the bud now, and as im sure you lot know, theres nothing worse than un-requited love. (an example of how bad it got yesterday, some slimey indian lad picked her up and i got quite pi$$ed, even more so when she said she thought he was good looking) add to this the fact that this girl from back home who i had nothing to do with is sending me wierd text messages telling my im dumped, then you have a very confusing situation.
my friend says the mixed signals are us adapting to living with each other, testing the boundaries as it were and that theres no real interest there on her part. this really wouldnt suprise me if this were the case. he also told me if i am going to make a move "dont go all dawsons creek on her", apparently i shouldnt tell her my emotions or anything. he also gave me a disk with some stuff from the Dj bible on it, so im off to have a look at that later.
so can you guys help out? should i go for it or not? if i do, any tips or advice you could offer would be good, as were going out again tonight. if you think i shouldnt ask her, any advice on how to stop me becoming infactuated would really be useful.
thanks a lot
Luke M
Hi guys, this is my first time here (my friend gave me the web adress), i need help with something and i heard this board is the place to come, so here goes:
i've just started my second year at university and, in my flat, there are 2 girls and another guy. we met the sunday night and talked for ages, then one of the girls and the other guy went out the monday night.
the other male flatmate is a bit of an idiot, and any girl who I tried to approach, he would do something stupid and then they would go. so, i sat down and got talking to the female flatmate i went out with. i seem to be getting mixed signals from this girl. my friend gave me some tips like eye contact and stuff, and they worked pretty well, but this is where it gets confusing.
we were both fairly plastered and we had a game of pool in the common room of the halls, everyone round there thought we were a couple and she played up to that quite a bit.
anyways, we ended up going back to the flat and she decides that she wants to watch a film in my room. fair enough, we ended up laid in my bed watching it, she put her arm over me and went to sleep. then all of a sudden she storms out and goes into her room.
yesterday, all i seemed to get was mixed signals from her, theres usually a load of flirty comments and stuff, but nothing further. the thing is, shes really good looking, and i would like to make a move, but i dunno with her being my flatmate for the next year and everything. she's really gotten into my head in a big way though, and it looks like its going to go the way of a full blown crush if i dont nip it in the bud now, and as im sure you lot know, theres nothing worse than un-requited love. (an example of how bad it got yesterday, some slimey indian lad picked her up and i got quite pi$$ed, even more so when she said she thought he was good looking) add to this the fact that this girl from back home who i had nothing to do with is sending me wierd text messages telling my im dumped, then you have a very confusing situation.
my friend says the mixed signals are us adapting to living with each other, testing the boundaries as it were and that theres no real interest there on her part. this really wouldnt suprise me if this were the case. he also told me if i am going to make a move "dont go all dawsons creek on her", apparently i shouldnt tell her my emotions or anything. he also gave me a disk with some stuff from the Dj bible on it, so im off to have a look at that later.
so can you guys help out? should i go for it or not? if i do, any tips or advice you could offer would be good, as were going out again tonight. if you think i shouldnt ask her, any advice on how to stop me becoming infactuated would really be useful.
thanks a lot
Luke M
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