How do I fix what this AFC has done?

[LeChanteur]

Okay so I need some advice on how to fix this little situation an AFC friend (who normally is pretty good) has put me in.

Basically college has started again and I'm back with all my old friends taking new classes. After one of our first classes a few friends and I met up for a drink and were chatting about the class and our new classmates. Typical guy stuff, who was cute etc. Anyways I mentioned this chick Julie and how I thought she was cool and i'd like to get to know her better.

Anyway nothing happened for a week or so, I didn't really plan to make a move on Julie or anything, while I am interested I wasn't really looking (but if something happened I wouldn't be against it)

Then all of a sudden a female friend of mine (who didn't go drinking with us) came up and asked if I liked Julie. I asked her how she knew and she said, much to my surprise, that Julie had heard and had asked her to check if it was true.

My female friend who is now on friendly terms with Julie then went on to tell me about how cool Julie was but I was still realing that one of my friends has possibly stuck me in it through an AFC slip, making a simple statement sound bigger and more involved than it is.

Just note none of them told Julie directly but who knows who they mentioned it to in their wisdom.

Grrr, it's probably best to keep ones mouth shut in future.

 

[retrievher]

My experienced guess is that someone is working his own angle with one of Julie's friends and can't come up with his own sh*t to talk about. It's the old "I'm a really great guy and I'm looking out for my friend" play, he's gonna crash and burn but may have set the table for you - have fun.

 

[dietzcoi]

Be careful, I have had people do this in the past, sometimes it is an AFC slip up, sometimes they are deliberately trying to stir up controversy for their own gains.

You never know who your friends are, better not tell too much to too many guys... it always finds its way back to you.

At this point, you had better move in on Julie right away, since she knows you like her, otherwise she will think YOU are the AFC.

Dietzcoi

 

[MindNsoul]

First off -

it's kiddy sh!t to be telling people you like someone.. If you're a man you 1. Keep that **** to yourself 2. You make the move if you're interestd 3. You don't sweat small crap like thisl..


If you've go the confidence and you are comfortable in your own skinn. What I suggest is you walk up to the girl and say..

I hear you've been asking about me (say it in a joking maner to make her laugh)

hopefully she'll deny it and say no..

you then say something very vage like:
Good.. I didn't think it would have been fair for you to get a head start.

But if she says yes say:
I don't think that's fair, considering how you've been so elusive..

and since you're in school .. just ask her out for coffee while talking about something you both know is going on at the school that weekend.

College pxssy is the esiest..

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Make this work to your benefit and get confirmation from your mutual girlfreind that julie feels the same - if yes - then ask her out!!

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

This can be good for you because she cannot know if it's 100% true and especially if she finds you attractive you can really work it!

 

[DJnomore]

AFC test...

Does your female friend think that you are the one that "WANTS" more or that she is the one that "WANTS" more. How about the HB you want?

AFC WANTS girl
girl WANTS DJ

That is only issue. DJs can use the high school stuff if they want, its not the normal approach cause there are way more variables involved but they can work it if they have to.

But the who wants who thing is critical. anything where you like her more than she likes you kills interest.

 

[golf299]

blah, blah, blah....

you like julie? tell julie to come out with you. done.

 

[Slickster]

Originally posted by LeChanteur
Then all of a sudden a female friend of mine (who didn't go drinking with us) came up and asked if I liked Julie. I asked her how she knew and she said, much to my surprise, that Julie had heard and had asked her to check if it was true.

My female friend who is now on friendly terms with Julie then went on to tell me about how cool Julie was ....

A little hint for you.

If Julie wasn't interested would she send a friend to go find out information for her? I think not.

Julie is interested.

As long as you don't come off as a desperate, needy chump then you have nothing to worry about.

Whether she thinks you are interested is irrelevant. As it sits right now she probably does think you are interested. If you don't make a move then you look like a wussy.

I didn't really plan to make a move on Julie or anything, while I am interested I wasn't really looking (but if something happened I wouldn't be against it)...

What's this crap? Why bother posting about it if it didn't mean anything to you?

Pick up balls and ask her out.

 

[Apprentice DJ]

utilise les 4 C: Confidence, Charm, Control, Challenge

si elle est interessee tu dois lui parler pour creer de quoi. (garde tout le temps en tete le System) si elle n'est pas interesser ben oublie ca. mais le system va elever son niveau dinteret alors je trouve honnetement que c bon le fait quelle sache

 

[Genghis Juan]

Just walk up to her and chat for awhile, build a rapport with C&F for 10 minutes and ask for her digits.

Don't tell "friends" and acquaintences that you like someone. Then the word gets around, people all have their own agendas and can mess things up for you regardless if their agenda was well-intentioned or not. Rumors start and spiral out of control, next thing you know, people are saying you want to marry this girl. Especially, if one of your friends is AFC or a jerk. Just make your move in stealth my friend.

 

[ShizamDaMan]

MindNSoul is absolutely right. NEVER EVER EVER TELL ANYONE ABOUT GIRLS YOU ARE GOING TO DJ. In 99.999% of cases it will only hurt you. The only people I even consider telling stuff to are friends I have known for 5-6 years that live in other towns and don't know who I'm talking about.

Seriously, you must operate in complete mystery. Do not let anyone onto your plan. I wish I could count the times where I've told a friend who I was into and had it blow up in my face because of gossip.

 

[B9]

Not at all a bad situation. She is aware of your interest without you even having to make an approach.

So f*cking what if they are speculating about whether it is more than what you make it out to be. If she wonders, say it straight and confirm your interest, whilst making it clear that it is obviously not more than it is, simply because you don't know her, maybe adding (an obvious truth) that people love to gossip (I don't suppose you are familiar with the old Hans Christian Andersen tale about the feather that became 10 chickens).

If you start apologising for your attraction, how are you gonna establish anything?