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mr_guido

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Alright. Story time.

It all started last June, when I was competing at a classical guitar competition. There I met someone who I think is as close to 'the perfect one' as possible. Sounds really corny and cliche, and I know I've said it before, but I've totally never in my life experienced someone as amazing as her. She's a year younger than me, she's very genuine and kind, she's SUPER hot, and she plays classical guitar - what more could a guy like me ask for right? I could tell right away she took an interest in me too, her body language was very easy to read :D We hung out together backstage at the finale concert on the last night and we chatted away and all that. The only downside is that she lives in a city 3.5 hours away from me, so seeing each other is something that we don't get to do that often.

Anyways, we exchanged email addresses and for the past 5 months have been busy emailing each other. More and more, though, she's grown to like me. She's always telling me how great I am, or how good looking I am, or how cute I am and such, and I reciprocated that. We sort of nurtured a love for each other through email. Sounds cheesy but true.

Last Wednesday, she tells me she's coming to my city for a concert she's playing in. Long story short, she comes over to my house. We basically just hung out and chilled, played some guitar together, and cuddled and all that stuff. Good news is that she confirmed that she totally likes me. I love her too. But the time came for her to leave, and ever since I've sort of been in a daze with my head in the clouds, and I've felt kind of lost without her. How do I shake this? We're still in touch and all, but I just feel really lonely for her, and the fact that she lives away from me makes it that much harder to get through.

The good news is that she's coming up again in a month to a relative's place just outside of my town, so I'm hoping we can meet up again. Until then, what can I do to keep myself out of the blue? Any suggestions/insight/hints/comments would feel really good right now. Thanks guys.
 

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mr_guido said:
Alright. Story time.

It all started last June, when I was competing at a classical guitar competition. There I met someone who I think is as close to 'the perfect one' as possible. Sounds really corny and cliche, and I know I've said it before, but I've totally never in my life experienced someone as amazing as her. She's a year younger than me, she's very genuine and kind, she's SUPER hot, and she plays classical guitar - what more could a guy like me ask for right? I could tell right away she took an interest in me too, her body language was very easy to read :D We hung out together backstage at the finale concert on the last night and we chatted away and all that. The only downside is that she lives in a city 3.5 hours away from me, so seeing each other is something that we don't get to do that often.

Anyways, we exchanged email addresses and for the past 5 months have been busy emailing each other. More and more, though, she's grown to like me. She's always telling me how great I am, or how good looking I am, or how cute I am and such, and I reciprocated that. We sort of nurtured a love for each other through email. Sounds cheesy but true.

Last Wednesday, she tells me she's coming to my city for a concert she's playing in. Long story short, she comes over to my house. We basically just hung out and chilled, played some guitar together, and cuddled and all that stuff. Good news is that she confirmed that she totally likes me. I love her too. But the time came for her to leave, and ever since I've sort of been in a daze with my head in the clouds, and I've felt kind of lost without her. How do I shake this? We're still in touch and all, but I just feel really lonely for her, and the fact that she lives away from me makes it that much harder to get through.

The good news is that she's coming up again in a month to a relative's place just outside of my town, so I'm hoping we can meet up again. Until then, what can I do to keep myself out of the blue? Any suggestions/insight/hints/comments would feel really good right now. Thanks guys.

Yeah dude you are in High School. perfect to "the closest one possible" that doesnt even exist brah

im goinga to type this as sboer as possible but you need to chjeck out girls form Brazil, Germany, France and maybe Urkaine (lol big jimbo)

then come back to US and see if you beleive in the 'perfect girl"

ps the perfect girl is someone who will blow you will your playing xbox
 

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Bro, I've been there too.
Me and my first GF fell in love over IM for a week before we went out.
My second 'GF' and I never met. She lived 4 hours away and we chatted for a good 2-3 months. Not a healthy time. These two were in 7-8th grade.
Good thing is that she's super excited to share tents at this festival next year.

Back to your situation. It's kinda destructive. Don't get cought up on that feeling that you have to be faithful. **** that, you haven't even kissed. Go for a couple of other chicks. It'll help you handle the pressure of actually kissing her.

I'll advise you to give her up after you meet in a month. The painful feelings simply aren't worth the feelings of validation.
 

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haha okay like I said, I know it sounds crazy but she's such a good fit for my personality. Honestly.

Yes we've made out. Obviously. :rolleyes: I knew my chance and I took it!

We're still crazy about each other and I'm going to stick with it. I don't feel as lonely today for some reason. It's all good; she's coming in a month for a few days, and after that she's coming here over spring break and the summer for a couple weeks.

I'm hoping I can make it last. Even if I can't, I'm willing to take that chance just so I can be with her more.

Hey Marvin, bro - I'm in Canada.
 

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Your question is how do I fight this?
Well, obviously you think she's the one , and i do not want to break your heart or something but man you've got to be more cool about it and not think about her (all the time).
I think I don't need to explain to you why it isn't good to think about a girl too much.
Just chill take it easy and anyway it's all good, she's is coming so what is there to think about?
 

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By her going and coming back that would hurt your feelings soo much , ive been there and it happened to me , and when it ended i was in soo much pain , but by time i found out that thats a good thing, an made me able to move on and it was such a relief .

I advice you to find another girls ( that would make u forget her a little ) , and there is no such thing as the one in highschool , but even though with other girls ud still be thinking about her , so if i was u id end it after this month , i know its such a great feeling and all . but its hurting your emotions painfully .
 
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