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I need to diss off a chick.
I'd like to ask my question straight up, but I'm going to go into the details here because part of me thinks i am over-reacting.
Any advice/feedback is appreciated.
I expressed interest in HBEyes back in January. We met in school a couple of months previous, and her and I were doing a scene together (acting school). Her and I started hanging out, and after a month or so, I made a move on her (tried kissing her). She backed away.
The reason why?...she apparantly was "suffering from a broken heart, and just needed friends"...
I took that as a diss...but...she was a cool chick. I had no problem being friends with her, so I kept my friendship with her.
2 weeks later, she starts dating someone - go figure -
All of a sudden, she is distant with me...doesn't return phone calls, no communication...nothing.
Okay fine...her attention is with the guys she is with...no big deal. The only problem is that it felt the entire friendship was gone too.
We still ended up working on our scene throughout the whole time, but she made it quite uncomfortable. I decided to keep my distance (walked away)...I didn't call her, I didn't talk to her in school unless she approached me.
School for us ended in March...
I found out in April that there is HUGE acting opportunity for me in September...but...I needed someone who I knew and worked with before to get it going...naturally, I ask her as the opportunity involved me working on the same scene her and i did in school.
She's excited...we get together, we talk...everything is really cool. It was like whatever tension was there is gone...and it was back to being normal again. I assumed that the distance helped out, we got over whatever issues were there, and things were cool.
A week later she asks me to do something...but I end up not being able to make it. We talk on the phone a few days later...I get her cracking up laughing for most of the convo.
A week later I get free tickets to a Gwen Stefani concert, and I invite her (a few friends were going). I get a message on my machine..."hi...umm...yeah...let's rehearse this week...and about the Gwen Stefani thing...ummm....i don't...think i can...make it..."
Since that day she has been EXTREMELY distant with me...once again. She didn't even call me on my birthday, when she knew 100% when it was (invited her to the party). She isn't making the scene a prority...not returning calls for a rehearsal etc.
So, I call her on it, and we discussed things. I told her that this whole thing is a pattern with her...she did the same thing with me in school...bailing on rehearsals, distance...not returning phone calls. As far as I am concerned, whatever happened back in January was over. She agreed and said that isn't wasn't an issue anymore. She then said that she KNOWS her and I are going to be fine for this acting thing in September, and until it gets closer to the time it's not really a priority for her.
Whatever.
We end up reheasing the next day.
That was almost 4 weeks ago...I've called her twice since then, and I have heard NOTHING back from her. I had a screeening of one of my films and a big producer from HBO was there, and some top agents...I invite her...I hear nothing. I call her to see wassup...normal call I would give any one of my friends...nothing.
I ended up ****ing a chick last week that knows her casually...she told me that about 1 month ago, that HBEyes started seeing some guy (her other scene partner)...
Ahhhhhh...now things start to make sense....
The only time this girl communicates with me (calls me, hangs out with me), is when she is single. As soon as she starts seeing someone, she doesn't return phone calls, and she gets distant.
Sounds like she's playing me for attention...
So...given all that...i've decided to cut ALL my losses with this chick, and I've already found a new scene parter for this thing.
The issue is...she doesn't know I'm fvcking off.
So...am I over-reacting?
Ideally, I'd like to avoid her phonecalls, and never call her back...afterall... that's what she is doing to me. She'll eventually get the idea, and hopefully realize that her and i are no longer doing the scene.
That is the easiest way to handle this...
OR
I can answer the phone the next time she calls me, and tell her
straight up. My only problem with that, is that it may get ugly from my end (because i am so pi$$ed at her).
What is the best, snd most efective way to deal with this...so I walk away with respect and not some hurt pu$$y?
I need to diss off a chick.
I'd like to ask my question straight up, but I'm going to go into the details here because part of me thinks i am over-reacting.
Any advice/feedback is appreciated.
I expressed interest in HBEyes back in January. We met in school a couple of months previous, and her and I were doing a scene together (acting school). Her and I started hanging out, and after a month or so, I made a move on her (tried kissing her). She backed away.
The reason why?...she apparantly was "suffering from a broken heart, and just needed friends"...
I took that as a diss...but...she was a cool chick. I had no problem being friends with her, so I kept my friendship with her.
2 weeks later, she starts dating someone - go figure -
All of a sudden, she is distant with me...doesn't return phone calls, no communication...nothing.
Okay fine...her attention is with the guys she is with...no big deal. The only problem is that it felt the entire friendship was gone too.
We still ended up working on our scene throughout the whole time, but she made it quite uncomfortable. I decided to keep my distance (walked away)...I didn't call her, I didn't talk to her in school unless she approached me.
School for us ended in March...
I found out in April that there is HUGE acting opportunity for me in September...but...I needed someone who I knew and worked with before to get it going...naturally, I ask her as the opportunity involved me working on the same scene her and i did in school.
She's excited...we get together, we talk...everything is really cool. It was like whatever tension was there is gone...and it was back to being normal again. I assumed that the distance helped out, we got over whatever issues were there, and things were cool.
A week later she asks me to do something...but I end up not being able to make it. We talk on the phone a few days later...I get her cracking up laughing for most of the convo.
A week later I get free tickets to a Gwen Stefani concert, and I invite her (a few friends were going). I get a message on my machine..."hi...umm...yeah...let's rehearse this week...and about the Gwen Stefani thing...ummm....i don't...think i can...make it..."
Since that day she has been EXTREMELY distant with me...once again. She didn't even call me on my birthday, when she knew 100% when it was (invited her to the party). She isn't making the scene a prority...not returning calls for a rehearsal etc.
So, I call her on it, and we discussed things. I told her that this whole thing is a pattern with her...she did the same thing with me in school...bailing on rehearsals, distance...not returning phone calls. As far as I am concerned, whatever happened back in January was over. She agreed and said that isn't wasn't an issue anymore. She then said that she KNOWS her and I are going to be fine for this acting thing in September, and until it gets closer to the time it's not really a priority for her.
Whatever.
We end up reheasing the next day.
That was almost 4 weeks ago...I've called her twice since then, and I have heard NOTHING back from her. I had a screeening of one of my films and a big producer from HBO was there, and some top agents...I invite her...I hear nothing. I call her to see wassup...normal call I would give any one of my friends...nothing.
I ended up ****ing a chick last week that knows her casually...she told me that about 1 month ago, that HBEyes started seeing some guy (her other scene partner)...
Ahhhhhh...now things start to make sense....
The only time this girl communicates with me (calls me, hangs out with me), is when she is single. As soon as she starts seeing someone, she doesn't return phone calls, and she gets distant.
Sounds like she's playing me for attention...
So...given all that...i've decided to cut ALL my losses with this chick, and I've already found a new scene parter for this thing.
The issue is...she doesn't know I'm fvcking off.
So...am I over-reacting?
Ideally, I'd like to avoid her phonecalls, and never call her back...afterall... that's what she is doing to me. She'll eventually get the idea, and hopefully realize that her and i are no longer doing the scene.
That is the easiest way to handle this...
OR
I can answer the phone the next time she calls me, and tell her
straight up. My only problem with that, is that it may get ugly from my end (because i am so pi$$ed at her).
What is the best, snd most efective way to deal with this...so I walk away with respect and not some hurt pu$$y?
.