There is this girl who is giving me very strong IOIs. She's challenging me to bring my friends and do something with her and her (girl) friends, it's like a sports challenge. I don't know what to do. There is this giant block in my brain. I know what I'm supposed to do, the main goal of this post is not to find out how I should deal with her specifically (asking her out on an action date with lots of opportunities for challenging activities sounds like a good alternative to me). I want to know how to deal with my brain.
I have this mental block in my brain. It's the very essence of AFC. I'm scared of her. I've been scared of 90% of the girls that I've found interesting. I'm scared that I'll make a fool of myself and I'm scared that others will find out. I know that my problem is bad confidence and caring too much of what other people think, and that this is mostly because of inexperience. I don't generally have bad confidence, but it's very bad in dealing with girls that I'm interested in. It's like my weak spot. I love all the other areas of my life.
The first time I visited this site was 4 years ago. It has helped me in many ways, but not in dealing with girls. How go I get out of this bad circle? I've read the bible many times, I've read a lot of e-books and stuff on the internet, so believe me when I say I know how the game works theoretically. My problem is that I can't get myself to act, I've even tried getting very drunk to get myself to act, but it doesn't help. I still don't approach or when I do I'm too drunk to be able to speak so that they understand. This thing is very deeply rooted inside my brain. The only way to succeed for me right now is if the girl does all the work, and how often does that happen?
If anyone can give advice, please do! If anyone else felt like I do, but managed to get out of it, drop me a pm if you don't want to post how you succeeded here!
I have this mental block in my brain. It's the very essence of AFC. I'm scared of her. I've been scared of 90% of the girls that I've found interesting. I'm scared that I'll make a fool of myself and I'm scared that others will find out. I know that my problem is bad confidence and caring too much of what other people think, and that this is mostly because of inexperience. I don't generally have bad confidence, but it's very bad in dealing with girls that I'm interested in. It's like my weak spot. I love all the other areas of my life.
The first time I visited this site was 4 years ago. It has helped me in many ways, but not in dealing with girls. How go I get out of this bad circle? I've read the bible many times, I've read a lot of e-books and stuff on the internet, so believe me when I say I know how the game works theoretically. My problem is that I can't get myself to act, I've even tried getting very drunk to get myself to act, but it doesn't help. I still don't approach or when I do I'm too drunk to be able to speak so that they understand. This thing is very deeply rooted inside my brain. The only way to succeed for me right now is if the girl does all the work, and how often does that happen?
If anyone can give advice, please do! If anyone else felt like I do, but managed to get out of it, drop me a pm if you don't want to post how you succeeded here!