How do I date and get laid quickly but not hurt anyone?

[skipfontaine22]

Hi there

I am quite rusty these days.

Back in the day I was a bit more skilled, and my favorite was just doing bar pulls because its a nice cut-to-the-chase..

I've never been a date guy.

But here's the deal:

I now want to start doing dates as I simultaneously try to improve my bar-game.

My objective is this: I want to try to go on dates and just have casual sex, quickly. I don't want to do many dates just to get into a women's pants, as this will likely lead them on more than I want.

I also do not want to hurt anyone's feelings and make women feel used.

Do I just clearly bring it up in the beginning that I am looking for something casual and fun?

Thanks

 

[CornbreadFed]

Be good looking

 

[The Duke]

Talk good, have the ability to connect, dress nice, be in decent shape, and act confident. Always worked for me.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

You need to come across as a guy they want to fvck but know you aren't a long term option.

Basically good looking, muscular guy who is a bad boy. If that's not you then good luck.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Just imitate Chad

 

[Velasco]

Do I just clearly bring it up in the beginning that I am looking for something casual and fun?

Nah just got to allow yourself to fall in love with one of them. Easier said than done. But I think if you feel you can trust them, because they've shown to be an honest person time after time again, it makes it easier. You being afraid of hurting them, is really you being afraid of getting hurt by one of them for opening yourself up

 

[MatureDJ]

EscortMax - it works every time.

 

[corrector]

Open her and build rapport. Calibrate with her interest level. Take her to an isolated spot you are familiar with after developing rapport and in a firm and slightly aggressive voice tell her to bend over. She will comply absorbing your masculine energy and say "take me now".
You are the alpha male, you lead and she follows. Make sure she is not the type to call the police otherwise you could end up in jail for rape. Good luck.

Otherwise, escortcelling is probably safer if you can manage the spiritual dynamics.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Trade your pu$$y in for a penis ,OP.

Women lead people on every day as part of their programming. It's impossible to date in modern society without the risk of hurt feelings. You can die crossing the street too.

But to answer your question, just say you're looking for a connection (a "fun connection" or a "genuine connection" depending on context) and leave it open. The truth is every relationship is unique and those relationships that end up in the same place can often start out on different pathways.

 

[MatureDJ]

You need to come across as a guy they want to fvck but know you aren't a long term option.

Basically good looking, muscular guy who is a bad boy. If that's not you then good luck.

It's OVER for LongTermOptionCels.

 

[kavi]

I dont think you can do this without being a low value guy. I always say this cos its been a bane of my exp with women, a truly high value guy will find it difficult to get laid because women will not just want to bang a high value guy (most of the time) they will rather want a ltr with that guy.

If you manage to have a 'real connection' with a woman do you think women have enough ltr abundance or connection abundance to just have se3x with that guy and then let him go. I dont think this is so.

To have sex with women without hurting them imo you mostly need to be a dumb guy who talks alot and just wants to bang and is generally unimpressive to women.

If you are that type of guy or can play the part then there should be lots of advice on here on how to get there.

But this is an interesting topic because I have been saying for some time, and soemthing which is a real pain for me, is that women are in a position due to circumstances where lower value guys are getting laid alot more than higher value guys due to the women mostly only caring about ltrs and not even counting one night stands aka it didnt even happen as far as she is concerned. The women is not going to give it up to the high value she would like to lock=down but the low value guy with no long term value is more likely to get it.

Ofcourse all this is messed up hence why I have been in a lot of pain lately.

 

[Gamisch]

You need to come across as a guy they want to fvck but know you aren't a long term option.

Basically good looking, muscular guy who is a bad boy. If that's not you then good luck.

He said WITHOUT hurting anyone.

This is like asking how do I make a fire underneath the water. I can't be done. Why? Quick plus sex plus carefree plus nice looking plus plus. Women = drama. Either because you dont get what you want,,or because you dont give them what they want.

Seriously tho; OP will find out that somehow..you'll keep finding women that "just wanna feck " at first glance ,only to learn that 9 out of 10 actually wanted a relationship from you and ARE hurt( what he tries to avoid). If you have the time and energy to be at the bars 52 weeks on a year, you might come across some horny drunk gals left and right . OLD can also work for this specifically. But imo women on OLD want relationships as well.

And ofcourse there is the possiblity YOU will get hurt..

Escorts is an example of hurting yourself .

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

Be good looking, deliberate, and willing to put in a bit of effort. It's been my experience that most women actually just want casual sex nowadays anyway...

 

[corrector]

Escorts is an example of hurting yourself .

I only know about adverse spiritual effects that can cause anxiety/panic attacks spurred on by guilt and shame (which mainly affects me from what it seems), but apart from that, in what other way would you, of all people, say its hurting yourself?

 

[Gamisch]

I only know about adverse spiritual effects that can cause anxiety/panic attacks spurred on by guilt and shame (which mainly affects me from what it seems), but apart from that, in what other way would you, of all people, say its hurting yourself?

You've just answered your own question.

But to add to your already answered question; money, selfesteem, self image, personal pride, possible STDs, no " game vitamins "(as in eating fastfood) you'll learn zero, shame and guilt. Strictly 30 minutes of play and then you'll get kicked out. Empty balls who actually want more then "once a month"(and THAT is the moment when its becomes an really expensive hobby!)

A woman who fecks ten men a day will always be..of lesser quality. Sure ,i can hit a hooker and any man can. For FUN. But once you rely on them..you got a serious problem then. If I have women i dint go to hookers. If i dont have women i must go find them. Hookers are only a option as a fun in between snack,something I simpy dont do (anymore).

 

[corrector]

A woman who fecks ten men a day will always be..of lesser quality.

That's the most hard aspect. I remember, back in 2014, when I went to a Supermarket nearby and I said, any guy in this Supermarket may have went with this escort. You get "that" feeling. It's like what other guy had this girl.

Lesser quality puts it very mildly. Horrific probably would have been how I would described that feeling.

Imagine people bragging about bagging a girl you really cared about like she was a piece of meat. Like a girl you are crushing about in High School and you over-hear the jocks brag about her and talk about her like she's some used dirty rag. It's like that feeling. I never treated a girl (who has been with ALLOT of other guys) like a piece of meat before dealing with this escort. She looked too good to be in a position to be doing that type of thing and yeah, I felt guilty about using her like that, and that part of my soul irrevocably went to her and I could not get it back. (ie don't feel this way as enough time has elapsed since 2014).

 

[Gamisch]

That's the most hard aspect. I remember, back in 2014, when I went to a Supermarket nearby and I said, any guy in this Supermarket may have went with this escort. You get "that" feeling. It's like what other guy had this girl.

Lesser quality puts it very mildly. Horrific probably would have been how I would described that feeling.

Imagine people bragging about bagging a girl you really cared about like she was a piece of meat. Like a girl you are crushing about in High School and you over-hear the jocks brag about her and talk about her like she's some used dirty rag. It's like that feeling. I never treated a girl (who has been with ALLOT of other guys) like a piece of meat before dealing with this escort. She looked too good to be in a position to be doing that type of thing and yeah, I felt guilty about using her like that, and that part of my soul irrevocably went to her and I could not get it back. (ie don't feel this way as enough time has elapsed since 2014).

Thats like saying :" that car looked too good to get send to the car graveyard." Looks ,especially with women, say NOTHING about her internal state of being.

But yeah, we have a saying in my dialect that goes like you'll be influenced by what you consume. If all you do is consuming hookers, then at some point you become a...creep type of man, a " wh0re- walker" (is that English?) Difficult to put it in words, but it is about energy and spirit and self image

I dont even like to sit a chair in the train ( and even worst when somebody just sat there and left the seat warm..PUKE). Let alone a hooker whose slept with ten men that day alone..what you want her to suck your D without a condom because hey,it just "feels better"?

I've never met a hooker who wasnt completely broken and they always managed to spend ALL of their money. One even took a taxi to buy a damn lighter, shyte like that.

Its the most pathetic form of pity sex. Her beauty might reduce the "pain " of being a pathetic loser of a man. But never completely. Post nut clearity will double the uncomfortable feelings you already have.


Lastly there's one step below beung a "wh0re walker";thats being her bf.. and YES they ALL have boyfriend, always..

Hope this answers your question.

 

[RazorRambo24]

Whats your greatest asset man? Instant lays are hard for average joes unless you have impeccable game from years of practice. Impeccable game is literally just social and sexual confidence bundled into knowing how to talk to and escalate with women. Women cannot resist confidence and sexual confidence. its like their kryptonite.

and what made you develop rust?

and why were you not a date guy? dates are fun. dates are what lead to se.x. To expect people to have sex with you just off rip is only reserved for the top 10-15% of men. and usually those guys don't have great game.. They just hav ea good tinder profile and height/good looks/good physique.

 

[corrector]

I dont even like to sit a chair in the train ( and even worst when somebody just sat there and left the seat warm..PUKE). Let alone a hooker whose slept with ten men that day alone..what you want her to suck your D without a condom because hey,it just "feels better"?

Yeah, the suck your D (even with a condom on) thing is too far.

I've never met a hooker who wasnt completely broken and they always managed to spend ALL of their money. One even took a taxi to buy a damn lighter, shyte like that.

Have you dealt with a Spanish prostitute before from Latin America?

I thought the Spanish prostitutes came from poor backgrounds in Latin America and came to a place like Canada so they can wire their money and help their starving family in South America. I thought that was where my money eventually went. Latin America is known as being poor country where allot of people live hard and prostitution is how allot of girls there make money to support their families.

Its the most pathetic form of pity sex.

But is it worst then outright begging "help, I'm a virgin, please save me" on an adult profile like I did in November, 2006 and barely got a few bites near the end of the month? (I aborted the whole thing at that time) What other forms of p1ty sex do you know of?

What if you don't have sex? You actually have to penetrate the vag for it to be sex?

Post nut clearity will double the uncomfortable feelings you already have.

For sure.

Lastly there's one step below beung a "wh0re walker";thats being her bf.. and YES they ALL have boyfriend, always..

Especially if she offers the "sloppy toppy" to clients then such a boyfriend is indeed a cuck.

 

[Gamisch]

Yeah, the suck your D (even with a condom on) thing is too far.



Have you dealt with a Spanish prostitute before from Latin America?

I thought the Spanish prostitutes came from poor backgrounds in Latin America and came to a place like Canada so they can wire their money and help their starving family in South America. I thought that was where my money eventually went. Latin America is known as being poor country where allot of people live hard and prostitution is how allot of girls there make money to support their families.



But is it worst then outright begging "help, I'm a virgin, please save me" on an adult profile like I did in November, 2006 and barely got a few bites near the end of the month? (I aborted the whole thing at that time) What other forms of p1ty sex do you know of?

What if you don't have sex? You actually have to penetrate the vag for it to be sex?



For sure.



Especially if she offers the "sloppy toppy" to clients then such a boyfriend is indeed a cuck.

You should start working out like crazy and at least give YOURSELF the opportunity to see what life is like being fit amd strong.

Yes I'm from south America. You are delusional to think they're " fecking to support their family ". They're fecking for gucci bags and ironically vacations, luxury items ect..ofcourse there will be a smart one who saves money and does something great buti guess that is a small percentage.


Most of those women are broken as i said. Lots of drug abuse ,depression and alcoholism what deteriorates them even faster.

If I am in a relationship then kissing =sex.period