Confused said:
I agree, the ironic thing is she's a student but lives in a rich area so accustomed to going to expensive places. Generally what I see is that rich guys in those areas or people they generally associate with always pay for everything, if they go to a club and get a table the guys pay for everything, they make so much money they dont care. So the girls are spoilt to say the least.
I know she needs to feel superb attraction to me but her friends will be in her ear asking why i dont her to this place or that place and then that will lead to more tests. Can a speech about wanting someone to like me for me cos girls i've been out with in the past have tried to manipulate me into taking them expensive places has turned me off? or is that a DLV that I can be manipulated cos I'm AFC?
I think there's a better way for me to word it..
First off.
You think too much, this is nonesense; 'but her friends will be in her ear'.
Seriously if your going to date a girl, this is the least of your concerns or worries, this shi* shouldn't even be on your radar. 50% chance it's all in your head, 50% chance your right and 100% who gives a fuc*! seriously?
As for the taking her out and paying for her. The main problem you have and one that you don't see yet, is your oneitus pandering.
Seriously do you think this question enters into the head of a guy with options or an Alpha guy for example?
No, not in the slightest, only a beta AFC who has a need to please concerns himself with this stuff.
Why even take her to a resturant? Take her out and treat her? If this was me, i'd be thinking of keeping it minimul and filling in the gap until I get her back to mine, instead of trying to buy my way into her and her friends approval.
Your biggest problem is not what she will think of you, it's the programming in your head that thinks you need to buy her approval, further exemplified by the mind fuc* of bringing 'her friend in her ear' scenario into the mix.
Why not experiment on what YOU WANT, i.e why not use it has a means to gauge what type of girl she is, i.e if you dont like spending shi* loads of money at expensive resturants, DONT TAKE HER TO ONE, and see her reaction!
Not rocket science is it.
If you simply want to fuc* her, spending your money on her or not has about the same chance of getting in her pants! Actually you have more chance getting in her pants by bouncing her to your own bars and having a good time, instead of sitting accross a table looking like your about to puke when the bill comes.
Take her to a bar, have some fun!