how do i approach a girl from work?

[latino158]

im 5'11 and 6/10 face

she is in my league and 5'4 maybe

she is latina, so language no problem

always gives looks and smiles, i said hello to her once, is obvious she finds me attractive but she works in a different section, and the only time i see her is on breaks, but she usually talking to other female coworkers or on the phone

i dont know her name, but i fear she may have a boyfriend, so maybe i should ask her coworkers or find out her name, and look her up on facebook first?

i would like to simply talk to her without asking her out but im not good at this, mostly im afraid of not knowing what to say or ask, and make a fool of my self

if u could help with some questions or something to introduce myself, i rarely if never see her by herself doing nothing

i guess im just gonna wait for right opportunity when she is alone and say something, is just that im kind pf shy

 

[zorg198]

I will tell you this - don't sh1t where you eat .

Don't date girls from work, period.

Joe.

 

[Ray S]

As Zorg198 said. You have to be carefull at work. I have done it a few times and it's never ended well.

 

[Honda1990]

is obvious she finds me attractive

uh huh. sure.

i dont know her name, but i fear she may have a boyfriend, so maybe i should ask her coworkers or find out her name, and look her up on facebook first?

Do you know how "creepy" you come off here? Ask her co-workers and the end result will be 10x worse than if you just spoke with her directly.

i would like to simply talk to her without asking her out but im not good at this, mostly im afraid of not knowing what to say or ask, and make a fool of my self

if u could help with some questions or something to introduce myself, i rarely if never see her by herself doing nothing

i guess im just gonna wait for right opportunity when she is alone and say something, is just that im kind pf shy

Be cordial and polite, but as others have said, don't pursue co-workers for your needs. Even if you don't work in the same section, department, etc you are still at the same workplace - it's never worth it.

 

[Yorkex]

Just don't man.

 

[mangotot]

Don't sh!t where you eat.

 

[latino158]

there are 2 young couples at my work, and everyone including the managers know, and is accepted as normal, which is the main reason why i want to give it a shot

 

[Donaldinho]

Man up or shut up.
First you bring up the "league" crap, that's not good.
Go out and meet some women outside of work. Like other (wise) people on here said, don't date co-workers. You don't want to be reminded of (eventual) mistakes every day.
You're just going for her because it's easy. Go out of your comfort zone.

 

[latino158]

Man up or shut up.
First you bring up the "league" crap, that's not good.
Go out and meet some women outside of work. Like other (wise) people on here said, don't date co-workers. You don't want to be reminded of (eventual) mistakes every day.
You're just going for her because it's easy. Go out of your comfort zone.

so how come there are 2 couple at my work? who obviously met at work

in other places, im sure same thing happens, is possible to meet your future wife at work, it has happened many times for people

i bring up the league to show that is within my reach

 

[VladPatton]

You walk up and you ask her to lunch, coffee, whatever. Simple. There is nothing more you can do to get her to go out with you, guaranteed.

 

[latino158]

You walk up and you ask her to lunch, coffee, whatever. Simple. There is nothing more you can do to get her to go out with you, guaranteed.

wouldnt it be better to find out if she is single?

talk to her like any personf, find her name, hopefully find her on facebook and check, that way i would save myself from embarrassment

 

[Aware]

wouldnt it be better to find out if she is single?

talk to her like any personf, find her name, hopefully find her on facebook and check, that way i would save myself from embarrassment

Yeah, that's brilliant plan, Mr. Nice Guy.

 

[collosuss]

Yeah, that's brilliant plan, Mr. Nice Guy.

Hahaha

 

[Mr_Maximus]

wouldnt it be better to find out if she is single?

talk to her like any personf, find her name, hopefully find her on facebook and check, that way i would save myself from embarrassment

You have provided the answer to your own question.

if you have made up your mind that you want to go after this one then just go up to her, "we haven't met yet" and introduce yourself. chit chat for a bit then tell her that some of you are going for lunch / a drink after work and she is welcome to join you.

you can extract the information you are looking for without being direct or exposing your interest and intent.

 

[latino158]

lmao

i was hoping for something more specific, what to say and ****

 

[rawson-1992]

I posted a thread about a girl I was dating at work the other day.

Don't do it! Seriously.

 

[sylvester the cat]

wouldnt it be better to find out if she is single?

talk to her like any personf, find her name, hopefully find her on facebook and check, that way i would save myself from embarrassment

you'll find out if she is single by asking her out. you said in your OP it was obvious she was attracted to you so what are you waiting for?

as a sidenote i was convinced a colleague fancied me. it was a total nightmare. turned out to be the best thing that happened to me as it brought me here but i would never want to go through that mental torture again. if you takeaway anything from this it's never talk to anyone in the office about your business. if you do it won't be your business any longer. it will be the whole office's business and don't offices like to talk. :nono:

 

[bigneil]

You don't know her name yet?

A girl can only smile so many times before she loses respect for you for not approaching.

Never make a direct approach without buying signs, but always approach if she is smiling and holding eye contact. It doesn't matter what you say.

When the opportunity comes (she is walking ahead of you for example) you should say "Hello. I always see you but I don't know your name."

If she doesn't ask your name, take the hint. She is not interested.

If she really likes you she will extend her hand and ask your name.

Do NOT extend your hand like a dork and say "Hi I'm Latino".

Never hit on girls at work - period. They can hit on you though.

NEVER ask coworkers about a hot girl at work!!! They will sabotage it instantly.

And be honest. You're the "hot" latina, right? And you came here to see whether he likes you? If so, he doesn't. You are dishonest. If I'm wrong, for the love of God learn how to capitalize, which is why you seem feminine (along with acting too shy). Shy = weak.

Guys, when a girl smiles at you and you act too shy to talk to her, she thinks "Wimp. Next.". You are telling her she's too good for you!

 

[Maximus Rex]

Don Juans Don't Do What Other People are Doing

there are 2 young couples at my work, and everyone including the managers know, and is accepted as normal, which is the main reason why i want to give it a shot

so how come there are 2 couple at my work? who obviously met at work

in other places, im sure same thing happens, is possible to meet your future wife at work, it has happened many times for people

i bring up the league to show that is within my reach

Just because people do it doesn't mean it's the right thing to do. There's to much potential for a workplace romance to generate into a cluster eff. If this relationship ends badly, you're going to have to see this chick at work. Also, if she's particularly vindictive she can accuse you of sexual harassment.

If you're using what other people are doing as standard on whether or not to do something, then go full beta and send her some roses and chocolates and with cute little card that says how you've been admiring her from a far and you'd like to take her out.