HI guys!
Here is the story:
Back in college I was heavily into Pickup, dating, and used all the popular methods out there at the time. I did pretty good. Had several girlfriends (mostly open relationships), experienced one 4-some, had a lot of crazy sexual adventures, and lived my best life ever overall...
Then at 25, after a series of terrible jobs (life after college is ****ing not fun at all...), I decided to go live abroad and build my own business online. Long story short, it worked, but crashed during cov!d and I had to go back home where I no longer had any connections (Everyone from college just left into other towns, and the few I talked to... It seemed like we were completely disconnected then.)
Today, I’m 29, I’m rebuilding my business from scratch (after a long covid-depression), I know it will be okay financially as I’ve already done it before, but something else catches my mind: I feel like my tastes and desires with women have completely changed.
When I was abroad, I had an LTR with a 35yo Chinese woman (looked way younger, and very energetic.) The breakup with her due to distance was part of my depression. This year, after rebuilding my mental health, I tried going back in bars, clubs, and bringing chicks home. My skills are still there, I still get the results, but it doesn’t feel the same anymore.
I don’t get much joy anymore from bringing home 18–25-year-olds. I even end up being their “dad-figure” in most cases; not that I want it, but they keep asking me questions about life when they hear about my past...
My town is a small student town. When I was a student myself, it was great, but today, I can’t find a single bar or night environment that is not designed only for very young people. The few 30yo I’ve met so far here were boring to death and severely depressed (maybe just because I was in a bad phase myself, but still...)
I also noticed that since the time I lived in Asia, I had way more trouble to connect with people on a deeper level back here in Europe. I talk about my experiences, and they nod their head, but they can’t relate, and don’t understand why I don’t feel “at home” here.
I still deeply love nightlife and want to be around people at night, I’m a social butterfly, but it doesn’t feel the same anymore. The way I see it now, the best option is: as soon as my business is fully operational again, to move back in a big city where (from my experience) it’s easier to find people from all walks of life in night/party environments.
But I wanted, if possible, some points of views of people who already passed the early thirties (or are literally into their 40s) and can relate, or have some insights, ideas, shared-experiences, or comments about this situation.
You can help?
Here is the story:
Back in college I was heavily into Pickup, dating, and used all the popular methods out there at the time. I did pretty good. Had several girlfriends (mostly open relationships), experienced one 4-some, had a lot of crazy sexual adventures, and lived my best life ever overall...
Then at 25, after a series of terrible jobs (life after college is ****ing not fun at all...), I decided to go live abroad and build my own business online. Long story short, it worked, but crashed during cov!d and I had to go back home where I no longer had any connections (Everyone from college just left into other towns, and the few I talked to... It seemed like we were completely disconnected then.)
Today, I’m 29, I’m rebuilding my business from scratch (after a long covid-depression), I know it will be okay financially as I’ve already done it before, but something else catches my mind: I feel like my tastes and desires with women have completely changed.
When I was abroad, I had an LTR with a 35yo Chinese woman (looked way younger, and very energetic.) The breakup with her due to distance was part of my depression. This year, after rebuilding my mental health, I tried going back in bars, clubs, and bringing chicks home. My skills are still there, I still get the results, but it doesn’t feel the same anymore.
I don’t get much joy anymore from bringing home 18–25-year-olds. I even end up being their “dad-figure” in most cases; not that I want it, but they keep asking me questions about life when they hear about my past...
My town is a small student town. When I was a student myself, it was great, but today, I can’t find a single bar or night environment that is not designed only for very young people. The few 30yo I’ve met so far here were boring to death and severely depressed (maybe just because I was in a bad phase myself, but still...)
I also noticed that since the time I lived in Asia, I had way more trouble to connect with people on a deeper level back here in Europe. I talk about my experiences, and they nod their head, but they can’t relate, and don’t understand why I don’t feel “at home” here.
I still deeply love nightlife and want to be around people at night, I’m a social butterfly, but it doesn’t feel the same anymore. The way I see it now, the best option is: as soon as my business is fully operational again, to move back in a big city where (from my experience) it’s easier to find people from all walks of life in night/party environments.
But I wanted, if possible, some points of views of people who already passed the early thirties (or are literally into their 40s) and can relate, or have some insights, ideas, shared-experiences, or comments about this situation.
You can help?
