I think the first thing you should work on is some
inner game. Read stuff to change any of your mindsets, such as the tips forum and the inner game section on
www.bristollair.com.
Honestly, as far as inner game goes, the thing that probably helped me the most was to become comfortable with myself, my strengths and my weaknesses, and to learn to accept myself. No point beating myself up about things I can't change (like being ethnic or 5'10"), but that's no excuse not to work to improve the things I can (like working out and becoming more educated)
Recently, I've learned to detach myself from my ego and see gaming women as...well...basically a game. Most guys are afraid of going out and getting their little egos hurt by rejection, but I see it as sort of a surreal game and chock any mistakes up to experience. So what if some girl is indifferent to you? You'll survive. I honestly have very little to no fear of approaching.
I'd say after internalizing things and building up your inner game and some basic techniques, the most important thing is...
Experience, experience, experience, experience, EXPERIENCE
The difference between keyboard jockeys and guys who are good with women (I wouldn't say I'm really good with women yet, but I'm working on it) are that keyboard jockeys stay at home and read posts and bibles and think about it, but don't actually go out and apply the knowledge.
You really gotta get out there and see what works and what doesn't. Be flexible and be willing to try new things (and ideas of your own). There have been dozens of times I go home alone after a night at the bars and thought about some of the ridiculous or stupid things ive done or said and just thought about it and laughed, learned from it, and tried to avoid the same mistake the next time I would go out.
When you start getting things rolling, you'll see how some of this stuff you read about online is stupid and useless (as far as your game goes) and how much of it you can actually use and apply.
For example, I never ever ever use any canned openers like stuff that Mystery or Style would say ("Who lies more, men or women?"). Stuff like that isn't congruent at all with my game. I think openers are the easiest part, I usually just say something situational and easy like if the games on at the bar "Hey, there's no WAY he was out, he definately beat the throw!" and just get a little chat on...simple as that.
My midgame was somewhat weak and was my sticking point up until recently. I think what really helped me over the hump was reading Ross Jeffries' patterns and learn how to speak chick, basically relating to them in emotional language and words. Also using cold reading to make it seem like they've known you forever, combined with emotional language and slow, deep tonality, works wonders on building emotional connections.
End game...well..you just gotta know when to go in for the kiss. The only way you can get good at reading when she's ready to go there is experience. I've missed the time to go in for the kiss dozens of times as well, but not anymore. There's a time and a look when you just
know. After kissing all you have to do is escalate and go as far as both of you are comfortable going. Don't ***** yourself out though, sometimes not having sex right away is the best way to do things. I have a different opinion on sex than most guys here probably.
Anyways, I didn't mean for the post to be this long or be a bare bones explanation of my technique, but there it is. Feedback welcome, fellas.