How did you guys conquer your approach anxiety?

[universal dawah]

How did you guys conquer your approach anxiety and how do you think I can conquer it

 

[universal dawah]

I used some tactics from "psycho cybernetics" and now I don't imagine bad results while going to approach but still some kind of anxiety stops me

 

[DonJuanjr]

Go out knowing you're going to come off as nervous and anxious and maybe weird. You are going to get a lot of rejections. It will over time desensitize your ego investment in the rejections. Then when this happens, you will come off more confident and will start to see results. I am still dealing with it. Earlier this week I approached 9 females got 3 numbers. Two of them I'm talking to. I went out yesterday to approach more females while I'm currently talking to the two from earlier this week. I was in a funk and blew some approach opportunities. It's a gradual process.

 

[characternote]

I've not 'cured' it. I mean, even people who coach this stuff and have made tens of thousands of approaches still get it (I remember the RSD coaches saying this) but it's nothing like it used to be

The funny thing is that, what helped was taking the pressure off. I think my AA was exacerbated in the old days, because I'd read and watched so much material and was under the misbelief that I had way more control over the interaction (in particular her attraction) than I realised! Experience taught me the truth and with that I also feel that my AA lessened. There shouldn't be much pressure. The result is already 99% decided! Think of it more like 'trying your luck' as we say here and accept that you'll probably get rejected and it will be mildly awkward for a few seconds and then that's it. You forget. She definitely forgets

 

[Xenom0rph]

MOGmaxxing, looksmaxxing and careermaxxing, my young friend.

If you're the tallest guy in the room with the best physique, and if you have a good education and career, I guarantee you won't have approach anxiety.

Make the most of your youth and pursue education and connections so that you'll set yourself up for a good career that pays a ton of money.

"Life is short, and youth even shorter, don't waste it."

 

[MatureDJ]

I just decided that I should do something where I could get sexual release without fapping. Wow, what a big investment of time for just a few prostatic contractions into a vessel.

(Of course, EscortMaxxing abroad also works, and takes a lot less time & money. )

 

[universal dawah]

Go out knowing you're going to come off as nervous and anxious and maybe weird. You are going to get a lot of rejections. It will over time desensitize your ego investment in the rejections. Then when this happens, you will come off more confident and will start to see results. I am still dealing with it. Earlier this week I approached 9 females got 3 numbers. Two of them I'm talking to. I went out yesterday to approach more females while I'm currently talking to the two from earlier this week. I was in a funk and blew some approach opportunities. It's a gradual process.

was it a direct approach or indirect?

 

[universal dawah]

MOGmaxxing, looksmaxxing and careermaxxing, my young friend.

If you're the tallest guy in the room with the best physique, and if you have a good education and career, I guarantee you won't have approach anxiety.

Make the most of your youth and pursue education and connections so that you'll set yourself up for a good career that pays a ton of money.

"Life is short, and youth even shorter, don't waste it."

I already taller than you and most others on this site. no one studies whole day otherwise they are zombie so it will be enough if even I get 1 hour for girlfriend/sex

 

[universal dawah]

I just decided that I should do something where I could get sexual release without fapping. Wow, what a big investment of time for just a few prostatic contractions into a vessel.

(Of course, EscortMaxxing abroad also works, and takes a lot less time & money. )

that worked for me kind of when I did not fap for few days but nowadays I can't control

 

[Xenom0rph]

I already taller than you and most others on this site. no one studies whole day otherwise they are zombie so it will be enough if even I get 1 hour for girlfriend/sex

It pleases me to hear this, you've checked off height. Next step is to MOGmaxx aka physiquemaxx....

 

[FraUnderRadaren]

Approach Anxiety is a bit!h. There's really no way around it other than knowing you're going to fail but doing it anyways. Though, I found that when you approach it helps to have a legitimate question and then rooting it with why you are asking. That way you're not putting yourself nor your target on the spot. But more importantly, you don't want her to immediately say, "No". That response will kill your confidence. If it's open ended, then it's harder for her to say "No"

 

[Charm2K]

You dont ever "conquer" it, its always there no matter how many approach you do in life, it will always be there in background.

 

[universal dawah]

It pleases me to hear this, you've checked off height. Next step is to MOGmaxx aka physiquemaxx....

I don't want muscles ever

 

[universal dawah]

Approach Anxiety is a bit!h. There's really no way around it other than knowing you're going to fail but doing it anyways. Though, I found that when you approach it helps to have a legitimate question and then rooting it with why you are asking. That way you're not putting yourself nor your target on the spot. But more importantly, you don't want her to immediately say, "No". That response will kill your confidence. If it's open ended, then it's harder for her to say "No"

I know approaching reduces the anxiety but you have to reduce it in order to approach for first time. It's like a paradox

 

[FraUnderRadaren]

I know approaching reduces the anxiety but you have to reduce it in order to approach for first time. It's like a paradox

It's not really a paradox. You just have to do it, regardless how nervous you are. In order to get good at something, you have to do it badly at first.

 

[TheCharmingGuy]

Find what you’re good at and go do it. For me that’s video games, bluegrass music, working out/doing athletic activities, and cooking. It makes you feel like a great person with lots of talent and it will take your mind off your anxiety as well as establishing confidence.