How did you get over your shyness?

[Magnatolia]

Hi All,

I want to know what you did to overcome your shyness of woman. I found a thread on here where a lot of you said that this website was your changing point in your life.

What did you actually do to achieve the change? I've been searching for this information on the web and there's just so many different options.

Thanks in advance,
Jason

 

[Logen]

well Jason, i suggest you read the DJ bible. it's made for people like yourself.

your question has been posted hundreds of times by guys, so instead of going through the hassle of reposting informational and suggestions it's all compiled into that Bible.

you don’t have to read the entire thing but read a good part of it. it has all you need.

(look at the top right of the page and you’ll see it.)

 

[uzio]

Hitting a bathtub with your head in a rythmical manner helps.

If you don't have a bathtub - sorry, yer screwed.

oh

RTFDJB!

 

[mobius]

I read many of the numerous articles on sosuave.com and got alot of help from my e-friends. At that point I told myself to quit worrying about rejection and "carpe diem". You don't know unless you try and the regret of never trying is a whole lot worse than any rejection.

 

[BuckwildNYC]

It's like when you are at the ocean and the waters cold, don't tip toe in, just dive in and get it over with.

Just put it in your mind that you are tired of not getting any ass and get out there and talk to every girl you see. I know it seems like right now your shyness is the biggest problem in the world as far as getting chicks, but believe me its only the tip of the iceberg. After you get over your shyness there is a whole list of things after that. Knowing what to say, how to say it, having good body language, being dressed nice and well groomed, and learning how to make that first physical contact with a girl you hardly even know.

So hurry up and get over that shyness so you can start working on the good stuff. That's where I'm at. I'm over my shyness but sometimes I say stupid shyt sometimes. Just gotta learn what works and what doesn't.

 

[Logen]

Originally posted by BuckwildNYC
It's like when you are at the ocean and the waters cold, don't tip toe in, just dive in and get it over with.

oh my god people are using my metaphors :cheer:

 

[O Snap]

what is the worst thing that is going to happen when you talk to her?

1 year down the road, how is that one small experience going to affect you?

Thing about these. All you can do is reach down, grab your ****ing balls, and go for it!

Good luck man.

 

[MightyMate]

Start going out of home and it will happen itself before Yoou notice.

 

[Bourne]

DJ BIBLE.

Then do the DJ Boot Camp.

Aplly what you learned.

 

[Desdinova]

I sat down and took a good look at what a woman actually is. A woman is nothing more than a human being who has different sex organs. That's all they are. They're made up of skin and bones just like you and your friends.

Another way to conquer this is to take baby steps and approach less attractive women and start conversations with them. Once you find it not so bad, move up to women who you're actually attracted to.

You're only intimidated by women's looks. You've been programmed by society to believe that women are superior because they're physically attractive. The truth is, they belch, fart, and scratch their ass just like the rest of humankind does. What's so intimidating about that?

 

[Hamno]

Here's a real practical tip not based on keyboard jockying or something I read on a webpage somewhere, its what I have done in my past that helped me.

I joined a Toastmasters group,
www.toastmasters.org (can help you find a club near you)

Its an organization that develops public speaking skills in a supportive enviroment and once you are comfortable standing up in front of a group of a dozen people and talking its easy to talk to 50, or even one. It can help you learn to talk conherently under stress and express yourself physically without overdoing it.

Honestly, at least go to the webpage and give it a read. There are groups all around the world full of people learning to speak and come out of thier shell and mentors who can teach you far more usefull information than 'how to pick up a HB10'

Hamno

 

[Desdinova]

I'm not sure if toastmasters could kill a guy's intimidation of beautiful women. I used to do public speaking and I did it well, but I still sucked at approaching and closing women. Speaking to a group is different than speaking to someone one on one.

But then again, I've never taken toastmasters, so I have no clue what they have to offer. Do they also focus on one on one conversation?

 

[wowiehowie]

Originally posted by Desdinova
I used to do public speaking and I did it well, but I still sucked at approaching and closing women. Speaking to a group is different than speaking to someone one on one.

Funny, I'm just the opposite. I'm great at the one-on-one's but have a little apprehension about groups.

 

[satyriasis]

understand that you may not completely get over it. you may just be able to turn it down a few notches, but your going to have to learn to roll with it until you can completely get it out your system.

 

[mahon83050]

Originally posted by Desdinova
I sat down and took a good look at what a woman actually is. A woman is nothing more than a human being who has different sex organs. That's all they are. They're made up of skin and bones just like you and your friends.

Another way to conquer this is to take baby steps and approach less attractive women and start conversations with them. Once you find it not so bad, move up to women who you're actually attracted to.

You're only intimidated by women's looks. You've been programmed by society to believe that women are superior because they're physically attractive. The truth is, they belch, fart, and scratch their ass just like the rest of humankind does. What's so intimidating about that?

Right on Desdinova. BTW, is your username a combination of Casanova and Destiny.

Magnatolia, Desdinova is right. It is deeply imbedded in the heterosexual male that women are better than us because they are so darn sexy (The hair, lips, smooth skin, ass, legs etc). However, I am sure they feel the same way about us men.

Someone else once posted long ago. Think of a hot women taking a nasty runny **** (this is reality because they all do), or having some nasty stench or fluid coming from her pu$$y. I bet your shyness and intimidation will go away real fast.

"Why be so intimidated by women, when they take a ****, it smells just as bad as yours."