How Damaging Is Porn Addiction?

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What are your thoughts about porn?
I can't think of any good reason to use porn. I can't even think of a neutral reason to use porn.

A man's "sex energy" is a very powerful "tool" if it's used correctly.

Napoleon Hill found in Think and Grow Rich (not a metaphysical book of hooey, more a study comparison rich powerful men to broke betas) one of the common things among those who weren't successful was too much fapping, or too much mindless sex. While a common trait among the wealthy, powerful types was a "directed" sexual energy.

Porn will give you a fake idea of the female mind and the female body.
 

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I can't think of any good reason to use porn. I can't even think of a neutral reason to use porn.

A man's "sex energy" is a very powerful "tool" if it's used correctly.

Napoleon Hill found in Think and Grow Rich (not a metaphysical book of hooey, more a study comparison rich powerful men to broke betas) one of the common things among those who weren't successful was too much fapping, or too much mindless sex. While a common trait among the wealthy, powerful types was a "directed" sexual energy.

Porn will give you a fake idea of the female mind and the female body.

Personally I think if your are addicted to porn, you are more likely to choose chitty woman to have relationships with..

You will more likely search out for the sluttier types.. and if she is giving you PORN like sex, chances are you will more likely overlook certain red flags, in order keep the PORN sex going..

Infact she will more likely become your addiction... you will more than likely over look the good woman, with actual good qualities...

And just settle for the tit's and asss
 

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Fair enough. But to take the ONE study out of millions and run with it is ridiculous. If scientists pick and choose what they want to look at to fit their narrative, the study is biased. Why don't they do studies on how porn helps men? Because the study doesnt affect women, doesn't fit their narrative.

It has everything to do with women. If it was a different problem that allowed men to have sex with women easily, no one would care. But since it affects women, uh oh, it's a big issue.




That's a very imposing paragraph. You are projecting your own thoughts and values on people bro. You don't know porn helps or hurts any more that eating Kitkat or Mars bars does. Who said it doesn't make people comfortable? Maybe it helps women get pregnant a lot faster. You are making major major assumptions.
You're right, I am making assumptions, assumptions based on experience, which many others can relate to.

I know approaching and talking to girls is more effective than watching porn to get comfortable around girls, from personal experience. No one one watches porn with the intent or assumption they will become more comfortable around girls.

I know that "ONE" study on porn-induced erectile dysfunction holds some validity, from personal experience. Regardless of what this study you're hung up on says, my d!ck works better when I abstain or significantly cut down my usage of porn. It's not a coincidence. I want my d!ck at its full potential for my use, not because "women" this or "women" that.


What exactly are you trying to argue? OP's post was asking what are the potential negative consequences of porn use, which people like myself share my experience and others post informative videos which you interpret as "biased science trying to fit a narrative". I get the impression the only narrative here is some form of misguided anti-women one by you, which would frankly be unrelated to the thread or any content within it.
 

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What exactly are you trying to argue? OP's post was asking what are the potential negative consequences of porn use, which people like myself share my experience and others post informative videos which you interpret as "biased science trying to fit a narrative".
I'm not disagreeing with the potential negative consequences of porn use, they are what they are. But scientists should do an in depth full fledged study about the positive effects of porn use, to look at the other side of the issue.
 

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Going without porn has nothing to do with being scared of your girlfriend or becoming some kind of white knight. Don't be ridiculous.

I think everyone would agree that in moderation, a little porn wouldn't be that damaging to your sexual health as long as you maintain some self-control. But that's where most men get lost, is because they can't control themselves. Porn consumption is not conducive to self-control. It plays on the brain's capacity for addiction. Men start out with some images of semi-nude girls, then move up to nude pictures, then videos, then videos of girls having sex, then even more hardcore, and so on until they're watching a girl with electrical leads hooked up to her getting a train run on her by 3 black guys. That **** ain't healthy.

Science hasn't done ALL the studies related to porn because we haven't had that large of a sample size yet. Porn consumption has only been immediately available to a vast majority of men since what, maybe 2000? You've got an entire generation of guys now who probably have never even had sex with a woman, but yet they can't get off to an image of a hot naked girl who they could never pull because their brain is too desensitized. Sure, porn was available to men in earlier generations, but not nearly on the scale it is now. Wait until the next 20 or 30 years when psychologists and scientists have had a chance to learn how porn consumption has effected men throughout their entire adult lives.

Not everything has to be broken down to benefiting men vs. women.
This is a very good post.

I remember when i was at 6th form having convos with my buddies we would say "theres no hot girls at our school" and compare them to porn stars.
 

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Anything you use the word addiction for is not good. Indulge yourself in something for fun? Sure. Feel compelled to do something because you can't get through the day without it? Not good.

Some people can chug back beers all night and not be alcoholic, but for others, heading to the fridge when they first wake up, it's a debilitating illness.

I love a good fap as much as the next guy, but when it controls you it's probably tied into some deeper issue like anxiety, depression or low self esteem (and only perpetuates them rather than cures them).
 

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Approaching women and spinning plates creates massive dopamine hits too.
Yeah, but porn is easier to access and you don't have to worry about things like approach anxiety or if you have enough nerve or energy to go through with an approach, or how the lady would respond. If you are successful in the approach, etc... then it creates massive dopamine hits. However, porn appears to be a mouse-click away. Is it easier to click a mouse and strike a keyboard or approach?
 

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  • I disagree. Having a girlfriend simply takes the guilt out of the masturbation.
  • Half the time when I live with a girl I'll send her to the grocery store or something so I can finally be satisfied.
  • With my current girl, I honestly sometimes masturbate and look at her selfies.
  • You know your girl is hot when you prefer her photos to porn.
  • My favorite porn star is Chloe Couture who is a doppleganger for my girlfriend.
  • "I KNOW what I like, and I'm REAL good" - Anonymous comedian on masturbation circa 1991
What is the point of having a girlfriend and being in a relationship if you like to masturbate? Why would that take the guilt out of masturbating? Isn't sex supposed to be a shared experience leading to a chance of procreation otherwise it's just wrong?
 

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I have a girl, but she's long-distance. I also can hire a prostitute any time I wish, so I always have the option of having sex.
That long-distance girl must mean allot to you then if you would consider hiring a prostitute behind her back to have sex. I wonder what she would think about that? If you can't be satisfied with cyber-sex with her or exchanging pictures or meeting up with her enough to have think of using a prostitute, then what does that say about her or that relationship?[/QUOTE]
 

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Isn't sex supposed to be a shared experience leading to a chance of procreation otherwise it's just wrong?
Shared experience? Procreation? In 2017 that's Disney thinking. Now women use sex to improve their image, get resources, get money. The don't care about "love" and "being one" and all that crap. It's the men who have been brainwashed to think that stuff matters. Women use sex to manipulate the man and society to get: image, status, money, respect, high society, material things.

Think about it: women plays to a mans emotions and takes off her clothes to have sex with him in a movie. She then becomes a major major star and makes millions and is adored for he rest of her life. She has manipulated everyone by having sex with the man onscreen and making him fall in love with her, laughing all the way to the bank.

But hey, let's all find our one true love.
 

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I never quite understood hardcore porn, who gets off watching other people act out sex?
 
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Shared experience? Procreation? In 2017 that's Disney thinking. Now women use sex to improve their image, get resources, get money. The don't care about "love" and "being one" and all that crap. It's the men who have been brainwashed to think that stuff matters. Women use sex to manipulate the man and society to get: image, status, money, respect, high society, material things.

Think about it: women plays to a mans emotions and takes off her clothes to have sex with him in a movie. She then becomes a major major star and makes millions and is adored for he rest of her life. She has manipulated everyone by having sex with the man onscreen and making him fall in love with her, laughing all the way to the bank.

But hey, let's all find our one true love.
It's the principle of it. So, lets take BigNeil (i.e. the guy I was replying to)...he said he doesn't feel guilty about masturbating if he has a girlfriend.
I do not understand that. Do you understand that? You either feel guilty about masturbating because the principle itself is wrong or you don't feel guilty because it's not wrong.
 

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If you are using porn to compensate for not being able to develop a relationship then it is not good for you. Porn is just information of a type that gets you to a place of mind. Its not wrong in itself but if you are using it to compensate for a real sexual relationship it may become an obsession. You may become bored with mainstream porn and start looking at more socially dangerous thrills that will affect your ability to make a sound judgement call about the morality of a sexual act.

Sex shouldn't be obsessive. It will be if you constantly torture yourself about it. Make friendships and relationships with real people. Practice and improve your social skills. Be open about love and be giving and respectful. You will find the reward is that you will find a match who will satisfy you in every way. You will then see porn for what it really is.
I don't see it that way. The porn that I like looking at are called "escort ads". The problem with that and other types of porn is that I can't sleep properly if I look at any of it. It's like something seeps into my subconcious mind and reminds me of an encounter I had with a prostitute 3 years ago and makes me feel icky. The escalation I can see is just buying a sex-toy or using a prostitute, both of which most people would think are valid solutions if you have a dry spell or can't get with any woman. I don't see how that pattern goes to socially dangerous thrills, it seems to be challenging religious sexual repression more than anything else.

My mind is also wired towards God because I'm a born-again Christian and my mind can't handle these things. There is a guilt-load that comes from looking at porn, escort ads, or masturbating and that is God, and the possibility I'm inviting demons to attack me because the whole thing is evil. You see, when a cat starts meowing in my back-yard very loudly, when I hear movements inside my home with no explanation, what is the first thing I'm going to do before I freak out? I'm going to call on Jesus and all of that stops. I need Jesus. I can't afford to play. You don't know when a paranormal event can occur, a UFO can appear out of the sky, or some weird thing could happen, and when it does happen, you need to be prepared. Or, if someone tries to attack you on the street or rob you, again, you need to be prepared to call on Jesus to scare them all off.

The most peaceful solution is to stay the heck away from porn as though it is the plague. The conscience remains pure, I can sleep like a baby, and don't have this excessive nerve-wrecking guilt to worry about.
 

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I suppose, I'd be making some ahem...movies of my future honeymoon...how is, home grown pixels any different?
 

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I suppose, I'd be making some ahem...movies of my future honeymoon...how is, home grown pixels any different?
I really dont care for porn. I need to feel real flesh. That gets me excited. There are plenty of women that will let you feel their flesh. Why watch when you can participate?
 

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Guess I'll just wait for research results on "Why men start watching porn". After all, prevention is the best medicine. Not holding my breath though.
 

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I've been a professional porn masturbator for my teens and early 20s, never had an erection deficit problem or inability to reach orgams quite the opposite.

What creates me erection deficits is extra layers of fat on the girl stripping in front of me and what kills my libido are obnoxious overweight cvnts busting my balls and stressing me, surely not that hot teen girl I fapped on in the the shower the day earlier.
 

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I don't see it that way. The porn that I like looking at are called "escort ads". The problem with that and other types of porn is that I can't sleep properly if I look at any of it. It's like something seeps into my subconcious mind and reminds me of an encounter I had with a prostitute 3 years ago and makes me feel icky. The escalation I can see is just buying a sex-toy or using a prostitute, both of which most people would think are valid solutions if you have a dry spell or can't get with any woman. I don't see how that pattern goes to socially dangerous thrills, it seems to be challenging religious sexual repression more than anything else.

My mind is also wired towards God because I'm a born-again Christian and my mind can't handle these things. There is a guilt-load that comes from looking at porn, escort ads, or masturbating and that is God, and the possibility I'm inviting demons to attack me because the whole thing is evil. You see, when a cat starts meowing in my back-yard very loudly, when I hear movements inside my home with no explanation, what is the first thing I'm going to do before I freak out? I'm going to call on Jesus and all of that stops. I need Jesus. I can't afford to play. You don't know when a paranormal event can occur, a UFO can appear out of the sky, or some weird thing could happen, and when it does happen, you need to be prepared. Or, if someone tries to attack you on the street or rob you, again, you need to be prepared to call on Jesus to scare them all off.

The most peaceful solution is to stay the heck away from porn as though it is the plague. The conscience remains pure, I can sleep like a baby, and don't have this excessive nerve-wrecking guilt to worry about.
Jesus died on the cross to pay for the sins of mankind. So all the sin attached to Adam and Eve, was paid and people were set free of guilt. Being obsessed with being taken over by demons is actually demonic in itself. It is out of balance. If you are out of balance and unhappy your weakness will attract demonic attacks.
 
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