How can I tell when it's the end of a relationship?

[Victory Unlimited]

How can I tell when it's the end of a relationship?

A good indication of when it might be time for you to leave a relationship is whenever you find yourself wanting to be AWAY from her more than you want to be WITH her.

If you find yourself ready to leave at the first sign of ANY disagreement...it's probably time for you to be "LOOKING AT THE FRONT DOOR".


VU

 

[Maeisgood]

I had my 25th birthday a few months ago that's why I put this thread here.

I'm so disenchanted with females I don't see them to be worth it. Everything males do they do it to get women or to forget a out them. I've just been ignoring them lately. I haven't felt like a dj for months and that inner game must be had before any outer game.

Should I not respond unless she wants to meet? Part of me wants to do her again but that's just the male animalness of me. The afc part of me wants her back but the logical part of me knows that is a terrible idea. I feel like the only way to get any closure is to talk to her in person but I don't think that'd happen.

Women are a game in which the only way to win is to just not play.

 

[guru1000]

Your closure is in walking away.

Once you understand the "essence" of this wisdom, you would have already evolved into a DJ.

 

[5string]

Plain as day to me.

She's young and wants to see what's out there. Sow her oates if you will. She got bored and her IL dropped.

Get rid of everything that reminds you of her, go no contact and get a new girl(s).

 

[Maeisgood]

I have not responded to her. I'm just wondering how she knew where I was. She is still friends with a couple of my friends but I know there a couple of her friends I haven't not deleted, so maybe she asked to look at my profile through them. I discovered not all friends were purged recently, but I didn't remove them because the franticness after the official break up passed, I begin to think I made a bad cyber "scene."

I'm dying to know how she knows. I hope to God she isn't talking to my friends. I've lost my girlfriend/second best friend, I don't want to lose anymore. I've asked my friends at home to talk to me but they haven't. I'm in Europe now.

What the **** is going on?!

How can I tell if I'm paranoid or if I'm just having a perfect storm of drama rigt now?

 

[Kailex]

You're 25... WAY too young to be worried about just "one" girl at this point.

WAY too young.

You should be worried about "Which one am I taking out on Saturday, A or B or C?"

It's just one girl and from what I read, she's not even worth it.

"hi I know u hate me
and I know u said I would try to contact u after we break up and of course u were right. u probably won't answer and that's alright. but I want to say I'm sorry. I very very sorry and sorry I'm being so selfish by sending this to you. but u didn't deserve what I did and I'm sorry.

be safe and have fun on your trip".

What the crap is this?
What in the BLUE HELL is this?

"Hi I know you hate me"

Really?
Look, apparently you are dealing with a 17 year old teenage girl here because it seems that she wants to get the last word in and yes, she's being selfish and yes, she's baiting you into talking to her.

Do yourself a favor, mate, STOP TALKING TO HER.

Move on. Get new girls, and forget this one. She's only bringing you down and causing you further insecurity issues.

Who the hell cares HOW she found out... she just did. It's one of life's mysteries and you might never get the answer. Forget about it.

And btw, any "friend" that won't talk to you again because of all of this... wasn't really a friend.

Rejoice, now you can make newer and better friends who don't know about this drama.

 

[Buddha_Mind]

^^ What he said! Yes! ^^

 

[Maeisgood]

Well she sorta is and that's the problem. She was 18 I was 22 when we met. Young girls look the best, have fewer years (and therefore we can assume on average fewer sexual partners thus a decreased risk of STDs), but they are immature.

I just wish I could have everyone watch a replay of my life and tell what I did wrong or right at times. It couldn't have all been bad to last asong as it did.

I just don't want to make the same mistake again. I also think that having a wife for life like they did in the old days is an unrealistic expectation these days.

Do you all think having a committed, faithful wife is pretty much a statistical anomaly, if not downright impossible? If the answer is yes, than all I can do is forget about ALL girls.

But the problem is that females are the incentive for everything that happens in nature.

 

[DonJuan_DeRosco]

she was hooking up with this other guy, but I wooed her away and she eventually left him for me

HERE, was the red flag you missed at the very beginning.

It's been my experience that (to quote Secret of Mana ) "Time flows like a river, and history repeats".

Sounds like she branch swung onto you, like most girls do right enough, but this never seems to end well as she'll most likely branch swing from you onto someone else.


The rest of the story sounds like typical inexperienced breakup stuff, the fake tears, the 'i'm the bad guy, you deserve someone else' nonsense.

As others have said lad, NO CONTACT, erase her from your life completely! This will be hard at first, but spin more plates or get right in about some hobbies then in a good while, you'll look back and chuckle to yourself and realise you have grown to be a better man with many lessons learned.

Its the only way.

Good luck soldier!

 

[scrouds]

I have not responded to her. I'm just wondering how she knew where I was. She is still friends with a couple of my friends but I know there a couple of her friends I haven't not deleted, so maybe she asked to look at my profile through them. I discovered not all friends were purged recently, but I didn't remove them because the franticness after the official break up passed, I begin to think I made a bad cyber "scene."

I'm dying to know how she knows. I hope to God she isn't talking to my friends. I've lost my girlfriend/second best friend, I don't want to lose anymore. I've asked my friends at home to talk to me but they haven't. I'm in Europe now.

What the **** is going on?!

How can I tell if I'm paranoid or if I'm just having a perfect storm of drama rigt now?

Stop whining like a little bƒtch.