I find that my only weakness is that I care so much about what people think of me. I'm tall, handsome, I have a deep voice, a good sense of humor, I'm an aspiring movie director (I put out a short movie that won state and I'm a senior in HS), and I'm confident... I shouldn't have much to be insecure about at all. Yet the last part I mentioned, confidence, is circumstantial. I am confident around people I feel comfortable with. I am outgoing, I'm funny, and I'm generally a great guy to be around (I feel like myself) when I'm in my comfort zone. However, I tend to let little comments get to me. I don't take everything at face value. An example of this would be if a girl I'm talking to doesn't hold eye contact as long as I think she should, I suddenly think that I'm doing something wrong and that she's not interested. I find myself constantly checking myself out in the mirror because for some reason I'm having trouble believing that I look good, despite tons of girls telling me so. In one of my classes in particular, there's a few loud jocks in my class, and despite me being friends with the majority of the jocks in there save for those few guys, I'm silent and almost antisocial when I'm in that class. I feel as though if I attempt to talk to them I'll be shunned and made fun of... which even I know isn't the case at all.
I'm tired of living like this and I want to be the real me ALL the time, instead of just when I'm "in the zone". I know it's easy to say "well just dont give a fyck about what people think"... but it's not that easy to actually do it. Is there anyone else who suffers from this problem? Are there any exercises I could do to help improve my confidence in uneasy situations? Can anyone shed some light on this? Thanks for the help.
I'm tired of living like this and I want to be the real me ALL the time, instead of just when I'm "in the zone". I know it's easy to say "well just dont give a fyck about what people think"... but it's not that easy to actually do it. Is there anyone else who suffers from this problem? Are there any exercises I could do to help improve my confidence in uneasy situations? Can anyone shed some light on this? Thanks for the help.