How Can I Like Her Less??

[Bigtrucker2008]

Ok, this girl and I both really like each other. We don't call ourselves officially "boyfriend and girlfriend", but we do things that couples do (except have sex, which is awkward for me because normally I don't get in situations like this).

The thing is I really do like her a lot and she likes me. But how can I make myself like her less than I do without losing my feeling for her???

My reason for this is that I don't want to get hurt for letting her have my heart. I was hurt long ago, and it made me into a "player". I've gotten with all kinds of various chicks(some at the same time) and they meant nothing to me but another notch in my belt. But now, I don't know what to do, cuz I really like her and she likes me, but I don't want to get hurt.

If any of you are familiar with the song "International Player's Anthem" by Outkast and have seen the video, this reminds me so much of that. (Just FYI)

 

[JLW]

its not the worst thing in the world to like a girl.

It's fine to be head over heels for a girl AS LONG AS it doesn't consume your life. If you can function the same as you could, do everything that you like to do, etc, then it's fine to like a girl.

You could be like a lot of people on this forum and be a bunch of heartless ****s, but most human beings have emotions. So my advice is this:

1. tread carefully, make her think she likes you just a little bit more than you like her.

2. as long as she makes you happy and she isn't interfering with your life (ie, getting in the way of other relationships with friends, hobbies/activities, etc), continue on with this girl.

another important point is not to be blinded by how much you may like this girl. Judgement can often be clouded if you really like a girl. If you've been hurt before, as you said, you'll know what I mean.

 

[KingBeef]

good post

 

[aliasguy]

You guys do "everything that couples do" except F*CK?????

You are NOT her BOYFRIEND, you are her GIRLFRIEND.

She "likes" you because you meet some of her NEEDS. And you are being USED.

I don't know anything about "international players anthem," and it doesn't matter.

You don't want to "get hurt." Great. Well, keep on what you are doing, and she will be f*cking OTHER guys and laughing at you, While you are being Mr. Sensitive and being her girlfriend.


Make a move or move on, dude.

 

[JLW]

You guys do "everything that couples do" except F*CK?????

You are NOT her BOYFRIEND, you are her GIRLFRIEND.

She "likes" you because you meet some of her NEEDS. And you are being USED.

I don't know anything about "international players anthem," and it doesn't matter.

You don't want to "get hurt." Great. Well, keep on what you are doing, and she will be f*cking OTHER guys and laughing at you, While you are being Mr. Sensitive and being her girlfriend.


Make a move or move on, dude.

That's actually a good point. A bit harsh, but true.

To the original poster: Are you getting any ass out of this? And why aren't you having sex? If you aren't having anything physical going on then you're basically her emotional tampon. Do you have any sort of actual physical connection going on?

 

[Bigtrucker2008]

To JLW: There is no sex involved because happens to be a very religious person. And for some reason, I just really respect her and like her. That's the part of the point of this post. Thank you for your decent input so far. And to let you know, we do kiss, make-out, and I've fingered. But I just actually haven't dipped my **** in her *****.



To aliasguy: :crackup: Your funny. I bet you actually get all of your "game" off of websites such as this right? Wow....Please. I bet in real life your not bout s***. Move on kid. This is grown people business. Go talk to Supreme so he can help you with yourself. :crackup:

 

[Bigtrucker2008]

Oh yeah BTW, almost left ya out:

To KingBeef: Thanx bro. :rockon:

 

[DoctorLW]

Yeah I don't understand why a lot of posters on this site just to like to jump on anyone who actually likes a girl.

Like JLW said, if you like a girl that is fine. Being a DJ isn't only about picking up chicks and banging them using some sort of pre-defined rules and approach. It's just about having the right mindset. If you've been picking up girls before, you probably have it... or at least are on your way to. As long as you have that mindset it doesn't matter if you like a girl, because she will like you too.

 

[KingBeef]

Quote:
Originally Posted by aliasguy
You guys do "everything that couples do" except F*CK?????

You are NOT her BOYFRIEND, you are her GIRLFRIEND.

She "likes" you because you meet some of her NEEDS. And you are being USED.

I don't know anything about "international players anthem," and it doesn't matter.

You don't want to "get hurt." Great. Well, keep on what you are doing, and she will be f*cking OTHER guys and laughing at you, While you are being Mr. Sensitive and being her girlfriend.


NEED I SAY MORE


Make a move or move on, dude.

 

[Bonhomme]

Some guys here are making a lot of assumptions.

Go with your gut. And don't let your head get stuck in the clouds.

 

[PrinceBeavis]

This whole thread pretty much sucks. You've got your "Nice Guy" and you've got your "Jerks"....not too much by way of actual Don Juans...'cept for maybe JLW.

 

[MooseGod]

*AHEM* I interrupt this thread to bring you a random but relevant quote from hit Fox television show Family Guy.

"There are two kinds of people in this world, Chris. Bullies and nerds. And hot Asian chicks...wait, what was I saying?" --Peter Griffin

Discuss amongst yourselves.

 

[Bible_Belt]

If you are seeing other women at the same time who do give up sex, then this one girl should be no big deal. You only want her so badly because you can't have her.

 

[JLW]

Some guys here are making a lot of assumptions.

Go with your gut. And don't let your head get stuck in the clouds.

This is very true. A lot of the posters on here are making assumptions that may not necessarily be true.

ALSO, ONE IMPORTANT NOTE: I'm just curious, what is it you actually like about her besides her looks. And it can't be "I just like hanging out with her." For a girl to be worthy she has to have some sort of good personality traits. Honesty is usually the best one, and also one of the rarest in this day and age.

If you like her enough to wait before having sex with her, that's fine too. Just realize that the girl should really be worth it for that.

Do NOT pressure her into having sex. Don't bring it up. When you are making out with her and you are alone with her, just start teasing her and seducing her. I guarantee you she will eventually cave in.

When you try and go further and actually **** her and she says "wait, stop", step back a tiny bit and wait to get her hornier then continue with the advances. If she then gives a firm "Seriously, stop". Just step back and say "okay that's fine I don't want to do anything that would make you uncomfortable."

After a while, she'll start to actually get confused and think, "Why hasn't he pressured me into having sex like all these other guys?"

This works for me every time when a girl is being prude. Girls are so used to being pressured into having sex, that when you DON'T pressure them into it they actually get confused and start thinking "why doesn't he want to have sex with me?"

This has happened to me. I was with a girl and i fingered her. afterwards we were both laying in her bed (it had been a month and i still hadnt had sex with her). It was 3 AM. I went to sleep. Apparently she was still awake. So 5 minutes later she wakes me up and asks "Do you want to have sex with me? Because every other guy hounds me for it and you don't really even care."

That was kind of my cue...but yea, i speak from experience. it works, but only if you do it right. It's a win-win situation because you are respecting the girl and you get laid for it

 

[Bigtrucker2008]

..........huh? Wow, I'm surprised people were still posting in this thread. I don't even care about this anymore. She gave it up on Sunday night. Now I don't want her anymore. After I did all that. Funny how that works. I'm kinda in the mood for a bi-racial girl now, idk why.


.......Oh but uh, I just gotta say two things:

One: It was a front. She wanted it. BAD.

Two: To the guy "PrinceBeavis", I can tell your some kinda lame guy. Guy that gets no chicks? Nerd? Just plain loser? I can't tell you that. But I can tell your game is strictly digital. Not in real life. Who the h*** uses the word Don Juan in normal conversation? Hop off JLW's nuts and go to Zenmack so you can get a chick so you can actually have some input.

 

[scottfall]

Really sux that your done with this girl after fvcking her. She waited because she didnt want this to happen, and now it has. Your an ass.

 

[JLW]

Really sux that your done with this girl after fvcking her. She waited because she didnt want this to happen, and now it has. Your an ass.

I kind of have to agree on this one.

This is why people suck. There are so many ****ed up people (women and men)

 

[Outsider]

I'd say get a hobby, or another girlfriend, that should do it.

 

[PrinceBeavis]

Two: To the guy "PrinceBeavis", I can tell your some kinda lame guy. Guy that gets no chicks? Nerd? Just plain loser? I can't tell you that. But I can tell your game is strictly digital. Not in real life. Who the h*** uses the word Don Juan in normal conversation? Hop off JLW's nuts and go to Zenmack so you can get a chick so you can actually have some input.

Love you too. Jerk.

 

[Bigtrucker2008]

Woah , woah, let me clear that up. I'm not LEAVING her. I just don't want her like i did. I mean, put it like this: It's like now that I've gotten it, I don't care about having it anymore. I mean, I was SO attracted her. Now it's just like "meh". Ya know?

Oh yeah and to PrinceBeavis: :crackup:......But you still need to go to Zenmack or something though dude. :rockon: