eaglez1177 said:
Yea I know what im getting myself into. But im like totally unattached to her emotionally so whatever she says or does, I really just wont care about lol. I mean whats the worst thing that can go wrong?
I'm going to pause and think about exactly what's the worst that could happen...
I'm noticing a decided tendency in your postings gravitating towards the "I". Not that I'm saying it's wrong to selfishly look after your own needs,
but it proves that you're not thinking this through entirely. She's the one you need to worry about in this scenario.
You acknowledge that she may end up asking questions, wanting to get back together, that sort of thing. It's goes well past that.
Logistically, you have an incredibly difficult footing to make this happen. Love is a return on an emotional investment. The more you emotionally invest in this girl, the more attached (positively or negatively, even if it's just being frustrated that's she's not sleeping with you) the both of you will become. The attachment factor icreases the chance of retribution exponentially. It will turn bad, at which point you're going to have to turn to damage control, and it will be messy. What was once a sweet girl is now going to be psycho-stalker-witch-from-hades, if she doesn't kill herself or you before she's through.
Don't think it could happen? Imagine this scenario: A girl breaks up with you. After an extended period of time with absolutely no contact whatsoever, she returns. Whether or not she specifically states it, there is an assumption that she wants to get back together. So you hook up again and for a while things are going swell when you notice she seems bored again and leaves. The first thought that goes through your head is WTF? Then it becomes obvious that you're being used for sex. Next (because we're thinking from a female perspective here) is a rehash of all the insecurities that would explain why you were rejected
twice. Then comes self-loathing. Then comes hate. It starts out as hate for yourself because you allowed yourself to get played. It then morphs into a hatred of her because of all the pain you feel at her hands. Then it's only a thought, a breath, or a whisper to seeking vengeance, i.e.: rewarding your pain with her pain.
Good sex puts or keeps alot of people in bad situations. Don't do it. Not worth it.
-CyranoDeBergerac
P.S.: If you need any further reason not to go there, think tactically. You may still have some credbility with her friends and associates as a sexual partner. When things start going sour again, you're poisoning not only everyone she comes in contact with, but everyone who hears about it, primarily females. You are essentially putting a large, warm, yellow halo around yourself in the dating pool.