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How can I get rid of her ex?
- Thread starter CASON
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I think invading a girl's privacy by checking her facebook messages and sending your friends to beat up her ex-boyfriend is quite creepy. I know it's tough being in love and not having that love reciprocated, but you have to try to let go of this girl and move on.
Can we ignore the part of about beating up the ex and actually discuss the part about ridding an ex from a girl's life?
This happens WAY too much. He's always orbiting about. I was seeing one girl recently and he'd be calling her after midnight when she was with me. And she dumped him.
I've lost count of how many women i've met stuck somehow on their exes. "But i've known him so long." Bah. They don't care that it ruins their new relationships.
This happens WAY too much. He's always orbiting about. I was seeing one girl recently and he'd be calling her after midnight when she was with me. And she dumped him.
I've lost count of how many women i've met stuck somehow on their exes. "But i've known him so long." Bah. They don't care that it ruins their new relationships.
In this case, the ex broke up with the girl. She still seems to have feelings for this guy so she lets him hang around. If these girls cared that these exes were ruining their new relationships, they wouldn't keep these exes around. If she really wanted to be with a new guy, the ex would be completely history.
I think Cason is going to get his butt kicked. I think he took advantage of a situation in a vulnerable moment and has dragged that moment on too long...and know he can't stop anyone finding out...or the consequences. And he's trying to dress it up as love when really he wants to save his own butt.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
cason,
you can not rid him from her life.
what you can do is make a stand and demand that she pick one of you, however, it could backfire big time when she either chooses him or she says she chooses you and then leaves you for him anyways.
he's not just some ex that happens to be an ex since before you knew her.
not at all .
he is the good man that talked her into going back to school, whom she began "cheating" on when she was at work flirting with you.
he is the good man who knew when it was time to break up with her, back off and let her take a new path (because he wasn't going to walk down that path with her toting your butt around too.)
now here's the important part:
no matter what she says the reason for writing to him is... she MISSES him. (that is what your quote said) however, she didn't go into details.
she misses him in her life, she misses the way he makes her feel, she misses his voice, she misses his smell, she misses him.
and as she yearns to get him back into her life, she will do whatever she can. if he seems to respond to it in the same manner, she will slowly start letting go of what she has with you until it is over.
we all know where you are coming from. you have invested your time and your heart into a love with her only to have it ripped out underneath you.
you can glance at her outbox or put a keylogger on the computer but you already know what is happening.
he isn't the a$$hole jerk ex that needs people sent over to beat him up.
you have to choose other ways to deal with this than violence.
you have to choose to do one of the following:
1. demand she chose one of you and be willing to walk away if it is not you and/or be ready for her to later change her mind
2. be willing to make the choice for her and walk away on your own
3. just keep quiet about it and take whatever she gives you and be a doormat if nothing else.
now what will you chose?
you can not rid him from her life.
what you can do is make a stand and demand that she pick one of you, however, it could backfire big time when she either chooses him or she says she chooses you and then leaves you for him anyways.
he's not just some ex that happens to be an ex since before you knew her.
not at all .
he is the good man that talked her into going back to school, whom she began "cheating" on when she was at work flirting with you.
he is the good man who knew when it was time to break up with her, back off and let her take a new path (because he wasn't going to walk down that path with her toting your butt around too.)
now here's the important part:
no matter what she says the reason for writing to him is... she MISSES him. (that is what your quote said) however, she didn't go into details.
she misses him in her life, she misses the way he makes her feel, she misses his voice, she misses his smell, she misses him.
and as she yearns to get him back into her life, she will do whatever she can. if he seems to respond to it in the same manner, she will slowly start letting go of what she has with you until it is over.
we all know where you are coming from. you have invested your time and your heart into a love with her only to have it ripped out underneath you.
you can glance at her outbox or put a keylogger on the computer but you already know what is happening.
he isn't the a$$hole jerk ex that needs people sent over to beat him up.
you have to choose other ways to deal with this than violence.
you have to choose to do one of the following:
1. demand she chose one of you and be willing to walk away if it is not you and/or be ready for her to later change her mind
2. be willing to make the choice for her and walk away on your own
3. just keep quiet about it and take whatever she gives you and be a doormat if nothing else.
now what will you chose?
WaterTiger
Master Don Juan
Cason,
I'm going to be very blunt here...
:cuss: THE EX-BOYFRIEND WILL NOT GO AWAY BECAUSE SHE WANTS HIM THERE!:cuss:
Get it through your head! Write it down 100 times! Tape a note to your bathroom mirror!
Dump this girl! Cut her out of your life & find someone else who doesn't still have BF issues!
I'm going to be very blunt here...
:cuss: THE EX-BOYFRIEND WILL NOT GO AWAY BECAUSE SHE WANTS HIM THERE!:cuss:
Get it through your head! Write it down 100 times! Tape a note to your bathroom mirror!
Dump this girl! Cut her out of your life & find someone else who doesn't still have BF issues!
Byezbozhniy
Don Juan
Guys, enough of this, he's a troll ... probably from PUAhate.com.
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sounds A LOT like a situation i was in a few years ago. i say go with everyone else's advice and let her go. it sucks because u probably do have a lot of feelings for her, and you will have to go through some tough times getting over this. believe me i know..i was in ur shoes exactly! a hope you have is trying to maintain a friends level and somehow this dude might leave her again and then she will go back to you (hopefully). i don't even think chicks work like that but that still will be extremely ****ty!! overall it can be summed up by a quote i read on a chick's myspace: don't make someone a priority if to them you're only an option.