Originally posted by blueangel83
"-if he calls you twice a day every day
-if he spends all his free time folowing you around
-if he can't tell you enough time that he "loves" you and can't live without you.
-if he buys you things, just because it's monday, or tuesday, wednesday......
-if he agrees with everything you say
-if he does everything you ask him to do as if it was a command from god himself....
If a guys does MOST of those things, HE REALLY DOES LIKE YOU."
I get that a lot, especially after the sex.....I'm that good :cheer: but I get annoyed when guys agree to everything I say.
Anything else? How do they act when they're around you???
This is amusing on so many levels. First, the guy was obviously being sarcastic and listing off the characteristics of a hopeless AFC. But interestingly enough, this did TECHNICALLY answer her question, as that is how an AFC would behave if he liked a woman.
In interpreting the answer seriously, blueangel83 then indirectly confirms 1. that we have correctly described the behaviour of your average AFC and 2. that they're everywhere.
Then we figure out that blueangel83 is an LSE (low self esteem) girl given her bragging
"I get that a lot, especially after the sex.....I'm that good"
AND THEN she goes on to confirm that AFC behaviours are counterproductive (in ******** -- where 'annoying' means 'unattractive'. Funny how we men don't really use the word this way.)
"but I get annoyed when guys agree to everything I say."
And yet lastly, we find out that 1. you should never (rarely) trust what a woman SAYS about what she is attracted to and 2. that she will contradict herself if she does. blueangel83 in a later post goes on to say that (apparently despite the fact that at least one AFC behaviour is 'annoying'), those behaviours will make her "drawn closer" to the AFC because she likes it when a guy gets to know her better. Lol.
I'd like to meet the jerks blueangel83 has screwed and see how they don't really do any of the things listed above because they actually have game.
It's funny how when a woman posts on this board, barring maybe Wyldfire or someone else with an actual brain in their head, no real communication happens. The sexes just can't really comprehend one another.
Males can only form intellectual "models" of what it might be like to be a woman, and women can only respond to how the "feel" when they're around men. It's really hopeless.
Aside from the above, there is an interesting underlying theme in this post about men and physical versus emotional attraction.
blueangel83, if you are in fact a woman, the only useful advice I'm actually going to give you is this:
MEN are ONLY going to be attracted to the way you look. It is true that once we're physically attracted to you, we can form an emotional bond, but I'm a man and I can tell you that that emotional bond is still very tightly tied to the way you look.
Men who want to screw you and move on simply have more options than men who don't, and you may or may not be relationship material in the sense that you seem to be pretty dumb and low self esteem.
It's not that men are "attracted" to "smart" and "high self esteem" women as a woman might be to such a man. It's just that, practically speaking, the choice between a hot woman who is good company/confident is superior to a hot woman who is an idiot/not confident.
It's just not the same as the reverse case where a confident man is attractive and a not confident man is unattractive to a woman. In this case, confidence isn't just a nice thing to have, it's the core of the relationship.
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