How bad did I screw up.(with girl)

[boxingfan1]

So, New girl comes to my job works at front desk tellls everyone at work how cute I am and that she has eyes for me. Coworker 1 comes up to me asks me if I have a girlfriend and how old I am. I work in diffrent department so they dont know me that well. They all ways are really nice to me telling me how cute I am and being friendly. I ignore coworker 1 then my own boss comes up with another lady and tells me that new girl has eyes for me,so i procced to talk to new girl.
She invites me out with a bunch of her coworkers we hand out im known to be quiet and shy,so i barly speak.One of her coworkers basically says its like pulling teeth to get me to talk.Theses people are complete strangers to me. The night ends with a hug goodbye. Then she textes me to go to lunch with her. We have lunch small talk she constantly talks about doing thigns in the future. Hug and goodbye,but I could tell she wanted a kiss by the way she kept staring. I was to beta to make a move.
Third and last time she texts me to hang out I did not have any money to go out,so I just told her the truth so she responded "Yea im broke too" and I didnt respond after that. when i frist walked into work I did not speak to her and she texted me asking whats up with no hey.Probbley came off rude.

Basically I got friendzoned and she said that she was never interested and that she wants someone older and im not her type?

What did I do wrong? Personnaly it was the money thing I think.

Im new and will be doing a long introduction post about me I need help realy bad guys.....

 

[dap]

Has nothing to do with money, that's a convenient excuse. You know what's wrong. You are too shy and didn't kiss her, just like you said. This girl probably thinks that you don't like her. If she is still attracted, YOU could try to ask her out and kiss her after and take things from there. The problem is, she may not still be attracted--you have to strike while the iron's hot.

I'd work on your social skills. I think it is sometimes easiest to talk to people you don't know precisely for that reason--you don't know anything about them! Start with: where are you from? How do you all know each other? Laugh, smile, make eye contact, etc.

 

[boxingfan1]

I also forgot she texted me hey friend,so I thought I was friendzoned,so I asked her what she was doing and she said she was working out. Then I did something realy stupid I asked her if I could check out her sexy body and she responded "I honestly dont know what to say to that". I know stupid to say ,but i was like screw it.Pretty sure no chance with her I just want to learn.

 

[NewAndImproved]

Hey man,

You sound like me back in the day. In one of many stories of failure and futility-- When I worked as a counselor at a summer camp, this fellow female counselor came at me hard. Telling everyone I was hot, dropping hints that we should go out. She would talk all the time and I was so quiet. She'd be like "so... make some conversation." I literally couldn't think of anything to say.


I'm here to tell you today that I don't really have these problems anymore. I could tell you a couple of things that I did -- CBT, talk therapy, meditation, even social anxiety drugs for a few months... Really at the end of the day it came down to me just growing up a bit and learning how to do things on my own.

THE REASON IS NEVER THAT YOU HAVE NOTHING TO SAY. THE REASON IS THAT YOU'RE AFRAID YOU HAVE NOTHING TO SAY THAT MATTERS. Get that out of your mind now. You're fine as is. There's no perfect thing to say. Give up on planning out conversations. Just be in the moment.

It's probably done with this girl but keep trying. It's a good sign that at you're attracting girls even though you're not incredibly confident yet. Just keep going.

 

[boxingfan1]

it sucks man i get alot of attention from women,but I all ways screw it up man. When i go out my buddies get mad because I dont do anything with my looks ill see a girl stare at me then when I go talk to her I can see the interest just fade..starting to get depressed.

 

[NewAndImproved]

How old are you man? You still have time.

Trust me when it comes to shyness, I am one of the hardest cases of all time. But I've gotten better.

You gotta get your inner game handled is all. Subconsciously, you don't think you deserve the attention. I used to have a thing where I hated to be the center of attention, even doing something that I was damned good at... basketball for example. I'd actually start screwing up if I played with people for too long because I had the "reputation" of being good. People would expect me to hit big shots and I started missing because I was afraid. Meanwhile, when no one knew I could shoot and there wasn't that expectation yet, I could ball.

Strange, huh.

Just start thinking about why you don't think you deserve the attention you're getting.

 

[Trump]

One of her coworkers basically says its like pulling teeth to get me to talk.Theses people are complete strangers to me. The night ends with a hug goodbye. Then she textes me to go to lunch with her. We have lunch small talk she constantly talks about doing thigns in the future. Hug and goodbye,but I could tell she wanted a kiss by the way she kept staring. I was to beta to make a move.
Third and last time she texts me to hang out I did not have any money to go out,so I just told her the truth so she responded "Yea im broke too" and I didnt respond after that. when i frist walked into work I did not speak to her and she texted me asking whats up with no hey.Probbley came off rude.

Basically I got friendzoned and she said that she was never interested and that she wants someone older and im not her type?

What did I do wrong? .

1. You have to have to talk when you go out with girls, otherwise they may think you are a serial killer. I use to be same way, quiet, worried what they thought. Then realized if you don't talk and make them comfortable, they may think you are planning something suspicious or packing heat or whatever. You have to talk.

2. Why the heck would you tell a girl, especially in text message so she can show all her friends and coworkers and everyone that wants to sleep with you, that you have no money? That's not sexy, she ain't going to fall in love with your honesty. You can tell your employees that, you can tell your parents that, you can tell your paster that, you don't tell the girl who wants to sleep with you.

Come on bro, I don't mean to harsh but common sense has to kick when you are dealing with girls.

 

[boxingfan1]

How old are you man? You still have time.

Trust me when it comes to shyness, I am one of the hardest cases of all time. But I've gotten better.

You gotta get your inner game handled is all. Subconsciously, you don't think you deserve the attention. I used to have a thing where I hated to be the center of attention, even doing something that I was damned good at... basketball for example. I'd actually start screwing up if I played with people for too long because I had the "reputation" of being good. People would expect me to hit big shots and I started missing because I was afraid. Meanwhile, when no one knew I could shoot and there wasn't that expectation yet, I could ball.

Strange, huh.

Just start thinking about why you don't think you deserve the attention you're getting.

Im 22
I guess you can say im a later bloomer im
6'1 165 and I use to be the same height but 140
plus I had alot of acne and was poor in high school and went to three diffrent schools,so I never had a chance to socialize and go to parties and have normal social development like other kids did.
Its crazey..I went from skinny acene looser to haveing modleing agency in new york and miami wanting to sign me. I guess I got to get ride of my insecureties. I feel like the old me its hard the accept that the compliments are real.

 

[Sonny Knight]

boxingfan1 Don't sh!t where you eat

do not have romantic relationships with any co-workers." Basically, you don't want to make yourself uncomfortable by potentially having a romantic relationship get ugly


@the end of the day business is business

do not screw up or screw someone from where you work and or play i'm dealing with this **** now

 

[omega05]

If you have this model hot body you should be pulling girls with ease. But i know the feeling of not having it easy back in the day. You just gotta grow and find the confidence inside of you

 

[boxingfan1]

I work as a Lifeguard,so these two attrative girls walk in and try to make conversation. One starts talking about how she has a boyfriend and how her friend wants me to save her and being real flirty and keep laughing and looking and me. I just blow them off because I dont know what to say. Im pretty sure the one without the boyfriend was interest,but its situations like this if they were just haveing fun or actually thought I was attractive. Also I have one last insecurity, my teeth were like 5/10 crooked,but I got braces so that should help. I have all ways mumbled when I talked because of this and never smiled in pictures.


Side note im going to try and make a improvement journal with all my social interactions and stuff like that.

 

[DonJuanabe]

Also, to help your development, accept the fact that in trying to improve you will fail - that's the learning process. You start out telling yourself how to act, what to say, how to be, but only through failure will you get to success. And you will - but only if you view failure as part of the process.

 

[boxingfan1]

Would a girl ever lie about being interested?