How are dominant females to be handled?

[evoke]

Duh. I really am confused now.

I ran into her again tonight. She came to me in a bar and apologized, took my hand and put it on her tlts (soooo big!!!!!), sat on my lap, asked me if I was hard as a result (...), said she was happy that I didn't hate her, kissed me on the ckeek, kept yanking on my tie, got really close with me, said that I always smell good, blah blah mother****ing blah! Weird part was when she introduced me to someone as her "heterosexual friend". WTF?

When we left, I only gave her a hug. She put lip gloss on beforehand, but **** it. She was with her friend (drove together), and her friend wanted in on the lame hug as well. I didn't want to put myself on the spot again, and feel like an idiot.

I don't know how she keeps putting me into this pvssy mode. Usually I'm brutal with girls, but she pushes those goddamn buttons in such a way that I REALLY want her, but I'm too ****ing afraid to get aggressive with her. It's not like I was AFC the whole night. I always let her know when her behaviour was getting out of hand, and she would stop, but at the end, I turned into a coward. What gives?

The only thing I can think to do is totally ignore her. No texts, no calls, let her do the work for now. If she calls and wants to go out, I'll hope I remember to take my balls with me.

*sigh*

 

[evoke]

In hindsight, maybe it's good that I didn't make a move. Don't want her to think she's totally off the hook and that. She's gotta work harder than she ever has before to get me. She knows she's got plenty of competition. I don't put out that ****ing easy.

God. I sound like a woman now.

Anyway, she knows I'm having a huge party in a few weeks (moving out of this house). I didn't exactly invite her, she just asked if I was having one. She said "Maybe I'll actually show up this time." (last few parties I asked her to come, but she didn't, and my stupid ass got all emotional and upset with her over it, doubleplusduh). So I'll let it go and see if she invites herself.

Time to take my mind off this ****. God bless Xbox.

 

[iHatePants]

during this party of yours try and surround yourself with other women and make it look like your having a great time without her.

When she comes up to talk to you act like you don't give a ****.

You say she manages to push your buttons into making you coward? Well perhaps it won't work this time if your distracted by other women who you feel more confident with.

 

[DjDreamer]

How to deal with an alpha chick? Simple... when in the heat of sex and she's on top... you turn her around and give it to her from the back... doggystyle...spontanaeity... give and take...

lol...

Just let her have her way for a little while and then treat her with the same attitude she dishes out... if she b!tches/doesn't get the message of "in order for you to stop being super alpha she has to stop being super alpha" and if she continues to be in the relationship after that... she's one dumb ass chick...

 

[the_great_gaia]

my girlfriend of 2 years is a "dominant female"... yeah, i have been with her for 2 years.

this is how i handle her and her dominance over me.

first off, when you're in a relationship with one of these type chics.. you are gonna really have to get to know YOURSELF, or you'll get lost due to all of her control.

first off, dominant females only wanna hear themselves TALK. When they b!tch and complain, they're not even paying attention to themselves... any thought they develop, it changes.

Dominant Females and Attention Wh0res are like cousins, because most Attention Wh0res try to DOMINATE!

Dominant Females don't like to be wrong

Dominant Females are bossy

They have attitude problems

They have too much pride and an enormous ego

They have emotions like fragile women, but they know how to hold it in, even better than DJs!

I could name Dominant Females' strengths ALL DAY LONG but my friends, they have ONE WEAKNESS, actually TWO!

Their NUMBER ONE WEAKNESS is when you care...LESS

Dominant Females are also Prima Donnas, they can have anyone they want and they can do anything at anytime they damn when please... My girl have told me this PLENTY of times, and she MEANT IT. They believe that the world is theirs, when it is actually yours.

DOMINANT FEMALES HATE NONCHALANCE (The philosophy of not giving a fvck)

Dominant Females also hate when you are ABSENT... they CRUMBLE literally when they MISS YOU (GANJI GAMES; this is perhaps their greatest downfall)

You must understand however... when you stop caring and when you make them MISS YOU, they will meet other guys and more than likely fvck someone else, but Dominant Females only learn from their mistakes the hard way.

For example, the US Army is the perfect ANTIDOTE to kill off that dominance because they are not in control anymore.

When they MISS YOU, they are not in control of you anymore, or perhaps even themselves

When you DON'T CARE ANYMORE, they are not in control of you anymore

And sure, my girl has tried to be dominant over me... she feels she has that right because she has the pvssy.. whenever she gets like this, I distant myself and I care less. That always put her back into perspective.

Also, you have to be BLUNT and BOLD towards Dominant Females. Ever seen Scarface? Tony Montana is the PERFECT example on how to be towards females.

"The only thing in this world that makes orders are BALLS"
-Tony Montana in Scarface

 

[A-Unit]

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To varying degrees, all women seek control. Even the meek and timid women, will attempt to introduce SOME level of control, as that's their aim. Women are not producers in an economic sense. Instead they are manipulators, as they attempt to organize and control men to direct us toward their goal.

Ever notice when they whine or moan or complain about not getting their way?

The super dominant women are more creations from childhood than they are "personalities." Normally it's begun from the presence of an overly-strong mother and a submissive father. I have a cousin that is less than feminine, and looking back, we treated her like one of the boys. She played ball with us and went on to be a top-notch softball player. She's very comical and out there, but finds herself most at ease around guys, not girls. During holidays, she'll drop her skirt for a pair of jeans at the first chance she gets.

Her self identity is such this way. Around dominant guys, she can take a submissive role. Put her in a pack of guys, and she's ONE OF THE GUYS. Put her in a pack of women, and she'll stand out in some ways, normally as the leader.

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The ways to handle her are realizing you can't change her, and only if you decide to change yourself can you win. Women are the worst at changing themselves because they are so emotional and so day-to-day with themselves, that trying to look beyond today is nigh impossible. And to women the past only matters if you have a track record of screwing up.

Dominant women get handled by NOT dealing with them. You have to have a "my way or the highway" type attitude. And have a frame of reference AROUND what it is you want of women.

Acting sexually dominant with women can work, as some women who are submissive enjoy the 'being taken' feeling. However, the dominance some women employ come from their desire to enjoy more power.

An X of mine, who was spanish, devoid of a father's love and presence so she developed self-sufficiency, ended up being very dominant in bed. She's prefer being on top. We'd give each other head, and she'd sit right on me. Didn't really care. It was her personality during the non-sex hours that made her impossible to get to bed with. In bed I could do her anyway I wanted. But outside the bedroom, she wanted to argue, question, criticize and eventually go her own way.

A lifetime of no-men or weak men has left these girls self-reliant, so she fears giving up control when she either appears to like it or must have for security reasons. The only women worthy taming are the amazonian beauties, (like Jessie Spano from Saved by the Bell) who had an attitude but just wanted to feel the presence of a strong men.

That's the difference...


1. Women who want to feel the presence of strong men.
-true feminine beauties
-girls who had strong dads
-family girls

2. Women who want to be in control
-feminists
-undercover lesbos
-women who lacked a dad
-women who seek control all the time and have not bent


1 Group will change, the other won't. It's like a chemical mixing pool. Group #1 gets the right chemicals and ingredients added at the right times to create a good batch. Group #2 does not. Group #2 ends up seeking that introduction of ingredients and chemicals for most of their life, and seeks to replicate that role until they resolve their fatherly issues, or come to terms that a successful male-female relationship begins with balance.


The girl I dated who had no father still seeks him to this day. She's wild and uncontrollable and sees her mother as a friend, and not a mother. This elevates that daughter to a level of much higher responsibility than she normally would be, hence duplicating the man's role. As a result, she never worked on traits or herself in the feminine capacity. She was so pre-occupied during her youth to be a provider, a supporter, an emotional rock, and to seek herself out, that she became a quasi-man.


Many girls father-less are like this. Girls who had brothers are not so bad. They're man-lovers, they just like to play with the boys. That's ok. The longest relationship I've had came with 2 girls who either had brothers and a good dad, or a good father-daughter relationship. As a result they learn to see men more positively, they understand men and can handle the male female interaction that takes place. If she already took guidance from her dad or brothers, it's likely she'd do the same with you.


I recall P_S or someone pointing out women who'd had no dad, and basically finding out what he was like and mimicing those traits, in essence putting you in a position of authority. You can go this route, but it's more a TRUE PIMP route. It's what a pimp does. He becomes their dad.

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A-Unit

 

[evoke]

Thanks for all the replies.

One thing though. She has a father, and a dominant one at that. I've never met him, but she told me that he intimidates every guy she brings home. Supposedly he's really imposing. I'd like to meet the guy.

Seriously though, all last night she was acting submissive to me. I basically WAS behaving like a father, and she acted in accordance with my laying down the law. It's only at the end where I fumbled and didn't kiss her, but I've done that plenty of times before and she always came back. She was practically begging for it too. Haha.

 

[TITANIUM_HeaRT]

There is no such thing as dominant female, she is only dominant when the male is submissive. Otherwise what this is, is a confident woman.