Hottie at new job

[Effington]

So I just started this new job a few weeks ago, I work for corporate at a Fortune 500 company, and I totally have a thing for a girl that works in another department. She's a hot little thing, and she's friends with the girl who sits next to me, so is around sometimes to chat. I joke around with her on ocassion and talk with her a little; I ate lunch with her once or twice when we had "lunch parties" for special ocassions like halloween, but I feel that it's very much simply being cordial and neither of us go out of the way to talk to each other.

So how do I change that?

The usual tactic is to neg on her, but the guy next to me (he's some 60 year old wanker) was doing that, jokingly getting on her case about delivering some (unimportant) work related documents, and it just sounded obnoxious, not funny. I don't want to be that guy. I don't want to get on her case regarding work related topics, so how do you transition? Just talk about weekend stuff, maybe transitioning that into a common interest?

Before anyone mentions the work thing, note that she works in a different department, I know the consequences, and don't care. I'm not looking for opinions on if I should go after a work girl or not.

 

[Clockwork]

avoid work game imo...

 

[Potbelly]

if you don't care just grab her ass and try to screw her on the spot. dumbass

why would you sacrifice your job for a fvck?

 

[j0n024]

Maybe ask her out to lunch? It seems the easiest thing to do IMO, she say's no then forget it and keep your job if she say's yes then there that is your transition and you should be smooth sailing from here on in the only thing you need to worry about is the whole job thing. Maybe ask her friend to help you out not overly obvious but enough to get her in the right place at right time. Good luck.

 

[saber]

befreind the girl next to you

then, down the road, lead into a convo where the girl will bring hboffice up and drop a subtle hint.

When hboffice is around she will act different

thats the safest way to go imo

 

[comic_relief]

don't mix business and pleasure

comic_relief

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Don't listen to the guys about not getting girls @ work.

I was in the same situation. I just started emailing her @ work, got her personal email, AIM, # and I have hit it twice so far and she has given me an open invitation to her apartment.

Work isn't a problem. We no longer talk to each other at work so nobody knows. As long as she is cool and doesn't gossip.

 

[Mr Autobahn]

Don't listen to the guys about not getting girls @ work.

I was in the same situation. I just started emailing her @ work with my game, got her personal email, AIM, # and I have hit it twice. Work isn't a problem. We no longer talk to each other at work so nobody knows. As long as she is cool and doesn't gossip.

I've done that too. It was a huge office so when we broke up, it was no big deal. Like you, we never advertised our relationship.

OTOH, a lot of people are immature and can't handle rejection. Men and women. I've seen jealous guys doing ridiculous things to get the attention of an ex-girlfriend that are quite disturbing.

My advice? If you are strong enough to handle rejection, and she isn't one of those stalkers types -- go for it.

Just don't lose your career over a woman...

 

[Effington]

She works in a different department so work will not be compromised. I know the consequences and I know how to handle the situation properly. I am in no way "sacrificing my career" over a crush, that's kind of ridiculous to even suggest. I'm friends with my cube neighbor so I guess my approach will be to just mess with them when they're chatting, and then transition to evening plans and a drink somewhere.

 

[marinetti]

All seduction begins with a conversation.

Got that? Read it again. And again. And again.

'Gaming' and 'conversing' are not two different things. Talk to her, relate to her, and let her know you're interested in her. Done well, she won't be able to resist.

 

[DarthJuan]

She works in a different department so work will not be compromised. I know the consequences and I know how to handle the situation properly. I am in no way "sacrificing my career" over a crush, that's kind of ridiculous to even suggest. I'm friends with my cube neighbor so I guess my approach will be to just mess with them when they're chatting, and then transition to evening plans and a drink somewhere.

People keep harping on the issue of work and relationships because you're asking for advice on a web forum but yet still assert that you won't get caught up in some sort of work drama.
When things don't work out you'll be back asking how to get out of the mess.

Maybe you both can be mature about a fling, but it sounds like you're not sure how to handle this.

Plus, her friend is right next to you...so the drama is always there by proxy - even if she's in another department.

But, if you still wanna pursue this: game her friend, not her directly.

 

[SayWord?]

you work for corporate at a Fortune 500 company?
and you want to risk your job and your reputation over some cooch?
wow