Hot Take: Sex is overrated

[BPH]

The general consensus of some on this thread appears to be: The chase is better than the prize.

SoSuave is about the prize, no doubt...but SoSuave also places a lot of emphasis on the chase

That's a cope, especially since most of this forum (and men, by extension) are doing a whole lot of chasing and getting none of the prize.

This is like saying "chocolate tastes good and all, but the REAL pleasure comes from the process of purchasing it at the gas station".

 

[GoodMan32]

That's a cope, especially since most of this forum (and men, by extension) are doing a whole lot of chasing and getting none of the prize.

This is like saying "chocolate tastes good and all, but the REAL pleasure comes from the process of purchasing it at the gas station".

Agreed. I personally am all about the prize. I hate the chase.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Genuine concern response to follow…

This is unhealthy thinking. Nobody that has their gear in good working order would ever say this. You need your libido and maybe mental health assessed.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

The only people that value the physical part of sex are people that don’t get much of it. Now hear me out! The process of conquering a woman, escalating her out of her clothes, and seeing her submit to your cvck via ******* or sex is priceless. After her mouth is wrapped around my junk or I have did a few pumps I am like okay I’m bored & tired lol.

Sounds like a personal problem from a guy who lacks physical fitness.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Older broads are less likely to be surprised (or turned off) by boner pills (simply because it's more likely an older broad has been with a man who needs boner pills)

I've never taken a boner pill.

Nobody needs those. They choose to not want to be in proper physical health and that's the side effects from their decision

 

[BaronOfHair]

All depends on who you're boning and what sort of antics you're partaking in

 

[DJ Novice]

S*x is great with someone new provided you are compatible in the bedroom.

Over time hedonic adaptation kicks in, especially if the variety, surprise, quality and quantity drop off from the woman, body shapes change due to age or laziness and/or the relationship dynamics outside the bedroom are problematic. It’s just a matter of time, it could be six months or six years.

The lure of a new s*xual partner becomes hard to resist at this point and it goes beyond just s*x in many cases. You always want and lust over what you don’t currently have and haven’t yet experienced.

It’s hard to resist.

 

[BadBoy89]

Depends on the woman's age, body and face. If all are good, a man cannot get enough of it. If a woman is older, out of shape, and doesn't look good, a man wouldn't make it priority at all.

Personally, I will take a OK face + good body rather than a good face + OK body.

 

[Vanderdonck]

Of course it's overrated by guys who can't get it often enough (or at all).

 

[BaronOfHair]

Yeah. When I was in college, I did some pretty pathetic stuff in an attempt to get laid.

Making that effort was still infinitely more gainful than the jackas-ery you're engaging in today, GM. If memory serves correctly, you actually got laid during your stint at university

 

[GoodMan32]

Making that effort was still infinitely more gainful than the jackas-ery you're engaging in today, GM. If memory serves correctly, you actually got laid during your stint at university

I got laid in college, yeah. Entirely through tech methods though.

Some of the stuff I did in an attempt to get broads at my school was pathetic. In addition to getting no sex from any classmates, I never even got dates from any classmates...other than this one broad so strange I had to break up with her after a week (When she's too strange for me, that speaks volumes)

Also, a woman from a tech method talked me into doing stuff with her male friend (No, I didn't go as far as having sex with him. And no, I didn't enjoy what I did with him one bit). She promised me she'd bang me as long as I did stuff with her male friend first. The broad never ended up banging me. The fact I (a straight man) was willing to do stuff with another man just because a woman promised me cooch as a reward is perhaps the epitome of pathetic/desperate (on my part)

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

Sex is overrated af, I view it as more of a way to build a bond/intimacy more than anything. If I don't like her personality, if she doesn't have a good body/pretty face, if the sex is subar, or if I'm not raw dogging, it's literally not worth it. I used to get a lot of post nut clarity regret, and asked myself "why did I care so much about this?" Nowadays, my only goal is to have the best sex I can, because anything less is genuinely not worth bothering for. Sex for it's own sake is as pointless as fapping. And even if I really like the girl and the sex is good sex, I'm perfectly content to only do it once a week or so.

Of course it's overrated by guys who can't get it often enough (or at all).

As a cope, yes, but we all know many of them don't really think it's overrated. If they didn't, there wouldn't have be so many MGTOW types constantly talking about women despite apparently hating them so much.

Familiary breeds contempt, pretty simple. It's also a supply/demand thing, people want what they can't have. My notch count will be 50 before long, and I can tell you, the more I have it the less I care. Now, I value the novelty of the experience eg things like kinks or different ethnicities of women. So all that's changed is that I value the quality of it now because I've learned that sex is only worth it if it's good sex.

It’s been so long that I barely miss it.

I get that. But question: if you started raw dogging a hot, freaky 20 year old redhead for 6 months, would you not miss it when it's over with her?

 

[Mike32ct]

I get that. But question: if you started raw dogging a hot, freaky 20 year old redhead for 6 months, would you not miss it when it's over with her?

Understood. I think most guys would miss it if they had steady hot sex that just ended. I’m not questioning that at all.

I was just implying that, if a dry spell goes on too long, a guy could end up getting too comfortable without it. Obviously not good lol.

So it’s two very different situations. Guy #1 is coming off a hot streak. Guy #2 is in a long cold streak.

 

[Vanderdonck]

Familiary breeds contempt, pretty simple. It's also a supply/demand thing, people want what they can't have. My notch count will be 50 before long, and I can tell you, the more I have it the less I care. Now, I value the novelty of the experience eg things like kinks or different ethnicities of women. So all that's changed is that I value the quality of it now because I've learned that sex is only worth it if it's good sex.

True, although I don't really have contempt for sex. It's just something I can get when I want with some effort. Compared to when I was 20 and every sexless weekend felt like purgatory and every lay was the Super Bowl. There's a lot of relativity at play.

I agree with you on the experience itself, the kinks, the variety etc. Being in the moment and being grateful. When I look back I've had some incredible times with a lot of different looking women, my younger self would be amazed, lol.

 

[GoodMan32]

True, although I don't really have contempt for sex. It's just something I can get when I want with some effort. Compared to when I was 20 and every sexless weekend felt like purgatory and every lay was the Super Bowl. There's a lot of relativity at play.

I agree with you on the experience itself, the kinks, the variety etc. Being in the moment and being grateful. When I look back I've had some incredible times with a lot of different looking women, my younger self would be amazed, lol.

I can relate to the comment about being 20 (sexlessness being purgatory; every lay being the Super Bowl).

I've said before on this forum that my sex drive decreasing with age is the best thing that ever happened.

 

[The Duke]

The only people that value the physical part of sex are people that don’t get much of it. Now hear me out! The process of conquering a woman, escalating her out of her clothes, and seeing her submit to your cvck via ******* or sex is priceless. After her mouth is wrapped around my junk or I have did a few pumps I am like okay I’m bored & tired lol.

Over the years I've thoroughly enjoyed dropping a girls panties for the first time and I doubt that will ever change. But even in a long term relationship I've never felt sex was over rated or boring. I've always made sure it never got stale. You can still continue conquering a woman in a ltr...I've never had a chic not want to please any and every dirty, kinky desire I may have. I do my best to bring out the inner p0rnstar/kuhm slvt in every one of them.

You get out of it what you put into it. If vanilla is your flavor I can see how that would get old. Its probably not very inspiring to her either.

As long as she keeps her body in good shape and has a good attitude I'm all about it.

 

[Bokanovsky]

The only people that value the physical part of sex are people that don’t get much of it. Now hear me out! The process of conquering a woman, escalating her out of her clothes, and seeing her submit to your cvck via ******* or sex is priceless. After her mouth is wrapped around my junk or I have did a few pumps I am like okay I’m bored & tired lol.

Try having sex with attractive women.

 

[zekko]

Sex is overrated, but realizing that doesn't solve the basic problem: No matter what you do, you still end up wanting it.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Try having sex with attractive women.

Wouldn’t this apply to sex addicts that fvck ugly women?

 

[CornbreadFed]