Hot girl at a club, Totally blew it!

[Will900]

I went out about 2 months ago for my mates bday, we were really enjoying the night and i met some cute girl, exchanged numbers started texting etc and it was going well, she was saying how much she liked texting me and that she thought i was cute and stuff like that. But we have never met up. I have asked her a couple of times do you fancy meeting up? She just replied saying yeah we will, but nothing has come of it.

Then the last week she has been having trouble with her back and been to hospital and that to have it looked at. Me being a nice guy i decided to send some flowers to her work to cheer her up! She got them, said thanks and now all of a sudden I've got this email on facebook saying 'hey, sorry i havnt spoke ive lost my phone'. I thought right ok thats fine. I emailed back saying oh dear, not good, hows the back? Got a reply saying 'hmm back is ok, just to let you know i wont be mailing much anymore, im kind of seeing someone else! hope your ok.

I was totally shocked by this and thought what the hell?! Was the flowers a bit to much?

 

[Htienvu]

The fact that you've lost interest way before you sent the flowers. You got her number but decided to go into texting mode, you text about meeting up but you've never actually firmly set up a date.

She sensed your interest for her was still there, her's evaporated that's why she got uncomfortable and rejected you before you even make a move.

Next time determine her interest level by calling her after you get her number and set up a proper date. Don't just talk about meeting up, take the initiative and set one up.

 

[Iceberg]

I went out about 2 months ago for my mates bday, we were really enjoying the night and i met some cute girl, exchanged numbers started texting etc and it was going well, she was saying how much she liked texting me and that she thought i was cute and stuff like that. But we have never met up. I have asked her a couple of times do you fancy meeting up? She just replied saying yeah we will, but nothing has come of it.

Wait. So you've been texting a girl for two months...and you've never hung out since the night you met her?

You get a girl's number, and you set up a date within the first week of getting her number. If the girl is iffy, or she's giving you the run-around, then you assume she's a flake or Low Interest. You don't text the chick for 2 months...I don't even understand how you did that?

As soon as you asked her out, and she didn't meet up with you, that was all the info you needed. You should have NEXTed her and moved forward

Then the last week she has been having trouble with her back and been to hospital and that to have it looked at. Me being a nice guy i decided to send some flowers to her work to cheer her up!

Ah come on, man. You've been here since 2005. You don't send flowers to a girl you're not even dating. Hell, you should rarely do it for a girl you ARE dating.

I emailed back saying oh dear, not good, hows the back? Got a reply saying 'hmm back is ok, just to let you know i wont be mailing much anymore, im kind of seeing someone else! hope your ok.

I was totally shocked by this and thought what the hell?! Was the flowers a bit to much?

Shocked by what? That she wanted to end your "texting relationship"?

She probably isn't even really dating someone. She just saw you as the creepy guy who she met ONCE, and sent her flowers and, she wanted to get rid of you.

 

[thevilittletroll]

it was the flowers that sent her over the edge, but i'm guessing there was never enough attraction built up from the start. understand that when most girls play hard to get you are still hanging out with them and they are teasing your c.o.c.k.

i had a story like that back in my afc days. i met a girl and we talked on the phone every night for hours for 3 weeks. we went on 3 dates, on the third date i brought her flowers. she blew me off and i never heard from her again. so word to the wise, never buy a girl flowers unless you are already banging her, better yet unless she's already been your gf for at least 6 months.