hot chick at work asks me DIRECTLY for a compliment?

[verysuave]

so i tell her that we should hang out at pacific beach sometime and asked for her number. She gives it.. asked me a few questions before she left

2 days later i see her at work, LOOKING EFFING HELLA GOOD.. ive never seen her look so good like a maxim model at 6am in the morning (i work night crew job)

Anyway, i really wanted to say something about her hair. I just wanted to compliment her at the right time since she really put effort into making herself look good. It just wasn't one of those meaningless compliments (i know for a fact that women love compliments, specially when they make themselves look really good on special ocassions)

So she stands next to me.. i look over to me right and say
verysuave: "so, they have hair salons open at 5 in the morning?"
hb: *gives me wierd look "no.. *smiles.. why?
verysuave: "just asking.."
hb: "do you like it?????" (i guess she knew i was talking about her hair cuz she knew that she put effort into making it look good)
verysuave: paused for a second.. "i like it, its nice.. but I think you have ugly socks.. VERY ugly socks.. soo ugly"
hb: "What??? u cant even see my socks"
verysuave: i ask another guy coworker nearby "hey man, her socks look ugly, look!"
coworker A : "uhh, how do you know she's wearing socks? U cant see em"
verysuave: "I have xray"

SOOOOOOO, when women ask you for a straight up opinion like "Oh, do you like my hair or whatever" whats the best way to go about it without gassing her head up?? TNXXXX

 

[Metacomet]

I don't know whether to laugh or sigh.

Why does everyone throw in NEGS so quickly?

It's like a ****ing sprint to NEG a girl.

You could have just honestly complimented her and said something later to be ****y and funny - instead you tried dissing her socks which weren't even visible :crackup:

If a girl sees through a NEG you fall flat on your face.

OUCH

As to your question, how to go about following a question like 'do you like my hair'?

If you're not a complete dweeb who is fawning over the girl you shouldn't be afraid to say she has pretty hair. If you are afraid to tell a girl she has gorgeous features when it's the truth and she wants to hear it, you are insecure.

Constantly complimenting a girl is different from answering her question.

"Yes, your hair is hot."

Done. She isn't going to think you're a loser until you say something like 'But your socks are so uglyyy.'

Mixing compliments and negs is fvcking awkward and hard to pull off. For some reason people do it on reflex because they think it's a good technique. Stop it.

 

[verysuave]

u call that a neg? thats nothing son... jsut a playful tease

 

[oakraiderz2]

If a girl get dolled up for YOU then you let her know she looks good.

 

[chinwaggler]

I reckon that was pretty funny, but you should've said afterwards, genuinely that she looked nice and complimented her hair.

Also if you want to give a meaningful compliment, think about what you want to compliment her on, and why you like it.

 

[verysuave]

if you are gona respond, respond with a constructive answer and not a dumb one to metacomet. I did say "i like it, its nice"

 

[horaholic]

You could turn it around:

"Wow. You must want me really bad, dollin yourself up that much for me."

Actually, you can give compliments, as long as you're not supplicating. Or compliment them, without an actual compliment. But only give 1 or 2 the whole date.

DJ compliments: "Damn, whos heart are you tryin to break?" Or "You know, I cant be held responsible for my actions, if your gonna look like that." Or just a simple, sincere, and casual "you look good," is fine too. Just dont overdo it. You acknowledged she looks good, but havent kissed her ass, or put her on a pedestal. Or do it in a C+F manner, where she laughs after you compliment her. "You're daddy lets you out of the house dressed like that?" I also like to bite my fist and say "grrrroooowwww." You also have to be giving a devilish sneer face while doing it.

The hotter they are, the less they should hear it.

As opposed to:

AFC compliments: "OMG, you are SOOO pretty. I cant believe you're going out with me." I also stay away from a serious "you're really beautiful" I feel its too much, outside of a relationship. Nothing sappy, and no 'lovers' eyes, nothing creepy.

Also, use your negs better. That was a bad move about her socks. Like Mystery says: "I like your nails. Are they real? Well...I like em anyway." See how thats like a half-compliment as opposed to a direct insult?

 

[verysuave]

You could turn it around:

"Wow. You must want me really bad, dollin yourself up that much for me."

Actually, you can give compliments, as long as you're not supplicating. Or compliment them, without an actual compliment. But only give 1 or 2 the whole date.

DJ compliments: "Damn, whos heart are you tryin to break?" Or "You know, I cant be held responsible for my actions, if your gonna look like that." Or just a simple, sincere, and casual "you look good," is fine too. Just dont overdo it. You acknowledged she looks good, but havent kissed her ass, or put her on a pedestal. Or do it in a C+F manner, where she laughs after you compliment her. "You're daddy lets you out of the house dressed like that?" I also like to bite my fist and say "grrrroooowwww." You also have to be giving a devilish sneer face while doing it.

The hotter they are, the less they should hear it.

As opposed to:

AFC compliments: "OMG, you are SOOO pretty. I cant believe you're going out with me." I also stay away from a serious "you're really beautiful" I feel its too much, outside of a relationship. Nothing sappy, and no 'lovers' eyes, nothing creepy.

yeah, i just didnt want to kiss her ass for it.. cuz i know, she'z gona get alot of compliments today

 

[Metacomet]

u call that a neg? thats nothing son... jsut a playful tease

'YOUR SOCKS ARE SO UGLY EWWW HEY EVERYONE. HEY COWORKER LOOK AT HER UGLY SOCKS!'

I know you weren't shouting and waving your arms about but you might as well have ... it was retarded dude. It was a neg.

You were afraid to validate her looks by complimenting her hair so on impulse you instantly tried to diss her socks.

That's called a neg. That's called 'playful teasing... the wrong way'. We've all done it before... but it's definitely the wrong thing and the proof is in the expression/attitude on a girls face after you do it...

You could turn it around:

"Wow. You must want me really bad, dollin yourself up that much for me."

That's for the fvcking win right there. Instead of negging her or dissing her you actually tease her and demonstrate confidence. It's not easy to whip up responses like that on the spot in every situation though.

To the OP:

It's all good. I'm not trying to diss you for negging (much) but still emphasise that you should have complimented her, smiled and left her leaving happy not confused and somewhat insulted. You know what you did 'wrong' and right.

I'm a noob... the vets will explain this better.

 

[verysuave]

your name explains it all

 

[War Against Betaism]

Yeah making fun of her socks was pretty unnecessary but other than that you did a pretty good job.

 

[DonJuan11]

so i tell her that we should hang out at pacific beach sometime and asked for her number. She gives it.. asked me a few questions before she left

Good you got the number, "hang out...sometime" not good. It means "if you refuse and reject me, I didn't really ask you out so my ego is protected." Not very confident sounding.

2 days later i see her at work, LOOKING EFFING HELLA GOOD.. ive never seen her look so good like a maxim model at 6am in the morning (i work night crew job)

Anyway, i really wanted to say something about her hair. I just wanted to compliment her at the right time since she really put effort into making herself look good. It just wasn't one of those meaningless compliments (i know for a fact that women love compliments, specially when they make themselves look really good on special ocassions)

So she stands next to me.. i look over to me right and say
verysuave: "so, they have hair salons open at 5 in the morning?"
hb: *gives me wierd look "no.. *smiles.. why?
verysuave: "just asking.."

Not the greatest response. Should have said "Because I have never seen you look so beautiful in my life"

hb: "do you like it?????" (i guess she knew i was talking about her hair cuz she knew that she put effort into making it look good)
verysuave: paused for a second.. "i like it, its nice.. but I think you have ugly socks.. VERY ugly socks.. soo ugly"

What? You wanted to turn her on by insulting her?

hb: "What??? u cant even see my socks"
verysuave: i ask another guy coworker nearby "hey man, her socks look ugly, look!"
coworker A : "uhh, how do you know she's wearing socks? U cant see em"
verysuave: "I have xray"

You lost me with the socks comments.

SOOOOOOO, when women ask you for a straight up opinion like "Oh, do you like my hair or whatever" whats the best way to go about it without gassing her head up?? TNXXXX

The best way to compliment her is to genuinely compliment her about something you like, as you would like to be complimented too. I don't understand what "gassing her head up" means. If you like her hair, tell her, if you like her outfit, tell her. Don't compliment 10 things you like about her in 2 minutes, but give a heartfelt compliment if you see something you think she put some effort into.

But don't put her down after the compliment, it won't make her want to take off her clothes.

 

[verysuave]

The best way to compliment her is to genuinely compliment her about something you like, as you would like to be complimented too. I don't understand what "gassing her head up" means. If you like her hair, tell her, if you like her outfit, tell her. Don't compliment 10 things you like about her in 2 minutes, but give a heartfelt compliment if you see something you think she put some effort into.

But don't put her down after the compliment, it won't make her want to take off her clothes.

hows that an insult? making fun of JUST HER SOCKS THAT NOBODY CAN EVEN SEE???

If i made fun of her teeth, YES
if i made fun of her ears, YES
socks that you can't see? NOOOO

Yeah man, let me insult you by saying YOU ARE AN UGLY GUY DONJUAN11.

You feel insulted yet even though i dont know what you look like or dont know nothin about you.

 

[intrextrovert]

Imagine if she was you. A girly you. You got all dressed up beautiful one morning, you knew it, possibly for some guy. You have to ask the guy if he likes your hair to get a straight acknowledging of it, and he immediately starts saying your socks are ugly. You aren't even wearing socks/no one can see your socks...

I dunno if it would be best, but if a girl got all dressed up hot, especially if it was possibly for me, i would encourage it. Tell her she looks great straight up.