hot azn single mom chick. 1 hour date, worth it?

[tony-montana]

me: a sweetie like you should have time to relax from the world. you work ya butt off and .. a girl like you needs a big relax day break from the world.

me: and im gonna offer you the best day ever!

her: ahhh shucks
her: ur so sweet
her: but life is life

me: so you go on and find space in that diary of yours. before i leave we
shall get together.

her: OK...
her: i can do coffee between 12 and 1 tomorrow
her: lol
her: im horrible...

me: sold
me: bit tight but it shall do

her: lol. are u serious. it is very tight

me: well i just wanted to catch up before i go on sat for my holiday

her: and thats depending i have no meetings ...
her: but either way, i'll try my best ok

me: and theres no other days free before sat night ?

her: i have to check

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and thats it. 1 hour date? is that even worth it. i do have to go out anyway. she didnt reply after the "i have to check" part. but she IS at work atm.

she is a very busy girl. she studies, works, has a kid to look after. so i figure this is my only chance to meet her. we have spoken before on msn over microphone and webcam. i feel like its a forced date the way shes saying "ill try my best"

hmm what you guys think?

 

[Igetit!]

Seems like some people are never happy.

Tony,she accepted a date with you. What else do you want?

Women know within the first 5 to 10 minutes whether or not they're attracted to a man.

It's funny,because guys think that women aren't logical.

This is a PERFECT USE of logic on her part.

After 10 to 15 minutes of sitting down and having coffee with you,she'll know if she wants to continue seeing you or not. My guess is if she does,the date will continue after an hour has passed.

If she doesn't like you,well hey,it's no harm. The date's only an hour anyway.

Just her saying yes to you,even for an hour,means that when you approached her,she a least saw a hint of something there,something she'd like to find out more about.

She's given you a chance. The rest is up to you.

The only part of the interaction you had with her I didn't like was when she told you she could meet you for an hour,then you came back with...

...and theres no other days free before sat night ?

You made yourself seem too available right there,like she could just pick a random day out of the blue,and no matter when she chooses,you'll be available.

Other than that,you did good.

You have a date set up.

You've been here two years. Use what you've learned to generate her interest in you.

A lot of guys get turned down when they do what you did.

You have a chance,so make the best of it.

 

[tony-montana]

okay cause the date wasn't really properly set out... and she didnt reply anymore. this is the rest of our chat:

me: (5:33 PM):
*hey im gonna need your number. just incase... and we'll meet at the plaza how is that?
her: (5:34 PM):
*HMMM
me: (5:34 PM):
*dont forget im new here
me: (5:34 PM):
*dont know any other places hehe
her: (5:34 PM):
*new?
me: (5:34 PM):
*moved here
me: (5:34 PM):
*few months back
her: (5:34 PM):
*and how are you finding the place?
me: (5:35 PM):
*yeah its great.
me: (5:35 PM):
*so unless you got a better place to meet. plaza is what i came up with.
me: (5:35 PM):
*nice n busy
her: (5:35 PM):
*oh yes
me: (5:35 PM):
*no stalking can be done.
me: (5:35 PM):
*etc
me: (5:35 PM):
*.lol
her: (5:35 PM):
*just in case ur a serial killer
her: (5:35 PM):
*good thinking
me: (5:35 PM):
*that's it.
me: (5:36 PM):
*i was more thinkin
me: (5:36 PM):
*just incase YOU were a serial killer.
me: (5:36 PM):
*
me: (5:36 PM):
*im the new one here!
her: (5:37 PM):
*lol
her: (5:37 PM):
*oh yes
her: (5:37 PM):
*a man killer
her: (5:37 PM):
*yeah but cos your new...
her: (5:37 PM):
*maybe your running from the cops in another state
her: (5:37 PM):
*wanted for murder
me: (5:37 PM):
*maybe
her: (5:37 PM):
*hey...how about that theory..
me: (5:37 PM):
*lol
her: (5:37 PM):
*sounds better eh?
me: (5:37 PM):
*yep i can roll with that
me: (5:37 PM):
*i'll leave my guns at home tomorrow.
her: (5:37 PM):
*i better bring pepper spray incase
her: (5:37 PM):
*and maybe my tazer too
me: (5:38 PM):
*yeah. who knows what crazy ppl might stalk us
her: (5:38 PM):
*lol
her: (5:38 PM):
*oh ha ha
me: (5:38 PM):
*hehe
her: (5:38 PM):
*well, for now were are still on for tomorrow
her: (5:39 PM):
*lets take it from there shall we
me: (5:40 PM):
*okay but dont you think we should exchange our numbers incase one of us doesn't make it
me: (5:40 PM):
*lol
her: (5:40 PM):
*if u do a noshow...i can always shop
her: (5:40 PM):
*lol
me: (5:41 PM):
*my job kinda sucks. i get calls at anytime
me: (5:41 PM):
*but hope fully i wont tomorrow.
me: (5:42 PM):
*and you know it helps to choose a spot to meet. the plaza is very big.
me: (5:42 PM):
*that shop up the top ? theres a nice bench there.
her: (5:44 PM):
*there is
her: (5:44 PM):
*how about down near target
her: (5:44 PM):
*next to a sushi place
her: (5:44 PM):
*its quiet and we can get something to eat
me: (5:44 PM):
*target target... hmm wheres that. lol.. nah okay that's sounds good. i'll find it.
her: (5:44 PM):
*u will be online tomorrow morning hey?
me: (5:45 PM):
*usually im never on in the morning but i will hop on so we can arrange the plan eh.
her: (5:45 PM):
*k..then...gottgo
me: (5:45 PM):
*12?
her: (5:45 PM):
*yes
me: (5:45 PM):
*okay
me: (5:45 PM):
*great.
her: (5:45 PM):
*i'll talk to u tonite if ur online
me: (5:46 PM):
*sure. talk to you soon
me: (5:46 PM):
*see ya.


- so there it is. im just going to talk and get to know her. have a few laughs n stuff. what do i do after that? is she the one to make contact with me for a next date? btw ive asked for her digits twice. she didnt give it up. avoids it as you saw above. i gave her my number once.. don't know if she saved it. but that's it for now. wish me luck.

 

[Igetit!]

im just going to talk and get to know her. have a few laughs n stuff.

Well,this is fine and all,but I hope it goes better than that chat you just posted. All I saw in that dialogue was just friendliness. No manliness,no masculinity,no agressiveness,nothing sexual on your part towards her.

No hint of sexual tension. Just all joking around/fun and games.

If the date goes anything like that text convo did,then she'll probably put you in the friendzone.

And she'll have every right to do so. Women friendzone guys that feel no sexual attraction for. So if you don't show your sexual interest to her and hide it behind joking and playing around,don't blame her for what happens.

You signed up for it.

is she the one to make contact with me for a next date?

It's ok for you to call her and set up a second date...if she wants one. Just wait like 2 or 3 days later before asking her out again.

You don't want to crowd her life,only be a pleasant part of it.

btw ive asked for her digits twice. she didnt give it up. avoids it as you saw above.

I think the reason she wouldn't give you her number,her telling you she'd "check" to see if she had any other days free before Saturday,and her wanting the date to only last an hour are ALL THE SAME...

She doesn't know you yet,doesn't yet trust you.

She's not comfortable enough with you.

Why would she give out her number to a guy she doesn't trust or is comfortable with yet? Or tell you what day she's free?

You're pushing too hard too soon.

She said she'd meet up with you for coffee. Take that and work with it.
Make her feel comfortable on the date,then maybe she'll give you her number. Use what you have right now. Giving you her number is looked at as a type of "commitment" on her part. If she gives you her number,then it turns out she doesn't like you,then she'll be stuck with "some guy" calling her who she doesn't like.

Try to see it from her point of view.

 

[tony-montana]

cool thanks for the info. but how am i going to make it sexual at a public place without acting sleazy. ive had times where i tried doing it on my dates and they didnt like it. i felt like a d!ck. so lately i've just tried being nice and sensible when i go on dates. its hard to do kino over lunch. sitting at a food court, eating, with loads of ppl around. the most i can do is verbal stuff? i thought im meant to just sit there, eat, make her laugh, tease her a bit?

btw. i got no money for lunch... thats gonna make me look silly when she eats and i dont :/

 

[Igetit!]

cool thanks for the info. but how am i going to make it sexual at a public place without acting sleazy. ive had times where i tried doing it on my dates and they didnt like it.

I don't think you understand what I mean when I say "sexual".

I DON'T MEAN being vulgar or profane.

I DON'T MEAN trying to fondle her or grope her.

I DON'T MEAN talking about what you'd like to do to her,talking about her anatomy,or anything like that.

I think you have "SEXUAL" confused with being a "PERVERT".


That's not what I mean. Let me give you an example of what I'm talking about. Let's say you did have her phone number and you were talking to her on the phone about the date. I'll highlight the "sexual parts" in bold.

You:So I'll meet up at so and so place at 6:00 o'clock.
her:Ok,that sounds good.
You:Make sure you wear something nice FOR ME.
her:Something nice for you?
you:Well yeah. Hey look,I stepped to you. I asked you out. I'm the one that risked getting turned down,you know what I'm saying? Hey,if I can do all that,the least you can do is look pretty for me.
When I take a woman out,I want her to look good. I want to feel something when I look at her,so look nice FOR ME
her:Alright,I think I can find something you'll like.


There. You see? SEXUAL,NOT VULGAR OR OBSCENE.

This is just the right blend.

It's not too over the top to the point of offending her and turning her off,and it's not too weak or void of sexual energy to the point of her putting you in the friendzone.

Sexual,not perverted. You get it?

i felt like a d!ck. so lately i've just tried being nice and sensible when i go on dates. its hard to do kino over lunch. sitting at a food court, eating, with loads of ppl around. the most i can do is verbal stuff? i thought im meant to just sit there, eat, make her laugh, tease her a bit?

Yeah,seems like you had "sexual" and being "vulgar" mixed up.
Hopefully,you understand better now.

btw. i got no money for lunch... thats gonna make me look silly when she eats and i dont :

You got that right. It will look awkward. You should have thought this one out before making plans for the date. I don't know what to tell you on this one dude,but you need to figure something out.

 

[Desert Fox]

Why are you dating a single mom? Unless they were widowed because their husband died in war or some terrible tragedy, stay away. Even those types will have issues with loss and attachment (i.e. too afraid to have sex and commit, or have sex and become like leeches).

 

[tony-montana]

her: i dont think i will make it
her:we have a guest from Sweden showing us a new software program
her: i have been invited by the GM to sit in...
her: gotta go now..k...sorry again

good. cause i was very tired anyway. what a relief.

NEXT!

 

[amoka]

her: i dont think i will make it
her:we have a guest from Sweden showing us a new software program
her: i have been invited by the GM to sit in...
her: gotta go now..k...sorry again

good. cause i was very tired anyway. what a relief.

NEXT!

and

btw. i got no money for lunch... thats gonna make me look silly when she eats and i dont :/

 

[yuppaz]

Don't next her for that, it sounds legit.... give it a few days, then try again...