horrible oneitis

[skaterguy97]

Hi guys Im a long time browser of the forums here but never really posted or anything. I think that is about to change though. Anyways I just broke up with my gf of 2 years and weirdly enough I now have a terrible case of oneitis, lost love or something like that for her. Someone please give me a swift kick in the ass.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Everyone wants what they don't have.

I made my own afc thread a year ago:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=126708

Now I have a new gf who is ten times better. The old girl is single and would easily take me back, but now I don't want her back. She is a fine person and I wish her well, but I have something better.

I am telling you this because this story is very, very common. After you have a few relationships, you will see how girls come and go. Like a dog dying, it's sad, but you eventually just go get another dog. With time, you will gain some perspective and see that your oneitis is only psychological, wanting what you don't have, wanting to feel like a winner and not a failure. It's all in your head, and will pass with time...and new pvssy, that helps too.

 

[skaterguy97]

that is exactly what i needed to hear... thanks man

 

[KontrollerX]

Yeah Bible Belt's post just now was awesome and you should know oneitis is a variation of natural human attachment as well getting used to a routine.

Though I suppose oneitis by its often times obsessional nature is that normal attachment process gone somewhat awry as it is also natural for humans to grieve a loss and then let go but oneitis kind of keeps you stuck in place emotionally stagnating.

Bible's Belts other advice about going out and fvcking 10 new girls helps break through the un-natural stagnation of oneitis.

What works about it is you see that you are indeed viable and attractive to other girls.

The pain of oneitis is very often linked to self worth and feeling like you'll never get another girl as hot or good as her again but when you begin to unplug and think about things more deeply you come to understand that if she was so good and you were so right for eachother things would never of gone so wrong and you two would still be together.

And its not about blaming yourself either that gets you through it, it is recognizing that if the soulmate garbage were true it wouldn't of mattered what either of you did in the relationship as the pre-destination soulmate stuff would've made you both work through any trouble and be together forever.