Hooking up or going out with a girl who has a boyfriend

[stuka1939]

Would you do it? Do you think it is right?

Back in my college days, I was the typical nice guy and had opportunities to hook up with girls who had boyfriends or maybe go out on a date with one. However, out of respect for a guy I did not know or knew nothing about, I DIDN'T.

I REGRET THAT MENTALITY.....

Folks, until a girl has a ring on her finger, I now believe she is fair game!!

We all know, MOST cute/hot girls have boyfriends because they have many options and they never want to be single.

We also know most girls will dump their current boyfriends when a BBD (Bigger, Better Deal) comes along.

However....

How do you know you aren't better looking, smarter, more confident than her boyfriend?

What if her boyfriend treats her like crap?


If you're an attractive frustrated single guy and some short, pudgy bald guy has a cute girl who is flirty with you....what the hell should stop you from going after it? After, all a pudgy guy doesn't deserve a cute girlfriend.


I am a firm believer that 95% of the guys out there would hook up with your cute/hot girlfriend if they had the chance without giving a god damned about you or your feelings. Why be that nice guy 5% who finishes last?

Unless a girl has a ring on her finger, she is fair game.

 

[Birdem]

No, I wouldn't do it just one of the principles I live by.

 

[markbr]

Well, it doesn't have to be too much drama. If she's attracted to you she can't help it. Besides, she wouldn't hook up with you unless her existing relationship isn't rock solid. I wouldn't go after married women though, cos I believe in marriage and being with that one person once your married. But that's personal choice.

 

[stuka1939]

Well, it doesn't have to be too much drama. If she's attracted to you she can't help it. Besides, she wouldn't hook up with you unless her existing relationship isn't rock solid. I wouldn't go after married women though, cos I believe in marriage and being with that one person once your married. But that's personal choice.

I agree there.

 

[TheBaconator]

As long as I didn't know him I would. If you don't it's just delaying the inevitable, because she will find another dude who doesn't care.

 

[Birdem]

AFC's will kill for their GF... There are plenty of girls out there... What gives the taken girl more value than the single girl... Do you like hiding around talking to her and instead of her being your backup chick you are her backup man why would you want that position?

 

[Aragon034]

AFC's will kill for their GF... There are plenty of girls out there... What gives the taken girl more value than the single girl... Do you like hiding around talking to her and instead of her being your backup chick you are her backup man why would you want that position?

If you were looking for a relationship with this girl then yeah, i might agree with you depending on circumstances.

It's not that taken girls have more value, they just happen to be in a comfortable position

I'm in this exact position right now and to be quite honest, i give maybe 2 iotas worth of care about the guy who's girl i'm gaming. She's the one who asked me if we could go out, And she's the one who kissed me back when i kissed her on the beach.

It's not a matter of whether she thinks you're a better guy, it's that she KNOWS you're a better guy and wants to upgrade.

Alot of guys say "No! because i'd never want that to happen to me!" i say Grow up you nitwits, it can and WILL happen to you unless you constantly improve yourself.

Alot of girls out there have boyfriends, are we just going to ignore that whole section of the finer sex?

I'm not saying go out there and look for HBs with BFs, but if one of them is interested in me, and after checking the situation out i'm interested and relatively sure i don't have to kick his ass, then it's up to that guy whether he tries to hold on to his girl properly or not.

P.S. I do not condone hooking up with married couples, marriage is sacrosanct to me.

 

[Birdem]

I can careless about karma or about the guy. It's just about having rules and stability to your game. Im saying that p ussy isn't worth the trouble it comes with. Why give this girl that type of value to go as far to fight for her.

 

[armadon]

I used to hook up with chicks that had BF but not married. I haven't done that in awhile because I started seeing myself in the other dudes shoes. It just doesn't feel right to me anymore.

 

[guywhoneedshelp]

I've had girls cheat on their boyfriends with me, and I feel a sense of power.

 

[shaunuk]

yeah I've fvcked girls who have boyfriends, and also fvcked a girl who had a girlfriend as well (bisexual)

 

[PhenomX]

i honestly cant see why you cant find a very attractive girl that's single.

if you cant find an attractive single girl you have other issues (perceptionbased) to worry about....unless its like a power fetish of yours when you make a girl cheat on her boyfriend

 

[KontrollerX]

If you are just going to use her for sex and don't care about the guy as in aren't best of friends with him go ahead and hit it.

Its not about bad karma as a reason most of us tell guys here not to hook up with another man's girl but rather we know most guys that come to this site want a relationship with a girl because to them its easier than going on the hunt and finding new chicks to fvck or they are so brainwashed by upbringing and society they think they need to be in a relationship to be worth something but regardless whatever the reason is we tell them to avoid chicks with boyfriends when it comes to a relationship because if she will cheat on him to be with you she will cheat on you as well when she gets bored or another perceived better prospect comes along.

So knowing that the vast majority of guys come to this site to learn how to get into a successful relationship and not just focus on learning to hook up with as many women as possible which they should be doing instead we give these guys advice that sets them up for the best chance at a successful relationship which is avoid cheaters, single mommies, drug addicts and other losers and instead go for the gold ie a single attractive girl.

Thats not hard advice to follow but a lot of people here still like to play the AFC orbiter "friend" to some chick, steal her away from the boyfriend and then later wonder why she cheated on him too and then we get brilliant posts of "What did I do wrong guys?" and the answer is you fished in a tainted well ya moron!

 

[Lexington]

Why doesn't a short, pudgy bald guy deserve a hot girl? For all we know, he could be the coolest guy on the planet.

Simple principle here: how would you feel if some guy hooked up with or had an affair with your girl?

 

[Aragon034]

Touchy subject here, i'm tempted to say lets put the handbags down.

there's no clean and cut answer. if you get into a relationship with a girl whom you stole from another guy, you've got to know that it just might happen to you.

Then again, even if you're the first real relationship she's had, it still might happen to you.

we can't force other guys (especially the guys who just want sex anyway they can) not to do it, i think the best thing we can do is look at each situation with focus and be the best man we can.

We're all looking for that perfect girl who will complete us, someone we can truly love and get unconditional love back.

We've tried it the AFC way and we all regret that, now we've got to pay the price of eternal vigilance and constant improvement if we want to get what we want.

Worrying about other guys whom you barely or don't even know is just going to turn your hair grey, it's your life you should be worried about.

If your girl cheats on you, then maybe she doesn't love you. she might lust you, or be using you for some other reason(money, status, placeholder) but not love.

My final opinion on this is that i don't go looking for girls with BF's, but if it happens, it happens, and i'm only 1 side of the equation.