Honestly do you believe that decent girls can be found in clubs?

[Who Dares Win]

I leave you the wider meaning of word "decent", you sure got what I mean, so the question is:

Do decent girls attend clubs and if so, do they go there with a prejudice about guys there being players so build a shield for themselves?

 

[pinkfl]

No. I don't believe there are decent girls in clubs.

Why do I think this?
A "Decent" girl, by my definition, is focused on her grades in school, and her job, and her hobbies. She has a social group already, within that school, within that job, and with the people that share her hobbies. When she is single, it is likely by choice. She'll have someone in her social group that she can date, there's no need to go to a club.

Sure, there are "exceptions" to this. It's not a rule, but a general trend.
A decent girl might go to a club once, just because she wants to see what it's like. She will probably not like it much, and never go again. She might go for a special event with a few of her female friends, but not really because it's where she wants to be. She might have just moved to a new town, and doesn't have a social group yet, and wants to start meeting people.

Any girl that frequently goes to the club, dresses like trash, and acts like trash? Not a decent girl. A lady wouldn't cheapen herself to dress like trash and let a random guy feel her up or kiss her or rub herself all over some random guy.

If she's doing it for EVERYONE, she's not special.

 

[hockster]

Yes I do. But most with a decent head on their shoulders don't frequent those places for long.

 

[Who Dares Win]

No. I don't believe there are decent girls in clubs.

Why do I think this?
A "Decent" girl, by my definition, is focused on her grades in school, and her job, and her hobbies. She has a social group already, within that school, within that job, and with the people that share her hobbies. When she is single, it is likely by choice. She'll have someone in her social group that she can date, there's no need to go to a club.

Sure, there are "exceptions" to this. It's not a rule, but a general trend.
A decent girl might go to a club once, just because she wants to see what it's like. She will probably not like it much, and never go again. She might go for a special event with a few of her female friends, but not really because it's where she wants to be. She might have just moved to a new town, and doesn't have a social group yet, and wants to start meeting people.

Any girl that frequently goes to the club, dresses like trash, and acts like trash? Not a decent girl. A lady wouldn't cheapen herself to dress like trash and let a random guy feel her up or kiss her or rub herself all over some random guy.

If she's doing it for EVERYONE, she's not special.

I'm afraid I have to agree...

 

[Gunner26]

@Pinkfl - I've got to disagree with your view that girls who focus on good grades don't frequent clubs. A lot of my female friends achieve perfectly good grades and go out almost as much as me. I'll agree they are often single by choice, and that they could get a relationship from their social circle, but that doesn't mean they don't go to clubs. At least for me as a uni student I've noticed that the best students are those who have a balance between work and play, and play at our age is getting drunk and going clubbing.


Anyway on to my contribution haha. I think my view is skewed a bit by the fact that I am at uni and most people I know go out at least once a week. A lot of the girls are decent, and are relationship material, the others not so much.

To me it seems that the decent girls are the ones who don't pull one night stands often/at all. The ones that do I generally see as less than ideal for anything serious, probably because they are willing to get it on at a moments notice.

Having said that. It is going to be difficult to find a decent girl in a club for that reason, they do not go home with you. To be honest no guy really wants to put in a load of effort on a night out to find a decent girl, and then end up with nothing at the end of the night, because he found her. We are much more likely to find a skank and pump and dump.

Gunner

 

[SamTheHobit]

It would be to big of a generalisation to say that all women that go to clubs are trash.

As much as I'd like to put them all in one group.

But I do think that you are unlikely to get anywhere with a "decent" women if you meet them at a club.

I do think the "non slutty" women just go for the attention so I'm not to sure if these are classified as decent.

I honestly dont know where decent women hang out these days. And its honestly coming to that point of just accepting a life alone.

 

[hockster]

I honestly dont know where decent women hang out these days. And its honestly coming to that point of just accepting a life alone.

Dude, you are WAY to young to be thinking like that. You need to get to my age before you start having such thoughts. Lol. You have way too many places to go to meet good women. Try being 47 and finding good places to go to meet chicks. And I'm a young 47, I'm in great shape, been hitting the gym 4-5 days a week for over 25 years. Healthy, pretty decent looking for my age. It gets hard when you get older. All the chicks my age are chasing young bucks.

 

[Uncharted]

Yes they are there.

The majority of them are not or are attention *****s. You will need to weed through the mess to find them.

Much easier to meet women at bars (more receptive to talking than clubs), during the day, in classes, or through my friends.

 

[Mike32ct]

A decent girl might get dragged to a club by her friends for a bachelorette party or birthday party or something like that.

So it's possible, but more the exception than the rule.

 

[( . )( . )]

By decent I'm presuming you mean caring, submissive and feminine. The kind that would be suited to raise your offspring and spend long periods of time with? Yes they go out occasionally. A big difference to the hordes of club rats who live for it every weekend. Unfortunately the chances of actually bumping into one within the throng of sh1t regulars is slim.

 

[badboyjmm]

The main issue I think is that women don't really go there to hook up and they have a negative stigma about men in clubs. Therefore, it's make the whole situation bad. Especially when the majority of girls go in groups and they are in a relationship.

So just have a good time and qualify these women. There's probably a few gems in the rough

 

[zinc4]

Guys, pretty much every girl in existence has been to a club at least once in their lives...yes, you can catch a really good girl in a club, it's just that odds are you will meet a slut instead of the good ones when you go out because the sluts frequent the clubs much more often..therefore it's a numbers game.

My ex GF only slept with 2 people in her entire life, a 26 year-old and i met her in a club and she didn't even drink alcohol...she just really enjoyed dancing with her GFs from time to time like once every few months or so.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Decent girls can be found anywhere. Just like slvtty girls can be found anywhere (like church).

It's all how you screen, and how you frame the interaction.

 

[adam225]

I met my ex at a rave. She wasn't the brightest girl. But she loved sex lol.

 

[Stagger Lee]

A decent girl might get dragged to a club by her friends for a bachelorette party or birthday party or something like that.

So it's possible, but more the exception than the rule.

That's just it, the "decent" ones or even the good looking ones that aren't total sluts are going to be there with several female friends and probably a few guy friends in a mixed set. You're going to have 2 or 3 layers of shields to work through on top of the shield a decent girl is going to have with some guy at a club approaching her. She's just there to have a drink and maybe dance and hang out with her friends and act and be stuck up.

Just about anywhere else besides a club without her friends and the shields up would be easier to meet a good looking and decent girl, cold approach at the supermarket, evenon the street etc.

 

[DJ7]

How do you spot during daytime/night time if a girl is decent or not?

By decent I mean caring, submissive and feminine. The kind that would be suited to raise your offspring and spend long periods of time with.

 

[( . )( . )]

How do you spot during daytime/night time if a girl is decent or not?

You can't "spot" chicks who are worth a 2nd look. You have to wade through the turd manually and hope lady luck is looking down on you. It's just a numbers game.

You can maximize your chances though. The key as many fellas here will tell you is to look at the father. Always , always , always look at the father.

A strong father figure is THE most important part of the screening process for any man considering long term bonding with a woman. I've made countless posts on this and can't stress it enough.

Admittedly these women are rare as rocking horse sh!t with our over abundance of single mothers and beta fathers poisoning the well but stay the course and keep searching. Trust me the difference in women is truly like night and day. When you see a common pattern of what these traditional old school fathers can produce in their daughters it blows your hair back at the contrast, real feminine grace and responsibility for her actions CANNOT be taught by anyone else but a strong father.