Holy moly.. Mildly obsessed after first date with a girl.

[Tiguere]

JUST DO WHATEVER you have in mind.. you have to be willing to fail. the guys who get laid regularly are the ones who are willing to fail.

text her ..."" hey got a bottle of wine unopened beside me.... when is best for me to show up and taste those lips?"""

ill be honest i always have better luck with women when i talk direct and sexual


you already made out... taking her to dinner is a step backwards. you have make the second date start where the first one ended.

 

[Korrupt]

JUST DO WHATEVER you have in mind.. you have to be willing to fail. the guys who get laid regularly are the ones who are willing to fail.

text her ..."" hey got a bottle of wine unopened beside me.... when is best for me to show up and taste those lips?"""

ill be honest i always have better luck with women when i talk direct and sexual


you already made out... taking her to dinner is a step backwards. you have make the second date start where the first one ended.

Wow.. You're right. I've been playing this way too safe. What the f*ck am I thinking? All you guys are right..

I'm actually talking to several different girls and a few of them I've said totally off the wall sh!t to and it seems like it's increased the attraction. I mean, like stupid ridiculous sexual sh!t. I remember talking to this one girl and telling her I only want sex and FWB. She said she wasn't looking for that kinda thing but we kept talking, and I kept saying dumb sexual sh!t (stuff that should have blown me out like "you should come over so we can work out this sexual tension ") and we now have a "date" to "chill and drink champagne" at her place tomorrow night. Not saying we're gonna 100% for sure sleep together, but the point is I said that dumb crap and we're hanging out tomorrow. I was willing to fail and didn't care during our interaction. Another example is this 30 y/o chick I've hung out with twice.. Before our second "date" (which was us chilling and drinking champagne at my place) I was saying the dumbest, most outright sexual stuff like "..I guess it doesn't matter what you wear, because it'll be coming off 5 minutes after you walk in the door, right? " She came over that night and we almost f*cked, but she ended up giving me LMR (I didn't want to rape the girl). If we don't hop in bed together next time we chill, I'd literally be SHOCKED.

I totally lose my game/DJ common sense when I like a chick. Totally. F*ck calling at all. Pimp's right.. If she wants me she wants me, if she doesn't, she doesn't - calling won't change her mind all of a sudden. I'm going to send her a variation of what you posted, Tiguere.

 

[cordoncordon]

3 things:

1. I don't believe for a second that your friend didn't ask those questions on your behalf haha. Those were exactly the same things I would have said if I had a friend who put me up to it.

2. You are way much too obsessing over this girl. And if you can do that on this website? (and the MISC one too )Then trust me she could sense it when she was with you, even if you don't think she did.

3. Absolutely do not contact her again for at least a week. You followed up after the first date. You asked her out again. Don't be a freakazoid stalker and be like every other guy out there. If you don't hear from her by lets say early next week, after she has spent time with her parents, then ask her out one more time. But absolutely do not contact her again this week unless she initiates first.

Good luck.

 

[the third eye]

why didnt you just ask her when she was free instead of you telling her when you were free? this wouldve saved like 10 of your convos.

 

[Korrupt]

3 things:

1. I don't believe for a second that your friend didn't ask those questions on your behalf haha. Those were exactly the same things I would have said if I had a friend who put me up to it.

2. You are way much too obsessing over this girl. And if you can do that on this website? (and the MISC one too )Then trust me she could sense it when she was with you, even if you don't think she did.

3. Absolutely do not contact her again for at least a week. You followed up after the first date. You asked her out again. Don't be a freakazoid stalker and be like every other guy out there. If you don't hear from her by lets say early next week, after she has spent time with her parents, then ask her out one more time. But absolutely do not contact her again this week unless she initiates first.

Good luck.

Well, he DID kinda do it on my behalf..

Ahh we all freak out sometimes. This is one of the few times I've had serious, genuine chemistry with a girl, so it's more important to me - which isn't a good thing. I didn't act desperate on the date, though. I mean, what's my reason for being desperate before I even know the girl? I will however say that my second date follow-up text was bad.

And haha I thank God all this forum stuff is anonymous

And uhh.. Are you sure about waiting a full week? I know that no matter if she's interested or not I won't get a date since she's got family visiting.. But a full week till contacting again? Sounds like a bit much.

 

[cordoncordon]

Well, he DID kinda do it on my behalf..

Ahh we all freak out sometimes. This is one of the few times I've had serious, genuine chemistry with a girl, so it's more important to me - which isn't a good thing. I didn't act desperate on the date, though. I mean, what's my reason for being desperate before I even know the girl? I will however say that my second date follow-up text was bad.

And haha I thank God all this forum stuff is anonymous

And uhh.. Are you sure about waiting a full week? I know that no matter if she's interested or not I won't get a date since she's got family visiting.. But a full week till contacting again? Sounds like a bit much.

I say a full week because you have already told her when you were free this week and she did not respond to that. If she has wanted to see you this week, she would have gotten back to you in some way, and she didn't. And since you know she is busy this week/weekend anyway, there really is nothing to be gained by asking her out again or even contacting her. You really need to pretend this is a girl that you have low to average interest in. IF she were such a girl...would you contact her again this week? No. But because your IL is sky high, you feel the need to have some sort of contact with her, even though it goes against your better judgement. Just relax. If she is into you, you will know soon enough. Don't let your hormones rule the day.

 

[Korrupt]

A couple updates..

1.) More conversation with my buddy:

FRIEND: Oh do you have kids? Or just watching for a friend? And a female friend of mine originally got me on here, but she also told me some ridiculous stories about several terrible dates she had. While funny, it wasn't very motivating haha. I'm hoping to avoid the hell dates.. I'm guessing your date wasn't a total freak since you're still on here though - which is slightly re-assuring lol.

HER: No, no kids! It's my friend baby. Yeah one of my girlfriends showed me this site... And no, thank God no crazy dates, I'm also hoping to avoid that mess if I can.

FRIEND: Oh okay. And maybe we can meet-up next week if you're not so damn busy haha! By the way, I read your profile and it said "separated" for your martial status.. Just so I know, what exactly are you looking for?

HER: Dating - excluding one night stands and hook ups... I'm pretty freshly divorced.. I'm not looking to dive into something serious but I'm not against it.

She also texted me:

HER: Hey you.

ME: Hey *name*, what are you up to?

HER: Fixing to pass out. I just realized I didn't get back at you.. I've got work super early this week... I don't think I can swing date night

ME: It's all good. Maybe next week.

HER: Also, this is what I did tonight..

*she sends me a pic of her and a baby*

HER: Babysat!

ME: Lucky kid ..Whose baby?

HER: My friends that I've known from bootcamp.. His name's *name*. You getting thunder over in blah?

ME: Ahh cool. And nope, no thunder over this way.. Pretty sure there's a storm warning though. You getting any over there in the hard streets of blah? (<--- inside joke)

HER: Yeah, I'm loving it. I've got the windows open and there's a crop of honeysuckle blooming - it's blowing right in my window.. Kinda amazing

ME: Sounds like a near perfect night.. All you're missing is a bottle of wine and great company ..Anyways, I've got some work to finish and I'm sure you need to get your ass to bed, so lemme text you a bit later this week.

 

[cordoncordon]

A couple updates..

1.) More conversation with my buddy:

FRIEND: Oh do you have kids? Or just watching for a friend? And a female friend of mine originally got me on here, but she also told me some ridiculous stories about several terrible dates she had. While funny, it wasn't very motivating haha. I'm hoping to avoid the hell dates.. I'm guessing your date wasn't a total freak since you're still on here though - which is slightly re-assuring lol.

HER: No, no kids! It's my friend baby. Yeah one of my girlfriends showed me this site... And no, thank God no crazy dates, I'm also hoping to avoid that mess if I can.

FRIEND: Oh okay. And maybe we can meet-up next week if you're not so damn busy haha! By the way, I read your profile and it said "separated" for your martial status.. Just so I know, what exactly are you looking for?

HER: Dating - excluding one night stands and hook ups... I'm pretty freshly divorced.. I'm not looking to dive into something serious but I'm not against it.

She also texted me:

HER: Hey you.

ME: Hey *name*, what are you up to?

HER: Fixing to pass out. I just realized I didn't get back at you.. I've got work super early this week... I don't think I can swing date night

ME: It's all good. Maybe next week.

HER: Also, this is what I did tonight..

*she sends me a pic of her and a baby*

HER: Babysat!

ME: Lucky kid ..Whose baby?

HER: My friends that I've known from bootcamp.. His name's *name*. You getting thunder over in Edgewater?

ME: Ahh cool. And nope, no thunder over this way.. Pretty sure there's a storm warning though. You getting any over there in the hard streets of Eastport? (<--- inside joke)

HER: Yeah, I'm loving it. I've got the windows open and there's a crop of honeysuckle blooming - it's blowing right in my window.. Kinda amazing

ME: Sounds like a near perfect night.. All you're missing is a bottle of wine and great company ..Anyways, I've got some work to finish and I'm sure you need to get your ass to bed, so lemme text you a bit later this week.

I would have texted her back in 2 days, same as she did you. And judging from her convo with your friend, it doesn't sound like she was that blown away. You are rapidly losing control of the frame, and yourself, over this girl. You are semi stalking her. Just stop. But I fear you are hopelessly over the edge.

http://oi42.tinypic.com/2uhmvdg.jpg

 

[DonJuanabe]

Ah the frame. Yep. When you find yourself caring what she thinks about you; when you find yourself worried you might do the wrong thing; when you're intentionally thinking strategically and you know it; when you're hoping that she will give you a sign of acceptance; when you're concerned there might be someone else... you've lost or are losing the frame. The girl must never be your number one priority. When you find yourself thinking of her constantly throughout the day she has become number one and you are in serious trouble. You must regain the frame. Allow her to enter your world; stop hoping to enter her world. Of course, having lost the frame so many damn times this is much harder to practice than to write.

 

[cordoncordon]

Lets be honest here. There isn't a "friend" messaging this girl for you is there? Though that is bad enough. But be honest, you made up a fake account, got pics of this fakie, made up a BS profile, and it is really you talking to this girl as your "friend". Am I right? Strong stalker signs here.

 

[.Paradox.]

He will never see her again in person if he keeps acting the way he currently is.... zero challenge, too available and projecting too much interest.


Lets wait and see how this shakes out; I'm willing to bet if he turns his behavior around right now, she will come running back; if he doesn't she will be gone.






PIMP

HER: Hey you.

ME: Hey *name*, what are you up to?

HER: Fixing to pass out. I just realized I didn't get back at you.. I've got work super early this week... I don't think I can swing date night

ME: It's all good. Maybe next week.

HER: Also, this is what I did tonight..

*she sends me a pic of her and a baby*

HER: Babysat!

ME: Lucky kid ..Whose baby?

HER: My friends that I've known from bootcamp.. His name's *name*. You getting thunder over in blah?

ME: Ahh cool. And nope, no thunder over this way.. Pretty sure there's a storm warning though. You getting any over there in the hard streets of blah? (<--- inside joke)

HER: Yeah, I'm loving it. I've got the windows open and there's a crop of honeysuckle blooming - it's blowing right in my window.. Kinda amazing

ME: Sounds like a near perfect night.. All you're missing is a bottle of wine and great company ..Anyways, I've got some work to finish and I'm sure you need to get your ass to bed, so lemme text you a bit later this week.

Hahaha I guess Pimp was right.

 

[scribblec]

im reading through the first page and i cant believe noone has pointed out that he was IN HER ROOM and he didnt bang ON A F*CKING FIRST DATE!!

by not banging the **** out of her u failed her **** test of is he a man? and so she went cold on you.


always strike while the irons hot

 

[omega05]

im reading through the first page and i cant believe noone has pointed out that he was IN HER ROOM and he didnt bang ON A F*CKING FIRST DATE!!

by not banging the **** out of her u failed her **** test of is he a man? and so she went cold on you.


always strike while the irons hot

i just dont understand this ideology, that the reason a woman is flaking on a man is because he did not smash that first night of taking her out on a date. Heck, like two years ago i took a girl out to dinner and was gonna go to a movie but instead she invited me to her house (she lives by herself) and we watched a video and she was laying back on me. I guess i should have smashed...

 

[scribblec]

i just dont understand this ideology, that the reason a woman is flaking on a man is because he did not smash that first night of taking her out on a date. Heck, like two years ago i took a girl out to dinner and was gonna go to a movie but instead she invited me to her house (she lives by herself) and we watched a video and she was laying back on me. I guess i should have smashed...

look if a girl did not want to get ****ed on a first date she would not have isolated herself in such a way that any alpha male would obviously **** her.

shes a POF girl whos been on many first dates and i garuntee she has ****ed on the first date many times and when you couldnt pull the trigger even though she was there just the two of you at her place then you failed the "real man" test .


you can be her emotional tampon if that would suit u better?

 

[Korrupt]

look if a girl did not want to get ****ed on a first date she would not have isolated herself in such a way that any alpha male would obviously **** her.

shes a POF girl whos been on many first dates and i garuntee she has ****ed on the first date many times and when you couldnt pull the trigger even though she was there just the two of you at her place then you failed the "real man" test .


you can be her emotional tampon if that would suit u better?

It is what it is. I gave my reasoning for keeping my d!ck in my pants, and honestly I don't know if I've EVER heard of a woman rejecting a man for not pushing to f*ck her on a first date. I mean, have you EVER heard a chick say "yeah, he didn't screw my brains out the first time we met, so I'm dropping him" (exclude the straight sluts who just prowl for sex and let it be known). Of course, if we had met and pre-planned to f*ck, then when it came time I didn't pull the trigger, I'd understand. But that's not the case.. I have however heard of guys blowing themselves out by attempting to get too physical too soon. I agree with you, though. It sure as hell seemed like she wanted more and I should have pushed further.

Another thing.. I "hung out" with two different girls this week (actually one of them just left). I was in a private setting with both girls; the first girl was a first meet (also from PoF and she invited me over for champagne at her place), and the second girl (who literally JUST left) I had coffee with once about a month ago. Neither of them let their pants come off. I swear, EVERY girl I've EVER been with (excluding sluts who just flat out wanted a ONS and told me beforehand) didn't want to f*ck on the first date/meet.

I'd understand if a guy had been on two or more "dates" and hadn't gone for it.. But one- not EVEN one?

 

[scribblec]

Look one thing I've learnt over the last few years is that u will never get punished for pushing for sex but u will be punished for ignoring ur own biological urges, I understand every situation is different and a lot of times girls don't want you to push for sex on the first date.

But when one who does has u in her room on a first date after an online meeetup? That's just screaming **** me

 

[scribblec]

http://www.rooshv.com/theres-no-punishment-in-going-for-sex

read that it explains it much better then i do

 

[Atom Smasher]

She wanted you to bone her that night. You didn't and although at first she tried to make the best of it, she rapidly lost interest since she was disappointed.

This girl likes it direct and no-nonsense. Now she's just stringing you along like a puppy dog. Because she's trying to drum up interest on her part but she really can't. It will most likely go nowhere, I'm sorry to say.

You got infatuated with a certain chemistry that you sensed. I'm sure you did have a certain chemistry but for her it was conditional. For her the chemistry depended on you stepping up and pounding her into oblivion. For you it was not conditional and was in fact rather innocent.

I would say there exists a small chance that things could move forward, but it's going to require your taking a huge step back. If she agrees to see you again, in her mind it will be "I'll give him one more chance". She has the frame. I think I'm really just repeating what others have said here.

When momentum is lost like this, it's almost (but not quite) impossible to rekindle it. Personally I wouldn't catch a lot of feelings for a girl who just wants to get pounded.

She might seem to have it together on the surface, but methinks there be dragons.

 

[metoo]

Kee rist, you mean you walk around unarmed?

 

[Korrupt]

Yep, it's a no go.

ME: Hey *name*! It's been hectic lately, but I'm taking you out this week. Which nights are you free?

HER: Hahahah oh? I'm not sure actually (what's with the "hahaha?")

I then sent something about how "we should" go to dinner tomorrow or Tuesday night and she hasn't responded yet. Seriously, why even bother responding the first time?