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While you hate that movie as it's trumpeted around the boards and many PUA sites, tell me what you see when you go out...anywhere. Clubs, bars, courses.
Recognition. You recognize style and clothing accordingly. Maybe not you specifically, but if some girl is wearing all black and lots of piercing, she's "goth." And if some dude is wearing burberry and has on a pink button-up, he's "metrosexual." And if some dude is wearing a skull cap and tims he's a "thug."
The clothing is worn by people many want to empathize with deep down. 50 cent, Eminem, Sean John, and even female singers looked up to by little girls are now being produced.
Is it that far-fetched?
Hollywood, like any big business, puts out what makes money. That's all. It's not pure capitalism, but all that is surrounding us is what makes money, not necessarily what is the best product. You'd have a better position of society were so fluid, with no grey areas, and met the ideals for which it could stand for.
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Positions like your's, my friend, are why violence and sex on tv has steadily become the norm, rather than just a "choice." It doesn't program people, but it does make it more "socially acceptable", so when it is seen in magazines, on tv, in movies, on billboards, and advertisements @ schools, or anything related to it, people think "gee...that's ok."
8 or 9 o'clock, most tv is sex or violence, and what was once family, is now inclusive of sex as well. The topics might be wrapped in tough lingo, but the appearance is all there.
Hot Properties.
Desperate Housewives.
Sex and the City.
The question I ask is Why?
Why gay? Why not gay?
Why heterosexual? Why not heterosexual?
Why is it ok for schools to ENLIGHTEN kids to homosexuality, but NOT heterosexuality?
Kids haven't displayed nor experienced their sexuality, yet they're shown homosexuality first? They're taught tolerance of homosexuality, but not heterosexuality? Is the display of homosexuality not a reverse attack on heterosexuality?
All the guys on these boards, collectively, have more experience with women than does hollywood, or will ever have. If we know the reality from a man's standpoint, why isn't it portrayed? I venture at some point, between all the boards of DJ, PUA, pimphop, etc, we could create a fascinating movie and perspective on women that might zero on the REALITY rather than the HYPE.
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I 100% agree with the lack of societal responsibility, but somewhere in there people confused it all and became helpless. Between social welfare programs, minimum wages, forced schooling, and how family's raise kids, people just started forking responsibility and choice to someone else.
The real deal here is...no conspiracy exists, because people get what they want. They HAVE choice. They don't use it. And CHOOSE not to USE it.
People will evolve in the time they choose to. Darwin was right, life is evolution, but not physical, it's spiritual. Guys here don't necessarily want women. I can't say what they want, but if they did, it's easy as...
1. Setting one's goal.
2. Setting one's mind to it.
3. And doing it.
It really is. All the other stuff is crap. It's filler. I don't get mad at people for what they are. To me, that just is egotistical as to believe LIFE SHOULD BE PERFECT AND IDEAL and NO POVERTY and EVERYBODY gets laid and EVERYBODY has the best body and all the other crap you see on TV. Frankly, it isn't that way. Life isn't that way.
Guys here even get pissed about HOW the boards are, and HOW nobody is progressing, or posting Field Reports, or offers constructive criticism. Quite honestly, that's because NOBODY WANTS to. They don't want to. That's it. Until someone experiences pure PAIN and the lowest part, you can't truly enjoy the sweetness life offers on the other side.
It reminds me of SAW...in which people wallow in useless lives, in quiet desperation, desiring nothing, hoping not to be noticed, and getting away with it. Again, a movie, but it's true.
And only when you have bills up the arse can you suffer to succeed. THAT's the problem with society. I socialize with an older crowd, basically 40+, and they mostly grew up with less. Parents didn't pay for their college educations, or use credit cards near as much, nor did they have our technology or internet. So they had less. And if they worked for it, they got it. Kids had less so they had to DEVELOP skills and PERSONAL Traits to survive or sink. That was it.
At one point I'd moved out on my own, bills mounted and I was 3 months late with little to no cash. It was a low point b/c I'd burned alot of dough on things I shouldn't have. You can get by in life if no problems or catastrophies happen. If nothing rocks your world and you remain in a supreme comfort zone. But you'll never grow or experience the sweet either. Because the sweet exists with the sour, where some pain hides. Where you're learning to walk or ride and skinned knees are.
Guys here have not suffered enough. Just ENOUGH is ok in their lives NOT to change DRASTICALLY. Maybe they have lots of good friends, or like video games, or have money, or live @ home, or have the comfort of college. Whatever, but as long as you have that, you won't be motivated to change, because you have that. Until you lose it all, or realize YOU DO NOT OWN IT and IT WILL LEAVE, nothing and nobody will be motivated, because that's comfort.
If you KNEW that NOT talking to girls and just HAVING fun with them was required, or you WOULD never have kids or sex again, and your time table was 1 year, WOULD YOU DO IT?
Of course, some would, some wouldn't.
It's that simple.
That time of going broke was the best thing, because you never want that to happen, you know how it happens, and you know how to avoid it, so in response you develop SKILLS and TRAITS to survive and go beyond that. It's the same with women.
But as long as society offers safety nets, nobody will reach their full potential. Even Warren Buffett never handed his kids anything, because he wanted them to learn for themselves. That sort of wealth corrupts and PREVENTS growth.
Why do people think most lottery winners go broke after 5 or 10 years? Not only because their comfort zone for wealth is very minimal, but also because their personal skills are minimal. They've operate in a zone of comfort never to change. Yet, the pains suffered in life are the best lessons. They harden a person's skin, give you battle scars to brag about, and most guys want to avoid them. ARE YOU NUTS?
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EVEN IF society could program people, and to some extent they do, because FEW people operate with CHOICE and FREEDOM. If they did, they'd fire most politicians and take REAL control. But they don't. It's given up to others. Once we ditched the farming and self-reliance mentality, most people became the sheep to the shepard. Corporations, the government, their family, their needs, their emotions. Whatever.
So while I dislike the fact only one side is portrayed, and generally the heterosexual side is portrayed WRONG, people use little to no choice in life. And most don't want to change. It's evolution of a spiritual kind and people have to learn it on their own. It can't be taught or forced.
A-Unit
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