I grab my girl's hand and she grabs mine all the time. However, she is forbidden in manly places like hardware stores and such. She starts to grab it and then remembers and says, "Oh, not here" LOL.
She fully accepts that and even likes it. Other than that, we are frequently holding hands.
A situational awareness and respect that many women do not have. The emotional aspect is usually the primary driver blocking common sense with so many…
The confidence and ability to temporarily relinquish her self perceived emotional control and physical attachment to her man is what helps make a unicorn.
This is great and so true. I think it takes some self awareness, maturity and confidence to understand this. Women need to let their men be men.
One of my guys loves when i am super affectionate with him and run my fingers through his hair and hold his hand. But there’s a time and place for that. i think many women do those things as a sign of ownership over their man or to show they are dominant. Something like that.
I would never do those things when we were on a motorcycle ride with the boys or anywhere where he is supposed to be leading me. It’s not sexist to me, it’s like you said, situational awareness. On the bike he’ll reach back and rub my leg for a few seconds to show affection and love and i will place my hand on his bicep as he doee that. But it’s unspoken that i wouldn’t initiate those acts out with the guys.
This might be too cheesy for a men’s forum, but this thread reminded me of this passage from Gibran (about marriage):
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.
