HMM good looking guy seem to be ignored by all women

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I don't get it, I know im better looking than most guys (no ****y).
However, all women except for completely butt ugly ones ignore me.
Is this normal?

Any other good looking guys have the same problem?
Sometimes I wish I was ugly so I don't think to myself that I can do better.
 

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Keep your chin up man! If you really are more better looking than most guys, then it must be your game/conversation skills, and those are much easier to fix than genetics :D
 

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kentgraham10 said:
Keep your chin up man! If you really are more better looking than most guys, then it must be your game/conversation skills, and those are much easier to fix than genetics :D

i dont understand why im getting ignored by even average looking chicks, and why do ugly chicks who are no where near my level think they can get with me?


by ugly i dont mean 4-5, I mean a 1-2. Acne, messed up face, fat, no style. the bottom of the barrel, only those chicks want me.
 

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gspshields2 said:
i dont understand why im getting ignored by even average looking chicks, and why do ugly chicks who are no where near my level think they can get with me?


by ugly i dont mean 4-5, I mean a 1-2. Acne, messed up face, fat, no style. the bottom of the barrel, only those chicks want me.
LOL bottom of the barrel, Seriously, they arent ignoring you, they are probably checking you out in the corner of their eye. I love catching girls checking me out and when i make eye contact, i catch them before they can look away. Dont worry about it.
 

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I think extremely good looking guys normally don't have this problem. In fact, once you're extremely good looking, you are too intimidating for most fat/nasty women to even think of hitting on you. Pook had a post about his experience going from average looking Joe to jacked/cut model body, and hsi experience is far different from what you're describing.

In what context are you being ignored? When walking by them on the street? Hot women (and many extremely hot guys) ignore all people when walking down the street, because they're usually getting stared at.
 

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Hey bro I have the exact same problem it anooys me so much.
Is there any certain place where this happens to you, becasue this happens at the clubs for me mostly but there is reasons for this.
Regarding the 1-2 chicks I think they can sense a small amount of insecurity that would be in place when you are being ignored. So the HB's will definatley pick up on this and ignore you even more. At some point we have to not worry about chicks not approaching us and take it into our own hands after all we are the men. But if you are actually an interesting guy you should have no trouble entertaining a lady after opening her and she will be surprised. If not then she has just sensed that you were boring looking in the first place and her freind will whisk her off to the bathroom. Not dissing you or anything but I have the same problem and I am prbly not very interesting myself.
That is why im here afterall. But for now try to act a bit more securly and cool as them don't check them out to hard, give them a wtf are you looking at who are you look not a creepy one just a ****y look like you are better tha them. Can't say this will help but it might make you feel better. Never think you are below them ever.!!!!
 

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To put it simply.. I think the better looking girls are intimidated by you. But at the same time, you are still intimidated by them. You probably cling to what feels comfortable and may just simply be too nice. How do you treat these lesser looking girls? Like scum? Or do you actually greet them back or let them even into your circle or let them even talk to you in conversation? Even if it's simply a hello, fat/ugly girls suddenly think they have a chance with you. After that, you will always catch them looking at you. Trust me. I've had it happen to me as well. You don't need to be mean/rude to the uglies (unless you want to) but you definitely need to stop being so timid around the hotter ones. Which I can tell you are, whether you want to admit it to yourself or not. Otherwise you wouldn't be posting this. By asking this question you are already putting them on a pedastool above you. You feel you should be getting them, but you're not. Sadly, I think the problem is you are surrounding yourself with people who are bringing you down. Remember, woman are superficial like that. If you feel like you standards are high, then you need to start acting like it. Try approaching one of these girls. Once you get seen with one, then others will flock to you. It will be a snowball effect. Kinda the same way you got seen with an ugly, and then a mass of them followed.

-Scars
 

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A couple of things have to be mentioned

1. Unless you're famous women are not going to make a move on you no matter how good looking you are: Remember that women have fragile egos + they have dozens of orbiters waiting to pounce. A woman doesn't have to work for it so for a woman to make a move on you she must really like you. If you're good looking and can't get women it's not their fault IT'S STILL YOUR FAULT! Until you become a rockstar with a hit single and are all over tv you will still have to work to get women.

2. You probably aren't as good looking as you think you are: Women have different tastes and there's different types of good looking guys. Are you the rugged looking type? Are you the pretty boy looking type? Do you have a young looking face? Rugged/Masculine face?

Myself personally I have a pretty boy face. I get looks from women but with other women I strike out due to my young looking face.

So while I get looks and smiles from some women other women ignore me completely (the type that look more for a bad boy/rugged looking type). It's not a universal thing. Women have different tastes and what is attractive to some may not be to others.
 

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Probably not all that good looking at all. Post age, height, weight. Pretty looking face can only take you this far.
 

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Deadly_Ripped said:
Pook had a post about his experience going from average looking Joe to jacked/cut model body, and hsi experience is far different from what you're describing.
The more I think about that post, the more I think Pook just totally made that stuff up. It all worked out a little too neatly and linearly to be reality (all that "I gained 10 more pounds, now the 6s ignore me but I'm getting attention from the 7s" or whatever it is he says").

Anyway, I work with a lot of people, and the fat aggressive women hit on all the best looking guys. It gets them nowhere, but they get some attention even in the rejection, I guess.
 

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You probably don´t know this, but many women feel they have to be better looking than their boyfriends. And many hate hot guys.... Specially after 20´s when most start getting fat, they are jealous of people who get in shape.
You guys live in another planet when talking about HB´s....most people in the world are ugly, and most people are getting laid (hence a 6 billion population worldwide). So being good looking can bad...

About Pook, the guy had some decent advice, but stop following as if he were Jesus/Mohammed or another profet. He had some theories on women that made sense, but he probably didn´t pull many. No guy who is very good with women is on an internet forum... And remember that he can make the stories he wants.

The biggest obstacle to having girls, is not having many friends/social circle/parties... So you could be Brad Pit you would have problems...That´s the problem with most people here, who are probably somewhat lonely. Cold approaches only make you look like a creep....
 

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JdelaSilviera said:
You probably don´t know this, but many women feel they have to be better looking than their boyfriends.
This is an interesting theory. Never heard that before but I guess anything is possible.
 

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I'm 5'11" 200 pounds of muscle, a six pack, ripped. But it doesn't seem to matter. When I look around I always see guys that are uglier than me, dont take care of themselves, don't have a good body, etc, and I always wonder If I can't get girls then what about these guys?
 

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Reinforcing what f283000 said, to all the truly good looking guys. You're not women so you can't expect to stand around minding your own business & have hotties approach you. You are still have to initiate, just the way it is, usually the best a girl will do for you is make it easy.

I think a lot of guys here are just afraid to take the risk of actually talking to girls they're attracted to. Good looks for men is akin to having access to a lambo or ferrari in a race. You see while your chances of winning increase(sometimes by a lot), you're not going to accomplish anything if you don't put your foot on the gas.

So stop turtling & start rushing down.
 

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It depends on where I am. If I;m out at a club or bar, girls are typically more aggressive and won't ignore me. I'll get a lot of eye contact and a few girls approaching me.

If I'm out and about during the day, I'll get some girls completely ignore me walking down the street. But the girls working in stores are usually very responsive. In clothing stores they'll approach me to help and we'll spend the time flirting. In coffee shops and fast food place I get offered free food/drinks. Usually the girls are extremely shy/nervous in the beginning. They go red in the face, stumble over what they're doing and sometimes forget my order. I'll flirt with them and end up with free stuff.

You need to ignore the negative reactions. After going through some serious transformations myself, I can put myself in their shoes pretty well. Some girls can be very insecure from past experiences and when a good looking guy is around they get pretty bitter. They automatically assume you're a **** and will reject them. Sort of a female-AFC. Other girls aren't interested in other guys because they have a great thing going on. And most hot girls get approached so often they're exhausted. They just want to be able to go through their day without *******s coming up to them. Whatever the reasons, you need to ignore it and just enjoy the ones who respond positively.
 

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Agree with F283000 and Kirro - girls instead will come near you and/or check you out without you realising, you have to cross the gap. On a dancefloor, I get a few coming towards me, but then turning their back - just don't look at that logically or you will think she isn't bothered - instead dance behind her and catch her eye, if she stays, game on! She will walk away if she isn't actually interested, a good sign of actions speaking louder than words.
 

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gspshields2 said:
I'm 5'11" 200 pounds of muscle, a six pack, ripped. But it doesn't seem to matter. When I look around I always see guys that are uglier than me, dont take care of themselves, don't have a good body, etc, and I always wonder If I can't get girls then what about these guys?

waah waaaah I'm good looking I can't get hot chicks waaah waaah waaah

Ok guys here is the deal, first of just because your good looking doesn't mean women are gonna get on their knees and suck your ****s. I've met some of you guys on this site in person and the reason why your not succeeding (from the guys i've met) isn't cause of your looks its cause of your negative mindset and lack of inner game. The way some of you guys talk to women or how you carry yourself shows lack of confidence

I'm a fatguy now, but and I could complain all day about HB's flaking on me, not picking up my calls and what not. But you know what? I'm in the gym I'm working out and I'm being positive as can be because I know that working on myself, not just outwardly but my confidence as well will translate into success it has before and I know it will again!

If I had a 6pack guaranteed I wouldn't be on this site I'd be to busy fuccing
 

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JdelaSilviera said:
The biggest obstacle to having girls, is not having many friends/social circle/parties... So you could be Brad Pit you would have problems...That´s the problem with most people here, who are probably somewhat lonely. Cold approaches only make you look like a creep....
^This is actually HUGE. I've gotten compliments all over the place about being good looking and having a sexy body, plus I'm tall, well groomed AND have a good personality (after some inner game work), but I've NEVER had a solid, consistent and good social circle. I literally almost never go out to bars, clubs or parties. I bet if I had a big group of friends who gave me access to women and parties that I'd be getting laid constantly. But I don't! So I'm not! If you really want to get a lot of p*ssy you either need to be so charismatic that you can go out to bars alone and make friends and pickup women, or you need a good social circle.
 

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Korrupt said:
^This is actually HUGE. I've gotten compliments all over the place about being good looking and having a sexy body, plus I'm tall, well groomed AND have a good personality (after some inner game work), but I've NEVER had a solid, consistent and good social circle. I literally almost never go out to bars, clubs or parties. I bet if I had a big group of friends who gave me access to women and parties that I'd be getting laid constantly. But I don't! So I'm not! If you really want to get a lot of p*ssy you either need to be so charismatic that you can go out to bars alone and make friends and pickup women, or you need a good social circle.

Thanks, you put things into some good perspective. Definately if you cold approach, it doesn't matter how good looking you are, how buff whatever, you look like a creeper. Now, the problem is I work with nerds all day and I'm in a profession thats male dominated, mostly by nerds that have no access to hot chicks, only their social circles are further nerds. How do I break into the cool social circles? I don't know anyone. I go to clubs usually with 1 or 2 people, not really a big social circle, just a bunch of fellow losers i guess? lol
 

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zekko said:
The more I think about that post, the more I think Pook just totally made that stuff up. It all worked out a little too neatly and linearly to be reality (all that "I gained 10 more pounds, now the 6s ignore me but I'm getting attention from the 7s" or whatever it is he says").

Anyway, I work with a lot of people, and the fat aggressive women hit on all the best looking guys. It gets them nowhere, but they get some attention even in the rejection, I guess.
My thoughts exactly. Somehow, I doubt there is any linear correlation between an imaginary "HB rating scale" and body weight. I think the premise of the post is correct (girls like muscle), but at a certain point the returns are diminished. Not to mention, if you're on the shorter side with a small frame, too much muscle will make you look a bit silly.

As for the OP- being good looking just means that sets with very attractive women will open easier. You STILL need to be interesting to hook the set! Nothing is more disappointing to a girl than when a good looking guy has poor social skills.

As far as "average" women are concerned, your looks won't give you that much of an advantage. Good looking guys are often "overqualified" for regular girls, especially if they give off "player" vibes. You MUST aim high if you're good looking!

So, basically, your "problem" boils down to this: The demographic that will yield the MOST success for you is hot women in their early 20's, but instead, you've forsaken them for average looking women. Sounds like a pretty good problem to have..
 
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