hittin the club/bar solo

[njitalstalian]

i just relocated to N. Jersey a couple of months ago and just now i started to check out the social scene and night life around here...(it was a b!@# settling in) anyone who has relocated can admit.

anyways, i dont know to many people in the area so i decided to hit up this club/bar on my own to see what it was like...

when i first got there:

i never went to a club/bar by myself before so at first i felt nervous as hell for some reason. after a while i settled in a little and took in the environment... pretty chill, lots of hot women so there was a lot to pick from...

after i was there for a while:

the nervousness finally went away and something just dawned on me... HOLY S!@%!!!! i did it! i finally overcame my fear of going out on my own and scopin out a new place with tons of chicks....

i didnt get any numbers cuz i still think my nervousness still had an edge on me.....

any suggestions??

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Conquer it in smaller pieces. You've already taken care of the first piece by going alone. The next step is just to meet a handful or women, 5 or so.

Just meet them, chat, flirt, dance, whatever. Just make sure to have a conversation with them but DO NOT focus on closing. Your objective is to just have a couple minute conversation with each one.

Once you become comfortable with walking up to women and having a chat with a few women, increase the number by challenging yourself to chat with as many women in an hour that you can. Again, do not focus on closing, just meeting them. Do you think that you could talk to 10, 20, 30?

By this time you should be able to put your true DJ skills into play. You should be comfortable meeting women and chatting with them. The biggest thing is that you should be able to end the conversation if you aren't feeling a high IL and move on to another.

As you begin qualifying the women, your numbers should go down since you shouldn't be wasting time on women with low ILs. You will meet more qualified women and look like a DJ as you mingle and talk with practically every woman in the place!

 

[Knicknack]

i've chilled at clubs solo waiting on friends who never showed. bastards. i made the most of it though. one time i even got a ONS. the other time i just found some AFCs and started chillin with them. just tell them you are waiting on friends to show up and start chattin with them. then it looks like you have a group and you can start pickin up women. invite one of your new friends along if they seem like they could assist you.

 

[njitalstalian]

fransico,

your right bro, i think i need to take one step at a time.. im notorious for setting my goals a little to high sometimes and forget about taking the necessary "baby steps"

i appreciate the tip...

anyone else that has been in this situation before, i would appreciate your input... thanks fellaz!!

 

[mrbreeze]

I don't understand why you would need anyone with you. Of course I drove trucks coast to coast for a long while and you either went into places alone or ya didn't go.

Just walk in like your Clint Freakin Eastwood, He sure don't need no stinkin' wing...lol. Probably just have ta shoot him.

 

[mrbreeze]

You know… this could be a great opportunity in disguise…

Women love the new guy, and this is you chance to be that guy… In what ever form you chose.

Seek out places where people go as regulars, smaller places would be best, and multiple smaller places at that.

That way you won’t be predictable.

Be friendly and tip the bartenders, that way you will have someone that knows your name everywhere you go.
Oh, and remember their names also.

If you find you still need someone to run with you will find them in these places too.

 

[Eyecandie4ya]

Like Francisco states, you need to become social first to get over the "new club barrier".

If your seeking wingmen, then I suggest that you check and see what fella(s) are DJ that way you can have someone on your team for the females.

If you can't find a wingman, then you will have to hold the fort down yourself. For me I don't chat with no more than 3 females who are together, but if you can handle it, then go for it.

 

[njitalstalian]

im definitely tryin this sh!t out this weekend...

i think im gunna have to hold it down solo for a while cuz when i went out last weekend i can tell the place was infested with Co%$blockers...

when i did land conversation with this HB8, i saw a couple dudes lookin at me like... "whos this guy"

that didnt bother me at all....im sociable as a muthaf#%$...and no dude is gunna stop me from pimpin...(unless its the b/f)... i just got to get over the initial anxiety of living on my own and hittin up a brand new spot....

 

[MVPlaya]

Here's an idea, go to the wingman section and say you need a wingman for the Seattle/N.J. area or wherever the hell you are, someone might reply.