$hit Test?

[Stugots26]

June: Tell her to get back to me when she's single bc there's an ex in the picture, and I'm not playing that game.

July: Added her on Facebook. I realize that was a mistake. Didn't say anything. Didn't cancel the friend request. Just left it.

A few days later she reaches out. She wants to meet up. Tell her I can't talk, last ten days of bar exam prep but I'll get back to her when the exam's over. I do get back to her after the exam, but she won't meet up, and said that she'd wanted to meet up just to tell me stuff with the ex was still going on. I told her again to get back to me only when she was absolutely sure she was done, and that I deserved a woman who wasn't held back by anything in her past, ready to be all about exploring things with me. She said she'd reach out if things changed. That was July 31.

Fast forward to this past Sunday. She finally adds me on Facebook. I see the ex gushing on Facebook all over her wall. She's obviously not ended it. I haven't reacted at all to her adding me. Haven't said anything, I'm not even following her on my News Feed. Why the hell would she add me when I specifically told her I won't get involved at all when she's still got him in the picture? Is this a $hit test?

I've only gotten stronger in the interim. I know I know I know I should NOT have added her, but now you couldn't get me to say a word to her other than responding to her reaching out by saying "Are you single?"

 

[Albatross953]

No sir, to be a **** test she has to be trying to qualify you. You have no skin, and will never have any skin in this game.

Eject goose, eject.

Find another women. Yes plural.

 

[Stugots26]

Failed to mention that we fvcked in May.

 

[Albatross953]

Doesn't change anything. If she didn't branch swing after that, I like your odds even less.

Plus now she's low class.

 

[Stugots26]

Okay, but then why finally add me on Fb? Why bother? The other dude knows who I am and knows we've slept together and stuck around anyway. She's told me a while back that he had proposed to her, she said no, and he stuck around.

Hey, I'm enjoying myself, man. I'm out there fvcking other women and living my life. But perhaps you can see how I'm just sort of anticipating that one day she'll get tired of his beta supplication and willingness to tolerate her bull$hit and next him. Me? I walked away.

I'm just wondering what the point of adding me is if he's going to see that she did it?

 

[Albatross953]

Why not add you? She gets whatever drama, attention, status from you....and when her boyfriend sees it.

Yeah, hang around and you might get laid. But you WILL get strung along.

Glad to hear you have options.

 

[Stugots26]

Fair point. However, the way I've set myself up now, I'm not caving. It's on my terms. I will not interact with her until she's ended it with him. I will not be strung along.

She can watch me enjoy my life, date women, get sworn in as an attorney (which is the career she wants too), publish, generally lead an amazing life of abundance, and she's stuck with her entry-level man-child puppy, who's willing to change if she'll give him just one more chance. Time is on my side. But I'm NOT giving in to any bull$hit because I've now seen what lengths women will go to when they're crazy for you.

 

[Krueg]

Low Interest, move on!

 

[Stugots26]

Low interest right now. Can parlay it in the future with minimal effort, just by doing my own thing and enjoying life. That's how I got the lay to begin with.

It's not like I'm hurting for other women. Two dates tomorrow. Date Sunday with a third. Next weekend a fourth woman is flying me out to see her in another city to fvck like rabbits for Labor Day weekend. Not to mention the plates I'm still lining up.

 

[Igetit!]

It's not like I'm hurting for other women. Two dates tomorrow. Date Sunday with a third. Next weekend a fourth woman is flying me out to see her in another city to fvck like rabbits for Labor Day weekend. Not to mention the plates I'm still lining up.

Umm,may I ask a question?

Ok,you got two dates lined up for tomorrow...
A date scheduled for Sunday...
yet ANOTHER woman flying out to see you for Labor DAY...


plus you have other plates you're in the process of lining up....


So at the minimum,that's what......8,maybe 9 other women WHO HAVE INTEREST that you're working on,right? Ok,well WHY are you so hung up this ONE CHICK who keeps giving you the run-a-round?

You said June....July.....then you mentioned this past Sunday. Two and a half,going on 3 months you've been trying to nail this chick down...


May I ask why? What do you want with the chick? You already said you slept with her,what else do you want....to sleep with her a second time? A RELATIONSHIP?


Just don't understand why with all these other women you have on your plate,why waste even an ounce of your time on one who's been running round playing games for the past 2+ months.

Low interest right now. Can parlay it in the future with minimal effort, just by doing my own thing and enjoying life.

I honestly don't see why you even give a damn. What,is she a "10" or something? Was she the best sex you ever had?


What's the pull she has that has you still seeking after her?

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Tell her I can't talk, last ten days of bar exam prep but I'll get back to her when the exam's over.

First part good , second part bad . Lose/Lose situation. You call her in 10 days when you said you were going to call her then you're a beta chump, you don't call her....well....no date. Though, you make a mistake like this, best idea is to wait a few days longer to get her hamster going a little bit. General rule you should never tell a woman when you are going to call them. Let it be a nice surprise when you do call them: "OMG, he's calling! He must have 10 minutes free from his busy schedule of running things and fending off super model women, I'm so lucky he's calling ME! Yay!"

and said that she'd wanted to meet up just to tell me stuff with the ex was still going on.

Well....that's a stone cold lie. She seemed to be covering her tracks here.

I told her again to get back to me only when she was absolutely sure she was done

By continually telling her that you'll see her when SHE is available, you are coming across as having no other options, as well as not wanting any other options.

Who's leading who here. Would an Alpha WAIT for her to break up with her boyfriend. No, she thinks she has you on a leash, on stand by, WAITING for her. There's no sense of urgency, what attraction she had for you was fizzeling because you were going on her terms, letting her lead the way.

The whole Facebook thing. Yeah, you're right, big mis-step. Not sure if you should delete or not, or just not give a fvck, but either way...don't contact her through FB, or comment/like anything. If she tries to IM you, ignore.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

So this chick is bored with her guy, she f*cks you and then drops you to go back to ride her bf and you want her back?? DUDE?

Drop the ONETIS for this wh*re she could careless about you, her chump bf put up with her slutty behavior because he has no spine or options. She will
s*ck the life out of him until better options come around.

 

[Stugots26]

Thank you for continuing to post in my absence. I've been having fun with other plates. In response to the last couple posts in this thread... she's going to take whatever time she's going to take anyway. A month ago I laid out my standard for how I expect to be treated - my terms - and now that I know how amazing it can be when they're so captivated they'll do anything to win you over, I'll never settle for anything less.

Why am I still interested? She's a hot, young piece of a$$ and I like hot, young pu$$y, I mean after all, I'm 34 and she's 23. But I can take it or leave it unless my terms are met.

So I'm letting the cat roam the neighborhood while it wants. When its curious, it'll come back around. She has shown the pattern that she will reach out when she hasn't heard from me. Who knows how fast the hamster is spinning?

But in reality, that's the only play I've got right now, of course, and it works to my advantage given my schedule. She accepted the FB invite when she did because I was congruent with my words and I wasn't pursuing her. That was the first inkling that the cat was getting curious - and there are subtle cues on fb that all is not well in her world or relationship. I'm not following her, I'm not liking her posts, commenting, messaging, anything. Just letting it be and living my life - and letting the chump BF continue to pursue her. I want him to totally compromise himself and deflate any attraction and tension, because when she gets in touch, EVEN IF thinking she has me on some leash, that's when she's going to find out how much has changed in the interim. In this case it's all about the cat coming back on its own when it's ready in its FANTASY I'm-in-control mindset, and meanwhile...

I'm holding the REALITY sledgehammer behind my back.

Thank you for all your advice. It has not been lost on me. By comparison, her treatment and lukewarm interest has not gone unnoticed, and when she comes back around I'll be far more reticent and it'll be up to her to convince me to let her out of the friendzone. I promise myself that. And with that I've got to go get some more ice for my crotch after this wonderful wonderful weekend romp...

Good luck to you all!

 

[Tictac]

Not everything is a sh*t test.

Sometimes it's just people being stupid.

 

[El Payaso]

No. It is not a sh!t test. It is you having no options.

 

[Stugots26]

It's me having no options? Laughable. Try again.

 

[GS750]

If she's off to you, then you're off to her. Just keep your attention withdrawn. Sounds to me like you've done a good job of this. Just have to be patient and see if she contacts you. In the meantime you have other options. Pursuing would not do any good at this point, which you already know.